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Posted 20 May 2013 - 03:53 AM

I believe it's a bad idea to obsess about your own looks unless you help your child out as well because they will notice.


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Posted 20 May 2013 - 04:29 AM

I remember when my mom was recovering from here $5,000 facelift. I was 15 or 16, my face was covered with acne and scars. I could squeeze string cheese out of thousands of my pores and I had developed a social anxiety disorder from all the times people said "gross!", after looking at my face.  My dad looked at me as a pimple exploded on my face, like it seldom did during school and said " don't worry, once your acne goes away I'll pay to have your scars removed". My parents didn't care to spend any of there hard earned cash on my skin and I wish they did. I also believe it's a bad idea to obsess about your own looks unless you help your child out as well.

am sorry to hear that mate.

good luck.



AND seriously?

impregnate a acne-free woman for u a acne-free child?

like really?

did i read that right?
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my dad and his family had/has what they call is perfect skin.

my mum had acne though.

i have acne.

i have some maturity as well.

god bless u.



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Posted 20 May 2013 - 07:01 AM

aanabill, that's exactly what I am saying. Both parents could have perfect skin and the child could STILL end up with acne. 

 

Besides, you've got to let your children be who they want to be. Your son might not want to be athletic, he may pursue art, music or aviation instead. 



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Posted 20 May 2013 - 07:22 AM

I wouldn't let my kid try all the products that I have. I've caused a lot of damage to my skin and I'm dependent on using products to remain acne-free. The best advice I could give them is to forget about their skin and go out and enjoy the world leaving all insecurities behind them. I started out with a couple of spots and it felt like the end of the world for me, my mum told me to pop them, apply all-sorts to them and just attack my face through all methods possible. I did and ruined my face.

 

I don't plan on having children, but if I did, I wouldn't want them thinking that having acne was game over for them. 



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Posted 20 May 2013 - 07:55 AM

aanabill, that's exactly what I am saying. Both parents could have perfect skin and the child could STILL end up with acne. 

 

Besides, you've got to let your children be who they want to be. Your son might not want to be athletic, he may pursue art, music or aviation instead. 


Then I won't look after him or think of him as my son most likely anymore.



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Posted 20 May 2013 - 10:21 AM

aanabill, that's exactly what I am saying. Both parents could have perfect skin and the child could STILL end up with acne. 

 

Besides, you've got to let your children be who they want to be. Your son might not want to be athletic, he may pursue art, music or aviation instead. 


Then I won't look after him or think of him as my son most likely anymore.

 

 

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha YES!!!  biggrin.png

 

Oh man, you are too damn funny. I'm laughing my ass off reading your posts.

This board has been boring for quite some time now, so this is exactly what we need.

 

Troll or not, please stay here as long as you can. You are like a friggin comedian. biggrin.png

 

 

Elvin



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Posted 20 May 2013 - 12:41 PM

 

aanabill, that's exactly what I am saying. Both parents could have perfect skin and the child could STILL end up with acne. 

 

Besides, you've got to let your children be who they want to be. Your son might not want to be athletic, he may pursue art, music or aviation instead. 


Then I won't look after him or think of him as my son most likely anymore.

 

 

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha YES!!!  biggrin.png

 

Oh man, you are too damn funny. I'm laughing my ass off reading your posts.

This board has been boring for quite some time now, so this is exactly what we need.

 

Troll or not, please stay here as long as you can. You are like a friggin comedian. biggrin.png

 

 

Elvin

oh u made me laugh mate!

cheers!



aanabill, that's exactly what I am saying. Both parents could have perfect skin and the child could STILL end up with acne. 

 

Besides, you've got to let your children be who they want to be. Your son might not want to be athletic, he may pursue art, music or aviation instead. 


Then I won't look after him or think of him as my son most likely anymore.

there may be other reasons girls dont like u?ever thought of that?

ur attitude?

the way u think or take things?

the way u might leave her future-children when they refuse to be athletic?

eh? 



