Oh and sorry to hear what your Aunt said about your face, was like a back handed compliment. And then when you take offence you're made to feel bad about being 'too sensitive' and 'taking everything personally'. Been there. People are just so cruel in general, I really don't know the reason behind it
Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.
I agree!!! I want to scream on top of my lungs: "do you really think I want to be stuck with acne at the age of 28???" And I noticed that it is never enough... when you have almost clear skin, then begin comments about acne scars!! It is never enough to please people. I follow the healthiest diet!!! But is not enough because my acne is hormonal. They only appear on the chin.
I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?
Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...
I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.
I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.
I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?
she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.
Hey, don't worry about the "lashing out".
I wouldn't like hearing a comment like the one your aunt made either.
Thank you !
Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.
Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?
You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!
Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.
Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.
Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are
But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.