Acne sufferers are normal people and I have acne as well, but some of their behaviours really tick me off.
1) Stop staring at the skin of other acne sufferers. My thoughts when I caught other acne sufferers staring at me: "Yes, I know that I have acne and I know that you have acne. Yes, I know my acne riddled skin reminds you of your own skin. Stop looking at my skin and stop comparing my skin with your skin."
2) Stop looking away when talking to other acne sufferers. This has actually to do with point 1, especially the part "The acne of someone else reminds you of your own acne". My thoughts about this: "I want you to look me in the eyes when we speak to each other. Yes, I know that you hate acne and that you find it ugly. Yes, I know it is difficult for you to do that because you are obsessed with your skin and my skin. But please try to look me in the eyes so that we can have a normal and nice conversation."
3) Stop "excluding" other acne sufferers in a group. This has also to do with point 2. It usually happens when there is a mixed group with clear skin people and acne people. When a acne person is talking, then that person is looking exclusively at the clear skin people. That person is avoiding looking at other acne sufferers, because the acne of other sufferers are "reminding" them about their own "terrible" state of their skin and they might "hate" other acne sufferers because of the acne.
Now, I know that these behaviours may be done unconsciously, but I find these behaviours to be very rude, maybe even downright asocial and discriminating. I have the tendency to behave like that as well, but I know that other people may not like it when I, for example, look at their skin (and I don't like that as well) so I make a conscious effort to look them in the eyes when I am talking to them.
I have that tendency and I know that (a lot of) you have that tendency as well. We are obsessed with "flawed" skin and we are constantly looking at our own skin and that of others. It is "ingrained" in our brain that we have to look at the skin.
I talk to clear skin people and I talk to acne sufferers, but I notice a difference at how I am being treated. Clear skin people are always looking at me in the eyes when I am talking to them and acne sufferers don't do that.
We should all stop with the obsession (including myself), because some really nasty behaviours are coming forth from that.
What are your thoughts on this?
Edited by AlexanderJ86, 08 July 2013 - 02:34 PM.