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Posted 21 May 2013 - 02:42 AM

I suspect a troll.

Anyway, Madeleine24, you are absolutely right, my husband and I were both athletic (in fact, my husband still is). Our son is not very athletically inclined but is very academic, our daughter is a natural athlete, but prefers dance and art. :)

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 06:37 AM

Really haha I am not a troll, aren't they bullies? I didn't mean any harm.

You can't control your kids. And you can't control whether or not they will get acne.

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Posted 21 May 2013 - 08:15 AM

Really haha I am not a troll, aren't they bullies? I didn't mean any harm.

You can't control your kids. And you can't control whether or not they will get acne.

actually i dont think she meant that for u!grinwink.gif



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Posted 21 May 2013 - 07:57 PM

I think I must be lucky. My acne is genetic, I got it from my late father. When I was 10 or 11 I started getting acne, quite badly. I didn't know what to do. I was too embarrassed to ask anyone about it. But my dad was really there for me and I think it was because he suffered with acne and he knew exactly how I was feeling. My whole life he was my biggest cheerleader and the one who really fought the acne fight with me. He was a doctor himself and he got me into see some great derms, he pushed for new treatments, and he helped me put the lotions and potions on my back where I couldn't reach. He showed me his scars and he told me about how self conscious he was about his skin when he had been my age. I remember one particular story about how they made him swim (he was on the swim team) with his shirt on because of the acne on his back, and how it made him just work harder to be the guy to beat in the pool. It broke my heart but made me feel so much less alone. He also told me how it didn't hold him back from doing the things he loved. He ran track too, met my mom, went to med school, and had kids. He had a great life despite his acne. This gave me a huge amount of respect for my father. He actually took Accutane in his 40s, and it cleared him 90-95%, which is why he only had mostly scars to show me when I was a kid. I am currently on Accutane (he had pushed for me to try it, but at the time no Drs. would give it to me for various reasons), I just wish he was here now to help me though my course. I would have so many questions for him, I could use his advice everyday.


I think the key is to be open, approachable, honest and supportive. 



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Posted 22 May 2013 - 03:35 AM

I think I must be lucky. My acne is genetic, I got it from my late father. When I was 10 or 11 I started getting acne, quite badly. I didn't know what to do. I was too embarrassed to ask anyone about it. But my dad was really there for me and I think it was because he suffered with acne and he knew exactly how I was feeling. My whole life he was my biggest cheerleader and the one who really fought the acne fight with me. He was a doctor himself and he got me into see some great derms, he pushed for new treatments, and he helped me put the lotions and potions on my back where I couldn't reach. He showed me his scars and he told me about how self conscious he was about his skin when he had been my age. I remember one particular story about how they made him swim (he was on the swim team) with his shirt on because of the acne on his back, and how it made him just work harder to be the guy to beat in the pool. It broke my heart but made me feel so much less alone. He also told me how it didn't hold him back from doing the things he loved. He ran track too, met my mom, went to med school, and had kids. He had a great life despite his acne. This gave me a huge amount of respect for my father. He actually took Accutane in his 40s, and it cleared him 90-95%, which is why he only had mostly scars to show me when I was a kid. I am currently on Accutane (he had pushed for me to try it, but at the time no Drs. would give it to me for various reasons), I just wish he was here now to help me though my course. I would have so many questions for him, I could use his advice everyday.


I think the key is to be open, approachable, honest and supportive. 

oh i give him all my regards and respect wherever he is.

he's a lovely strong man.=)

u're very lucky mate.

 

cheers!



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Posted 24 May 2013 - 03:16 AM

I want to impregnate a women who I know for a fact has good skin quality, and good athletic genetics so I can have my son become an athletic beast and have clear skin and be set for life, I will also try to instill a good training and healthy eating program on him from a young age so he can reach his potential earlier and so he can be dedicated from a young age.

It's highly important to be very healthy, and have superior genetics and showcase your superiority to others.

