stella u're really thoughtful.<3
i'd help my child if he faces anything like this,work things out for him like am doing it for myself now.
be with him psychologically.like forum members here.
but i hope to bring him/her up in a way that he's able to believe that he/she's more than her/his skin or acne.
i know ppl who doesnt care a bit abt acne or other skin issues(like my cousin sister) and also many who freak out(somewhat like i do,sometimes)..so i hope children i general learn balance.
Yes, that's great to bring them up that way! If ever I have kids one day, I want to teach them those kinds of values : loving oneself despite the acne! not only acne, too, but about society's beauty standards in general. I will literally tell them "Fuck society's beauty standards!" and teach them to use that motto everyday lol
My parents have their beauty standards, too. Like in Asia, having pale skin is one of those standards. I have more of a tanned complexion and I was wearing foundation, and my mom told me I should wear a lighter shade. Umm, no, I don't want to look like I'm wearing a mask or look like a Geisha lol.
I think there's beauty in diversity! Be it light/dark skin, tall/short, curvy/thin and especially acne/clear skin, you can still be a beautiful person. The world would be boring if we all looked alike! I must admit I still have a hard time living up to what I think.
Wow, this is so well put. Your words have so much truth. Beauty standards around the world are so different from place to place, and yet they are all discriminatory of a certain type of beauty. Like you mentioned, pale skin is ideal in Asia, but here is the U.S. everyone seems to work to get the perfect tan. And there really is beauty in diversity. Our beauty standards in the west have changed over periods of time so that certain looks have been ideal. For a while women were praised for being curvy, then willowy and thin, and back and forth. For a while the "blonde bombshell" look was really popular (Marilyn Monroe), and now it seems the tan, athletic look is in. So why does only one type of beauty have to be the only type of beauty?
As for having children with acne, I would wait until my child starting getting acne to start dealing with it. Like you said, I don't want to make my child insecure and worry over something that is not even there yet. And if my child did end up developing acne, I would make it a point to show my child that it is not a big deal, it doesn't change how beautiful he/she is, etc. I think trying to prevent your child from developing acne, stretch marks, or some other aesthetical "flaw" creates an unnecessary negativity towards something that shouldn't really matter anyways. It's like telling your child that it's not okay to be flawed, to be human, and that's not okay. At least in my case, others' negativity towards normal human flaws and obsession with perfection eventually led to some pretty serious body image issues.
You! Yes, you. The one reading this. You are beautiful, talented, amazing and simply the best at being you. Never forget that.
You don't have to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to you boyfriend/spouse/partner. Not to your coworkers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked "female."
Plea to the world: Eat less meat! Or better yet, don't eat it at all! The meat industry violates basic animal rights, it's destroying our planet, and there are so many health benefits you can gain by decreasing/eliminating meat from your diet. Don't let me tell you- do your own research so you can decide for yourself. (The dairy and egg industries are just as horrendous).
I highly recommend watching the movie Earthlings. ^