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I know this topic has been discussed a lot on this forum but I just want to rant again and see if you can identify with me. I used to go out with this guy for a year and he was really understanding towards my unhappiness with acne. He left for Italy (he was an international student) and then later on (after six months) I dated another guy who really made me feel like crap about my appearance. After him, I have not dated anyone... actually I have not been going out with a guy for two years. The main reason is that I am scared that I will get depressed and the relationship will go down the hill because of acne. I was wonder if any of you are dating understanding guys who may or may not have acne themselves and who accept you for who you are. I have already come to terms that my chin acne will not disappear any time soon... this realization coupled with my insecurity to get back to dating is making me an emotional wreck...

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I know this topic has been discussed a lot on this forum but I just want to rant again and see if you can identify with me. I used to go out with this guy for a year and he was really understanding towards my unhappiness with acne. He left for Italy (he was an international student) and then later on (after six months) I dated another guy who really made me feel like crap about my appearance. After him, I have not dated anyone... actually I have not been going out with a guy for two years. The main reason is that I am scared that I will get depressed and the relationship will go down the hill because of acne. I was wonder if any of you are dating understanding guys who may or may not have acne themselves and who accept you for who you are. I have already come to terms that my chin acne will not disappear any time soon... this realization coupled with my insecurity to get back to dating is making me an emotional wreck...

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Thank you Rob for your response. I guess we just have to be confident of ourselves. We have to realize that acne is not going to get in the way of building a relationship. I have to admit. I feel positive now... let's hope I will stay like this tomorrow.

Thank you!!

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I get where youre coming from. I hate being next to guys cuz im scared theyll see my flaws and when they give me compliments i get more "depressed" for some reason. I feel like i cant date until i get my skin to the point where i want but then ill pbly just beat myself up for anothet imperfection. One is nvr happy -_-

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My girlfriend and I both get pimples and are very insecure about them. But hers don't bother me whatsoever, I don't see them and think "gross", they don't detract from her appearance to me... I don't actually think anything of them. And she says it's the same with her, about mine. It's hard to believe we can be insecure about our own but not care at all about the other's, but it's true. As far as I know. So... it is possible to find someone who won't care.

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My girlfriend and I both get pimples and are very insecure about them. But hers don't bother me whatsoever, I don't see them and think "gross", they don't detract from her appearance to me... I don't actually think anything of them. And she says it's the same with her, about mine. It's hard to believe we can be insecure about our own but not care at all about the other's, but it's true. As far as I know. So... it is possible to find someone who won't care.

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I can definitely identify. My last relationship was in late 2010. I think one of the biggest issues for guys with acne is that the normal gender roles in life dictate that a guy show interest in a girl, chase the the girl, make the first move, etc etc. It's SO hard to do that when you're struggling with skin issues. It's just such a confidence killer and there's always this gnawing thought in the back of my mind that if I tell a girl I'm interested in her she'll be like "ew, get away. your skin makes you look like a monster" or something like that. I've actually had girls approach me first (brave girls, lol) to tell me they're interested in me and they find me attractive, and that's how I've gotten 99% of the girlfriends I've had in the past. I always think they must be crazy or something because I feel like I look so bad when I see myself in a mirror.

It's hard for me to take in my full face...it seems like all I ever see are my scars. My one great hope in life is that I'll someday find a girl who I can openly share my skin issues with, how they make me feel, and all that good stuff because I think if I ever find a girl that would accept me with flaws included then that would be the perfect situation for me. That's always been the hardest part for me when it comes to dealing with acne...the fact that I'm alone in this. No girlfriend to confide in, and I don't talk to my parents or my friends about my skin because it's embarrassing and I just avoid the topic. It's rough, but I guess we just gotta take it day by day until we can build that confidence back up to reenter the dating scene.

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-Jojoba oil as moisturizer

Nightly Regimen:
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-Cetaphil moisturizer + a few drops of Jojoba oil

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I can definitely identify. My last relationship was in late 2010. I think one of the biggest issues for guys with acne is that the normal gender roles in life dictate that a guy show interest in a girl, chase the the girl, make the first move, etc etc. It's SO hard to do that when you're struggling with skin issues. It's just such a confidence killer and there's always this gnawing thought in the back of my mind that if I tell a girl I'm interested in her she'll be like "ew, get away. your skin makes you look like a monster" or something like that. I've actually had girls approach me first (brave girls, lol) to tell me they're interested in me and they find me attractive, and that's how I've gotten 99% of the girlfriends I've had in the past. I always think they must be crazy or something because I feel like I look so bad when I see myself in a mirror.

It's hard for me to take in my full face...it seems like all I ever see are my scars. My one great hope in life is that I'll someday find a girl who I can openly share my skin issues with, how they make me feel, and all that good stuff because I think if I ever find a girl that would accept me with flaws included then that would be the perfect situation for me. That's always been the hardest part for me when it comes to dealing with acne...the fact that I'm alone in this. No girlfriend to confide in, and I don't talk to my parents or my friends about my skin because it's embarrassing and I just avoid the topic. It's rough, but I guess we just gotta take it day by day until we can build that confidence back up to reenter the dating scene.

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I get where youre coming from. I hate being next to guys cuz im scared theyll see my flaws and when they give me compliments i get more "depressed" for some reason. I feel like i cant date until i get my skin to the point where i want but then ill pbly just beat myself up for anothet imperfection. One is nvr happy -_-

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I can definitely identify. My last relationship was in late 2010. I think one of the biggest issues for guys with acne is that the normal gender roles in life dictate that a guy show interest in a girl, chase the the girl, make the first move, etc etc. It's SO hard to do that when you're struggling with skin issues. It's just such a confidence killer and there's always this gnawing thought in the back of my mind that if I tell a girl I'm interested in her she'll be like "ew, get away. your skin makes you look like a monster" or something like that. I've actually had girls approach me first (brave girls, lol) to tell me they're interested in me and they find me attractive, and that's how I've gotten 99% of the girlfriends I've had in the past. I always think they must be crazy or something because I feel like I look so bad when I see myself in a mirror.

