Lately I have been really struggling with my skin, it is very sensitive and irritated and that is clearly visible, the actual skin problem aside- I have been trying to deal with all of the issues that my skin problems bring me. The stress, the anxiety and the grief but if your in a similar position right now whether it's related to Acne or other skin issues, here are some thoughts and perspectives that might help:
.If your worried that you look bad, try just saying to yourself- Ok, I believe I don't look too good right now but I'm going to deal with it rather than constantly checking the mirror trying to make up my mind" you won't look bad forever.
.Avoid constant mirror checking, decide when the right time is, don't do it before leaving the house or when your out in public. Try just checking how it looks once a day but don't rush to the mirror when you get out of bed, try doing some other things first to build yourself up.
.Just forget about what other people are thinking, it's your problem and you are dealing with it to the best of your ability, there judgement won't change your skin and they don't know your story and if they did, they would be thinking a completely different thing.
Understand that you have to deal with it for a while, just accept that it may not be as temporary as you think but if you take it one step at a time, you can always cope.
.Remember there are so many other aspects of life that have nothing to do with your skin, try not to attribute your skin to your over all existence as a person.
.Don't take life so seriously, try saying in your head: "ok, I'm having some skin issues right now but I need to relax and be patient and try to have a good time in the mean while"
.Keep a Journal, not only will it help you track the treatment of your skin but it will let you release all of the feelings and it will allow you to trace your emotions and find out what causes stress. At first this may seem tedious but just give a try, sometimes you won't feel like writing and that's ok but sometimes there's nothing better. I can't imagine skipping it on some nights because my thoughts will keep interrupting me while I'm doing other things.
If at all possible, just focus on other things. If you find your mind keeps focusing on your skin, just get your phone and browse the web or play a game, think about only 20% of your day and spend the other %80 focused on other things.
.Bad times don't last, neither do good so just remember that you will go through phases, your skin will get better and then worse countless amounts of times, if you can control yourself in both situations you will cope well.
.Make up a cool story, this works well when your skin problem kind of looks like an injury or cut of some sort, say you got into a fight or had an accident but only use this story if somebody asks you about your skin. People might talk about you as the guy/girl who survived a deadly fight rather than someone with skin issues, if they have the nerve to bother you like that, you might as well use it to your benefit.
.Never set deadlines, just don't do it- your problem will go away when it goes away, just try to cope in the mean time and you will learn something about yourself and grow as a person. The times you can just relax amongst all of the bad emotions can be really enjoyable.
.You don't know what other people are thinking- even if you think you are sure of it you just don't know. Some people may not care about your skin issues, some may feel sorry for you, some may judge you and some may just understand. It's best to just not make assumptions.
Don't think to yourself that you have no right to judge other people just because of your skin issues- you may have your own opnion on whether or not it is right to judge people on how they look but don't tell yourself you have to stop because your are too imperfect yourself, we all judge each other and so we all cancel each other out and therefore it's really just a meaningless instinct of the human mind.
Have your time out- try to make a specific time when you can just forget about everything and enjoy yourself, try watching a movie in your favourite place by yourself in the dark, in this time remember that nobody can see your skin and nobody is judging you and that you are doing everything you can to fix the issue but right now, you don't need to think about it.
.Clear skin is not everything, the only reason you want clear skin is for your own emotional stability. If you could press a button and hide all of your skin flaws, you would have a different view on the issue. Most people want clear skin because:
.they want to be pleased with the way appear/ want to look their best
.concern Acne makes them less attractive to others
.better confidence/ find it easier to socialise
.peace of mind- don't have to worry about their skin
but even if you had clear skin, your life would not change you would still be the same person, living the same life. Try visualising yourself having clear skin right now- would anything really be different? Millions of people without Acne are depressed, stressed and sad every day and some would even trade their problems for Acne so while clear skin can be great, your mind will eventually move on to the next thing.
It will take time to change your perspective, it's ok if you can only think positive when your skin is better, if you keep at it, even when something goes wrong you will be able to handle it.