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#21 ibiza1987

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Posted 01 April 2013 - 01:19 PM

 

Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.

 

Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?

 

You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!

 

Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.

Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me sad.png And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.

 

Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway smile.png You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are smile.png

 

But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.

Hun, I just want to say THANK YOU for such an amazing post! You truly made my day! I am so happy you found a lovely guy because you deserve it! You are a sweet and caring person! I really appreciate everything you wrote and GIRL, you deserve to spoil yourself by eating desserts! You and I both know that having a healthy diet has no influence over our acne. We just need to surround ourselves with positive people. I wish I also had thick skin and ignored comments but realizing that there are people like you makes it easier to bear daily BS from a-holes!!!

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! :) Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too :)

 

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'. rolleyes.gif 

 

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life :) However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.



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Posted 01 April 2013 - 04:24 PM

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! smile.png Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too smile.png

 

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'. rolleyes.gif 

 

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life smile.png However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.

 

Yes, you helped me a lot hun! I am here for you too! I understand when you say that you have fears in opening up to your husband. But hun, I see that he accepts you for who you are and he sees your real inside and outside beauty, not your acne. Basically he belongs to the 5% of the people who are nice in this entire world. When you are ready, open up to him but I feel like you have nothing to worry about with him. Girl, I wrote here that I am taking saw palmetto. It has helped me! But it interferes with BCP. It is a herbal anti-antrogen which I like. I still get acne but they are not huge painful cysts.

 

AND YES, please eat desserts. We only live once and I am tired of following this proper diet EVERY DAY :). I bought chips today (I said: F*** it... I work too hard).



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Posted 01 April 2013 - 06:08 PM

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! smile.png Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too smile.png

 

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'. rolleyes.gif 

 

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life smile.png However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.

 

Yes, you helped me a lot hun! I am here for you too! I understand when you say that you have fears in opening up to your husband. But hun, I see that he accepts you for who you are and he sees your real inside and outside beauty, not your acne. Basically he belongs to the 5% of the people who are nice in this entire world. When you are ready, open up to him but I feel like you have nothing to worry about with him. Girl, I wrote here that I am taking saw palmetto. It has helped me! But it interferes with BCP. It is a herbal anti-antrogen which I like. I still get acne but they are not huge painful cysts.

 

AND YES, please eat desserts. We only live once and I am tired of following this proper diet EVERY DAY smile.png. I bought chips today (I said: F*** it... I work too hard).

Hey thanks :)

 

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world. 

 

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond :) Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

 

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free! :)



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Posted 01 April 2013 - 09:52 PM

Hey thanks smile.png

 

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world. 

 

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond smile.png Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

 

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free! smile.png

 

:) ice creammmmmm!!!

 

 

Oh girl, i would really advise trying saw palmetto for at least two months, just to see if it helps. It helped me. I can feel it because chin pimples cannot magically get smaller and less visible. And my skin seems smoother and clearer (hence my aunt's stupid comment about scars). I live in Vancouver and saw palmetto can be found in any drug store... you do not need prescription because it is a herb. I take 583 mg twice a day (Nature's Way brand). So far, I have not experienced any side effects.

 

Hun, if you went through accutane, I have a feeling taking this won't be a problem. But maybe your breakout is a fluke too ? Cause you said it came suddenly. 

 

Also, I read that women take saw palmetto against hair loss. I am not imagining things: I really noticed that my hair does not fall out as it used to. I know that my acne is hormornal also because my hair started thinning at the age of 23, when the acne horror started.

 

Hope all is well :)! Good night lady :)!!!



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Posted 01 April 2013 - 10:10 PM

People put others down to feel better about their own insecurities.

 

You've probably put someone down yourself before, without consciously realizing it.


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Posted 03 April 2013 - 12:17 PM

Hey thanks smile.png

 

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world. 

 

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond smile.png Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

 

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free! smile.png

 

smile.png ice creammmmmm!!!