You are pretty superficial.Sorry to say...You want your son to be "an athletic beast"? What if he's more into academics? What if it's a daughter rather than a son?...Your parochial approach to life depresses me.



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Posted 25 May 2013 - 04:31 AM

I want to impregnate a women who I know for a fact has good skin quality, and good athletic genetics so I can have my son become an athletic beast and have clear skin and be set for life, I will also try to instill a good training and healthy eating program on him from a young age so he can reach his potential earlier and so he can be dedicated from a young age.

It's highly important to be very healthy, and have superior genetics and showcase your superiority to others.

I am guessing that you are an acne sufferer who's trying to be humorous to feel happy.However if that is not so and if you're really serious about that then ... "Showcase your superiority to others" huh? Stop being a narcissist .Get something profound in your life and achieve it . God bless you.



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Posted 26 May 2013 - 01:04 AM

I probably wouldn't say anything until they reached puberty and got a pimple or two. Then I might buy a cleanser for them or something and some BP for their zits. 

 

My mom never warned me about acne or anything; one day, I just got a zit. And I was not very concerned by it. I knew what zits were and everything because of the media/other people having them, so I just asked my mom to buy me something for them and then she brought me to a derm. And that was that. If anything, I don't want my child to become obsessed with their skin like I have. I want to instill values in them that their inner qualities are what's most important.



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Posted 26 May 2013 - 03:06 AM

I think I must be lucky. My acne is genetic, I got it from my late father. When I was 10 or 11 I started getting acne, quite badly. I didn't know what to do. I was too embarrassed to ask anyone about it. But my dad was really there for me and I think it was because he suffered with acne and he knew exactly how I was feeling. My whole life he was my biggest cheerleader and the one who really fought the acne fight with me. He was a doctor himself and he got me into see some great derms, he pushed for new treatments, and he helped me put the lotions and potions on my back where I couldn't reach. He showed me his scars and he told me about how self conscious he was about his skin when he had been my age. I remember one particular story about how they made him swim (he was on the swim team) with his shirt on because of the acne on his back, and how it made him just work harder to be the guy to beat in the pool. It broke my heart but made me feel so much less alone. He also told me how it didn't hold him back from doing the things he loved. He ran track too, met my mom, went to med school, and had kids. He had a great life despite his acne. This gave me a huge amount of respect for my father. He actually took Accutane in his 40s, and it cleared him 90-95%, which is why he only had mostly scars to show me when I was a kid. I am currently on Accutane (he had pushed for me to try it, but at the time no Drs. would give it to me for various reasons), I just wish he was here now to help me though my course. I would have so many questions for him, I could use his advice everyday.


I think the key is to be open, approachable, honest and supportive. 

 

I think your late father sounds like an inspiration. For me, that is the definition of a real man - not afraid to open up about emotional hurt, supportive of others, but at the same time refusing to let those problems hold him back in life.

 

That's also how I'm trying to deal with my acne problems - I cycle or run every day to keep fit, I've worked hard to achieve a PhD and am publishing a book; haven't met my future wife yet, but you never know! I hope I can pass this attitude onto my children one day.



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Posted 26 May 2013 - 11:42 AM

I have always been unhappy about my physical traits ever since my childhood.I hate my skin (oh yes!) ,i hate my hair (they are ridiculously curly),i hate my ears (they are tiny),i hate my height (i'm 5 10") ,i hate my nose ...lol .When i first read about evolution and how genes are passed onto by their parents,i developed this faint idea of out breeding leading to superior results and better gene pool.Now ,in our Indian society especially among Hindus.,there is severe inbreeding.We marry with partners of the same caste,geographical location,same area/locality (LOL obnoxious yeh).The offspring is often a receiver of bad genes. So i have this plan of marrying outside my community or even my religion to improve my gene pool .However naive it may sound ,i actually fancy this plan! (haha).