It's hard for me to take in my full face...it seems like all I ever see are my scars. My one great hope in life is that I'll someday find a girl who I can openly share my skin issues with, how they make me feel, and all that good stuff because I think if I ever find a girl that would accept me with flaws included then that would be the perfect situation for me. That's always been the hardest part for me when it comes to dealing with acne...the fact that I'm alone in this. No girlfriend to confide in, and I don't talk to my parents or my friends about my skin because it's embarrassing and I just avoid the topic. It's rough, but I guess we just gotta take it day by day until we can build that confidence back up to reenter the dating scene.

No, do not wait. Tell your parents about it and go see a doctor. I did that and it worked tremendously for me.


Daily Regimen:
-Clean and Clear Foaming Cleanser
-Dan's 2.5% BP
-Jojoba oil as moisturizer

Nightly Regimen:
-Clean and Clear Foaming Cleanser
-Dan's 2.5% BP
-Cetaphil moisturizer + a few drops of Jojoba oil

My Regimen Log:








 


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I can definitely identify. My last relationship was in late 2010. I think one of the biggest issues for guys with acne is that the normal gender roles in life dictate that a guy show interest in a girl, chase the the girl, make the first move, etc etc. It's SO hard to do that when you're struggling with skin issues. It's just such a confidence killer and there's always this gnawing thought in the back of my mind that if I tell a girl I'm interested in her she'll be like "ew, get away. your skin makes you look like a monster" or something like that. I've actually had girls approach me first (brave girls, lol) to tell me they're interested in me and they find me attractive, and that's how I've gotten 99% of the girlfriends I've had in the past. I always think they must be crazy or something because I feel like I look so bad when I see myself in a mirror.

It's hard for me to take in my full face...it seems like all I ever see are my scars. My one great hope in life is that I'll someday find a girl who I can openly share my skin issues with, how they make me feel, and all that good stuff because I think if I ever find a girl that would accept me with flaws included then that would be the perfect situation for me. That's always been the hardest part for me when it comes to dealing with acne...the fact that I'm alone in this. No girlfriend to confide in, and I don't talk to my parents or my friends about my skin because it's embarrassing and I just avoid the topic. It's rough, but I guess we just gotta take it day by day until we can build that confidence back up to reenter the dating scene.

No, do not wait. Tell your parents about it and go see a doctor. I did that and it worked tremendously for me.

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I can definitely identify. My last relationship was in late 2010. I think one of the biggest issues for guys with acne is that the normal gender roles in life dictate that a guy show interest in a girl, chase the the girl, make the first move, etc etc. It's SO hard to do that when you're struggling with skin issues. It's just such a confidence killer and there's always this gnawing thought in the back of my mind that if I tell a girl I'm interested in her she'll be like "ew, get away. your skin makes you look like a monster" or something like that. I've actually had girls approach me first (brave girls, lol) to tell me they're interested in me and they find me attractive, and that's how I've gotten 99% of the girlfriends I've had in the past. I always think they must be crazy or something because I feel like I look so bad when I see myself in a mirror.

It's hard for me to take in my full face...it seems like all I ever see are my scars. My one great hope in life is that I'll someday find a girl who I can openly share my skin issues with, how they make me feel, and all that good stuff because I think if I ever find a girl that would accept me with flaws included then that would be the perfect situation for me. That's always been the hardest part for me when it comes to dealing with acne...the fact that I'm alone in this. No girlfriend to confide in, and I don't talk to my parents or my friends about my skin because it's embarrassing and I just avoid the topic. It's rough, but I guess we just gotta take it day by day until we can build that confidence back up to reenter the dating scene.

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I've got pretty bad cystic acne. Although I'm now getting it under control with medication, my skin is far from ideal. My boyfriend of three years is gorgeous. I've seen him with a small zit maybe twice ever. Totally clear, tanned skin, nice body, cute smile, gorgeous ocean-blue eyes--the works. For some strange reason, he thinks I'm the cat's meow--cystic acne and all.

If you want love, acne isn't standing in your way. I don't understand why, but guys really don't care about it. Hot guys included.

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Current Skin-Care Regimen (A work in progress):

Morning:

Gentle wash with DKR cleanser

Benzoyl Peroxide 2.5% (Following Dan's Regimen)

DKR Lotion + A squirt of Argan or Grapeseed oil (The lotion alone wasn't hydrating enough)

Skin 79 Korean BB Cream (excellent stuff)

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Benzoyl Peroxide 2.5% (Following Dan's Regimen)

DKR Lotion + A squirt of Argan or Grapeseed oil


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I've got pretty bad cystic acne. Although I'm now getting it under control with medication, my skin is far from ideal. My boyfriend of three years is gorgeous. I've seen him with a small zit maybe twice ever. Totally clear, tanned skin, nice body, cute smile, gorgeous ocean-blue eyes--the works. For some strange reason, he thinks I'm the cat's meow--cystic acne and all.

If you want love, acne isn't standing in your way. I don't understand why, but guys really don't care about it. Hot guys included.

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Where are those people anyway?

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My girlfriend and I both get pimples and are very insecure about them. But hers don't bother me whatsoever, I don't see them and think "gross", they don't detract from her appearance to me... I don't actually think anything of them. And she says it's the same with her, about mine. It's hard to believe we can be insecure about our own but not care at all about the other's, but it's true. As far as I know. So... it is possible to find someone who won't care.

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