 

 

Oh girl, i would really advise trying saw palmetto for at least two months, just to see if it helps. It helped me. I can feel it because chin pimples cannot magically get smaller and less visible. And my skin seems smoother and clearer (hence my aunt's stupid comment about scars). I live in Vancouver and saw palmetto can be found in any drug store... you do not need prescription because it is a herb. I take 583 mg twice a day (Nature's Way brand). So far, I have not experienced any side effects.

 

Hun, if you went through accutane, I have a feeling taking this won't be a problem. But maybe your breakout is a fluke too ? Cause you said it came suddenly. 

 

Also, I read that women take saw palmetto against hair loss. I am not imagining things: I really noticed that my hair does not fall out as it used to. I know that my acne is hormornal also because my hair started thinning at the age of 23, when the acne horror started.

 

Hope all is well smile.png! Good night lady smile.png!!!

Hi how are you doing? :)

 

Definitely want to try it, sounds like it's been really helpful for you :) I will be looking in the drug store next time I'm in town.

 

Yes this breakout was just so random, aggressive and very inflamed boils also mixed with smaller spots all over my cheeks and jawline, urgh I felt so ashamed :( Have not had acne come back that severe for a while, makes me wonder what the hell set it off. It lasted about two months and was relentless although still put it down to hormones. It's weird as I am just coming up to having a period yet my breakout is starting to subside - at a time when women's skin is supposed to be the worst - no rhyme or reason eh?! But feeling happier today as I can see my skin starting to calm down a bit, let's hope it lasts!!!

 

Oh, and glad to hear the Saw Palmetto also treated your hair loss, sounds like amazing stuff! It's awful how hormones affect some people, would love to know why some are so badly affected yet others barely notice anything. It's a mystery. 



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Posted 03 April 2013 - 12:25 PM

My theory is that if you are more loving to yourself then other people's opinion's will cease to effect you as much. If you're happiness is reliant on the outside then you'll forever be a prisoner. My strategy is to wake up in the morning look in the mirror, cup my balls and say you're the f****** man!!!!!! It sounds absurd but I feel like 8 feet tall after doing it. Some days though I'm more vulnerable, some days extremely vulnerable but usually when I try and do something positive and be loving to myself my capacity to go out there in the world increases! Praying also helps me, to be honest I don't know who I'm praying too just something more powerful than myself, and I feel like a right mug getting on my knees and sticking my bum in the air and praying but it helps!!!!!! 



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Posted 03 April 2013 - 12:58 PM

Well-said D90:)

 

My theory is that if you are more loving to yourself then other people's opinion's will cease to effect you as much. If you're happiness is reliant on the outside then you'll forever be a prisoner. My strategy is to wake up in the morning look in the mirror, cup my balls and say you're the f****** man!!!!!! It sounds absurd but I feel like 8 feet tall after doing it. Some days though I'm more vulnerable, some days extremely vulnerable but usually when I try and do something positive and be loving to myself my capacity to go out there in the world increases! Praying also helps me, to be honest I don't know who I'm praying too just something more powerful than myself, and I feel like a right mug getting on my knees and sticking my bum in the air and praying but it helps!!!!!! 

Well-said dear :)



 

Hey thanks smile.png

 

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world. 

 

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond smile.png Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

 

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free! smile.png

 

smile.png ice creammmmmm!!!

 

 

Oh girl, i would really advise trying saw palmetto for at least two months, just to see if it helps. It helped me. I can feel it because chin pimples cannot magically get smaller and less visible. And my skin seems smoother and clearer (hence my aunt's stupid comment about scars). I live in Vancouver and saw palmetto can be found in any drug store... you do not need prescription because it is a herb. I take 583 mg twice a day (Nature's Way brand). So far, I have not experienced any side effects.

 

Hun, if you went through accutane, I have a feeling taking this won't be a problem. But maybe your breakout is a fluke too ? Cause you said it came suddenly. 

 

Also, I read that women take saw palmetto against hair loss. I am not imagining things: I really noticed that my hair does not fall out as it used to. I know that my acne is hormornal also because my hair started thinning at the age of 23, when the acne horror started.

