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Just feeling really down and defeated by acne... Been trying to help my young teen son for years now... trying so many different things. It's emotionally and physically exhausting. I think about it constantly, worry about how his skin will look in different social situations, worry about what people think of him, etc. I'm so tired of him waking up to new breakouts and whiteheads every morning. I don't understand how some people with severe acne can go through life seemingly happy and not bothered by it. Maybe it depends on people's personalities.

Anyone else feel this way? I feel so powerless and defeated. It's very depressing :(

Thx for listening, just wanted to vent my frustration.

p.s. yes I've thought about Accutane many times... but trying to avoid it. I took it long ago as a teen, haven't had any major effects from it, but I know how dangerous it is. Trying to exhaust all other options before resorting to it.

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Just feeling really down and defeated by acne... Been trying to help my young teen son for years now... trying so many different things. It's emotionally and physically exhausting. I think about it constantly, worry about how his skin will look in different social situations, worry about what people think of him, etc. I'm so tired of him waking up to new breakouts and whiteheads every morning. I don't understand how some people with severe acne can go through life seemingly happy and not bothered by it. Maybe it depends on people's personalities.

Anyone else feel this way? I feel so powerless and defeated. It's very depressing sad.png

Thx for listening, just wanted to vent my frustration.

p.s. yes I've thought about Accutane many times... but trying to avoid it. I took it long ago as a teen, haven't had any major effects from it, but I know how dangerous it is. Trying to exhaust all other options before resorting to it.

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Why are you worried so much about someone else's skin?

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Why are you worried so much about someone else's skin?

Because he's my son and I love him.

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If that's how you feel imagine how your son feels, he has to live with it. It's cool that you actually care tho instead of shrugging it off. My only advice is don't tell him it will eventually go away cause that might not be the case.

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Why are you worried so much about someone else's skin?

Because he's my son and I love him.

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I'm glad you care. You may think that you're overreacting but a lot of the times teens can take acne much harder than they let on. Being involved in his fight will help him feel less alone. Watch for signs of depression as he gets older, because when he turns 15 or 16 he could start caring even more. Make sure you monitor the time he spends in front of the mirror as well, and be gentle about it. Boys can develop depression and Body Dismorphic Disorder too, they're just must less obvious about it. Make sure to help him have clothes he feels good in and encourage him to be interested in other things besides school, so he can draw his self-worth from other places besides his skin.

Oh and also, don't be afraid of visiting the dermatologist. They have other weapons besides Accutane.

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Have you tried the regimen that is laid out on this site? And the products they sell here?

The regimen is the only thing that has helped me long-term. Diet is important too, but not enough to clear me without topical medications, unfortunately.

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Honestly put him on accutane (if he's ok with it). Yes i'm sure you have heard all the horror stories and bad things that can happen but they most likely wont and instead of playing around with creams and antibiotics just get it over and done with. I waited all my teen years and screwed around with every cream under the sun and some antis which never really did anything drastic other than waste time and money. I remember when i was probably 15 my doc suggested accutane and due to the horror stories and my parents being worried about all the side effects i immediately refused and continued to desperately try topicals that did nothing...until my skin got so bad when i was like 19 that i went to the doc and she basically threw accutane at me and i welcomed it with open arms. It helped me so much and nothing bad happened to me, my only regret is not doing it earlier because it would have saved me many years of suffering and hopelessly trying everything else, also my acne would have never gotten as bad as it did and it would have saved me scarring ect.

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I'm glad you care. You may think that you're overreacting but a lot of the times teens can take acne much harder than they let on. Being involved in his fight will help him feel less alone. Watch for signs of depression as he gets older, because when he turns 15 or 16 he could start caring even more. Make sure you monitor the time he spends in front of the mirror as well, and be gentle about it. Boys can develop depression and Body Dismorphic Disorder too, they're just must less obvious about it. Make sure to help him have clothes he feels good in and encourage him to be interested in other things besides school, so he can draw his self-worth from other places besides his skin.

Oh and also, don't be afraid of visiting the dermatologist. They have other weapons besides Accutane.

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Well whatever tretament route you choose, you must be prepared to give it at least 3 months to be effective so please don't give up before then or else you won't know if it works or not. 14 and being in the throes of being a teenager is very hard but like several people have stated, don't wait to treat his acne as scarring can be permanent, especially if his acne is severe. I really think that while you give holistic a try, try something like the regimen to try to keep this under control. This will help prevent further scarring. As for weaning off, don't put the cart before the horse and worry about a process that has not happened yet. You are also probably very wise to hold off on accutane as he is still very much in his hormonal stage and he has a higher chance of relapse at his age thanmaybe someone who is out of puberty

Whatever you decide, stay posiive, patient and let your son know you're there for him without being overbearing

Good Luck

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Your skin does become addicted to the BP... mine did anyway. I don't know if I'll ever be able to get off the regimen again. This is my third time doing it and both times I tried to get off (one period was about a year and a half and the other was about six months) I developed very severe acne.

Maybe it's just that I have severe acne all the time and the BP controls it. But my skin clearly can't function normally for whatever reason without BP.

I just feel like, life is too short. Our bodies are impermanent anyway, so why suffer for so long just in the interest of not being addicted to something? I'm going to die anyway. I will have lived so much better having clearer skin, plus plenty of people are 'addicted' to one medication or another.

And yes it does take a while to see results, and sometimes it can get worse before it gets better. But if he doesn't have the patience for the regimen, he isn't going to have the patience for other things either. Patience is something he needs to cultivate in himself.

Ps. I went to the dermatologists and wasted thousands of dollars for years before eventually giving up and trying the regimen. So that should tell you how much I think derms are worth.

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I don't know if it matters, but i'm only 3 years older than your son so we could be dealing with similar feelings. After trying for months to cure it internally and externally with topicals, i've kinda given up. I'm still on the Regimen, but no longer feel very hopeful. While it keeps me clear from "normal" acne, it doesn't really do much for cysts.When i used to go to derms, they would recommend Accutane. Me and my mother would reject it because of the side effects. Now i desperately want Accutane and be done with it all, but my mother still says no. I would say go for it if he really wants it, but i agree it is a serious drug. However, it can't be much worse than taking antibiotics for a long time imo

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Just feeling really down and defeated by acne... Been trying to help my young teen son for years now... trying so many different things. It's emotionally and physically exhausting. I think about it constantly, worry about how his skin will look in different social situations, worry about what people think of him, etc. I'm so tired of him waking up to new breakouts and whiteheads every morning. I don't understand how some people with severe acne can go through life seemingly happy and not bothered by it. Maybe it depends on people's personalities.

Anyone else feel this way? I feel so powerless and defeated. It's very depressing sad.png

Thx for listening, just wanted to vent my frustration.

p.s. yes I've thought about Accutane many times... but trying to avoid it. I took it long ago as a teen, haven't had any major effects from it, but I know how dangerous it is. Trying to exhaust all other options before resorting to it.

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