just curious which dating site do you use?
I use okcupid because it also has the questions feature. What site were you using? Most guys on match.com and other paying sites also have an okcupid or plentyoffish profile so I figured I would go for a free site instead of wasting $ on a paid site.
i agree with randall ive tried dating sites for years with no luck ...
i actually did get a date once with a 23 yo when i was 34 i'm 36 now ...anyway i shoulda known better but she was college educated ...i have a southern accent i'm just a construction worker ...anyway she threw me under the bus after the date saying she'd never do that again and when i speak i sound like a idiot ...its really horrible for someone like me who allready has a complex to try online dating ...to me there is a reason i'm single at 36 never married ...so why fight it ...i'm trying to reach a level of happiness alone so i'll never need someone ...a partner can not bring you happiness anyway we have to achieve that on our own ,,,btw i've been in some horrible relationships when younger where i got used for thousands of dollars cheated on told i was old and ugly ....relationships just aren't worth it
I agree! I am super happy being single. I am 26 and I will probably be single for so long.
I am perfectly happy being single and independent...the main thing I was looking for on the dating site was friends, and I even said so on my profile, because I just moved to a new city and hardly know anyone here. I'm not the type of person who needs companionship 24/7, but I wanted to see what's out there. So far I'm not impressed!
I did try online dating for a while last year, but now I really regret doing so – it might not be the best idea for someone who’s insecure to start with.
Many of my friends were encouraging me to try it at the time – as usual, they were trying to lift my self-esteem by saying that women would ‘snap me up’ straightaway, that I would be a great catch for someone, blah blah blah. I thought that getting out there on dates, meeting new people, would be a step in the right direction for my confidence. But my actual experiences were very different, I faced a lot of rejection and started to seriously doubt/loathe myself. Now my self-esteem is on the floor, worse than it was before, and I’ve more or less given up on the whole notion of dating or ever meeting anyone.
On the other hand, as some others have mentioned, online dating is usually very different for men and women. Yes, I do hear a lot of women saying they get creepy messages – so you’ll need to do some filtering – but I know at least four girls who met their partners via an internet site. Also, I think people tend to have better experiences with sites you pay for, rather than the free ones.
Sorry that you guys had such negative experiences. A lot of women on those sites are snobs and have impossibly high standards, almost acting like they are too good for dating sites. As for paying sites, I found that most guys have an okcupid/ plentyoffish profile even when they are on paying sites so I figured I would try the free site first. I would feel bad spending money and then not meeting anyone decent. At least if it's free I can say that I only wasted time, not money
With dating, luck has a lot to do with it. I know people who met their partners at the grocery store, on the street, in college, etc...and some people who have been on dating sites for years actively seeking dates with no success. You just never know
Edited by WishClean, 07 July 2013 - 10:11 AM.