 

Hope all is well smile.png! Good night lady smile.png!!!

Hi how are you doing? smile.png

 

Definitely want to try it, sounds like it's been really helpful for you smile.png I will be looking in the drug store next time I'm in town.

 

Yes this breakout was just so random, aggressive and very inflamed boils also mixed with smaller spots all over my cheeks and jawline, urgh I felt so ashamed sad.png Have not had acne come back that severe for a while, makes me wonder what the hell set it off. It lasted about two months and was relentless although still put it down to hormones. It's weird as I am just coming up to having a period yet my breakout is starting to subside - at a time when women's skin is supposed to be the worst - no rhyme or reason eh?! But feeling happier today as I can see my skin starting to calm down a bit, let's hope it lasts!!!

 

Oh, and glad to hear the Saw Palmetto also treated your hair loss, sounds like amazing stuff! It's awful how hormones affect some people, would love to know why some are so badly affected yet others barely notice anything. It's a mystery. 

 

 

I am happy you are feeling happy that it is subsiding! Thank God!!! Praying that it would last. I am well today, hun! It is really nice outside. :) xo!



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Posted 03 April 2013 - 01:01 PM

Well-said D90:)

 

My theory is that if you are more loving to yourself then other people's opinion's will cease to effect you as much. If you're happiness is reliant on the outside then you'll forever be a prisoner. My strategy is to wake up in the morning look in the mirror, cup my balls and say you're the f****** man!!!!!! It sounds absurd but I feel like 8 feet tall after doing it. Some days though I'm more vulnerable, some days extremely vulnerable but usually when I try and do something positive and be loving to myself my capacity to go out there in the world increases! Praying also helps me, to be honest I don't know who I'm praying too just something more powerful than myself, and I feel like a right mug getting on my knees and sticking my bum in the air and praying but it helps!!!!!! 

Well-said dear smile.png



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Hey thanks smile.png

 

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world. 

 

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond smile.png Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

 

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free! smile.png

 

smile.png ice creammmmmm!!!

 

 

Oh girl, i would really advise trying saw palmetto for at least two months, just to see if it helps. It helped me. I can feel it because chin pimples cannot magically get smaller and less visible. And my skin seems smoother and clearer (hence my aunt's stupid comment about scars). I live in Vancouver and saw palmetto can be found in any drug store... you do not need prescription because it is a herb. I take 583 mg twice a day (Nature's Way brand). So far, I have not experienced any side effects.

 

Hun, if you went through accutane, I have a feeling taking this won't be a problem. But maybe your breakout is a fluke too ? Cause you said it came suddenly. 

 

Also, I read that women take saw palmetto against hair loss. I am not imagining things: I really noticed that my hair does not fall out as it used to. I know that my acne is hormornal also because my hair started thinning at the age of 23, when the acne horror started.

 

Hope all is well smile.png! Good night lady smile.png!!!

Hi how are you doing? smile.png

 

Definitely want to try it, sounds like it's been really helpful for you smile.png I will be looking in the drug store next time I'm in town.

 

Yes this breakout was just so random, aggressive and very inflamed boils also mixed with smaller spots all over my cheeks and jawline, urgh I felt so ashamed sad.png Have not had acne come back that severe for a while, makes me wonder what the hell set it off. It lasted about two months and was relentless although still put it down to hormones. It's weird as I am just coming up to having a period yet my breakout is starting to subside - at a time when women's skin is supposed to be the worst - no rhyme or reason eh?! But feeling happier today as I can see my skin starting to calm down a bit, let's hope it lasts!!!

 

Oh, and glad to hear the Saw Palmetto also treated your hair loss, sounds like amazing stuff! It's awful how hormones affect some people, would love to know why some are so badly affected yet others barely notice anything. It's a mystery. 

 

 

I am happy you are feeling happy that it is subsiding! Thank God!!! Praying that it would last. I am well today, hun! It is really nice outside. smile.png xo!

Glad you're doing well :) It's sunny here but freezing cold, hoping it warms up soon haha! x