Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.
Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?
You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!
Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.
Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.
Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are
But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.
Hun, I just want to say THANK YOU for such an amazing post! You truly made my day! I am so happy you found a lovely guy because you deserve it! You are a sweet and caring person! I really appreciate everything you wrote and GIRL, you deserve to spoil yourself by eating desserts! You and I both know that having a healthy diet has no influence over our acne. We just need to surround ourselves with positive people. I wish I also had thick skin and ignored comments but realizing that there are people like you makes it easier to bear daily BS from a-holes!!!
No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too
Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'.
Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.