 

Regarding my son/daughter having acne...then i would leave no stone un-turned in helping my child.I would warn my child about the mistakes i made with my acne(many!!) .Seeing my child in the same predicament as me would really make me lose my sanity.I would fail as a parent.Acne really makes life an ordeal not worth living! With this said i would disagree with my own point.Not having a passion kills you.You'll be empty minded and acne would consume you.So developing a passion is your first step in defeating acne.

 

So i have started to concentrate more on my preparations for GMAT.I want to study in Singapore and forget about acne for now.Once i start my own business(with little help from dad ),i'd like to churn money and earn something like 20 million dollars (50 crore rupees).With that i'll really like to fund a research on acne and how it can be prevented or eradicated .

 

Sorry for being so incoherent.Writing about my life plans in a section titled "Son/daughter had acne" ...Good night ;)



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Posted 30 May 2013 - 11:02 AM

Hi everyone.. As I was scrolling through the psychological effects of acne I ran into this post and I immediately felt not alone. I'm having this ordeal now I don't want to live life like this any longer, my daughter my baby who is only THREE years old is showings signs of the same face decese I have my mothers side all of them have a pock marcked face I know it sounds like I'm exaggerating but I have non inflamed acne where all I get is clogged pores and black heads almost every pore on my cheeks and chin nose is clogged nothing works and they leave behind a enlarged scarred pore. Why do I have this? Why doesn't my skin shrink back after a clogged pore? Can you imagine everyday seeing more scarred pores on your face. And now my daughter had silky smooth face I would never thought that her little pores would show signs of enlarging at such young age! Are my genes really that messed up that I've passed on to her? I feel like I lost everything I lost the fight to this. I'm so depressed I cry all day but I will not mention this to her I just tell her not to touch her face bcus she's got icky germy hands. D My precious daughter she cannot have the same fate as me! I don't understand, what can I do? My husband has good genes and does not get any acne and always told me he hopes our beautiful children take after him I know it sounds mean but I actually agreed with him. Is it normal maybe just summer time kids pores enlarge? She has two little holes on he cheek and her pores are showing some texture. Help me guys!

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Posted 30 May 2013 - 11:15 AM

Hi everyone.. As I was scrolling through the psychological effects of acne I ran into this post and I immediately felt not alone. I'm having this ordeal now I don't want to live life like this any longer, my daughter my baby who is only THREE years old is showings signs of the same face decese I have my mothers side all of them have a pock marcked face I know it sounds like I'm exaggerating but I have non inflamed acne where all I get is clogged pores and black heads almost every pore on my cheeks and chin nose is clogged nothing works and they leave behind a enlarged scarred pore. Why do I have this? Why doesn't my skin shrink back after a clogged pore? Can you imagine everyday seeing more scarred pores on your face. And now my daughter had silky smooth face I would never thought that her little pores would show signs of enlarging at such young age! Are my genes really that messed up that I've passed on to her? I feel like I lost everything I lost the fight to this. I'm so depressed I cry all day but I will not mention this to her I just tell her not to touch her face bcus she's got icky germy hands. D My precious daughter she cannot have the same fate as me! I don't understand, what can I do? My husband has good genes and does not get any acne and always told me he hopes our beautiful children take after him I know it sounds mean but I actually agreed with him. Is it normal maybe just summer time kids pores enlarge? She has two little holes on he cheek and her pores are showing some texture. Help me guys!

 

wow, it's the first time I hear about a case like that. I'm sure your daughter is very beautiful and no amount of clogged pores or blackheads can take her beauty away from her. She's lucky to have such a caring mother. Perhaps, you should consult a doctor about her skin? 



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Posted 30 May 2013 - 03:14 PM

Okay well I'm doing a lot better now, I think it's all in my head I really am having psychological problems with this. She had just come back from the park when I noticed but after she cooled down and took a shower her skin became silky smooth again it was just her sweat glands and i pray to god it stays clear forever. Why does this horrible decese have to even exist.




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