I posted this in the emotional forum but wanted to post this as well in the adult acne forum as its for ppl 25 and over.
I am 26 male. I currently have no job and not even looking for it due to my acne. I live with my parents. Basically a few months ago my face has erupted with acne. I went on vacation just to get away from them but broke out later on in the vacation. I haven't had acne like this since back a few years ago when it cleared up.
I come back home and I was broken out in my face. However it wasn't that big of a deal because i know in a few weeks my face would probably clear if i just stay inside the house and not eat any junk food etc and clean my face. Well my parents would just get upset at me and say stuff like when you going to look for a job. I said after my face clears up then i start looking. However, my mother kept coming into my room every week or so and have this talk with me like how you should look for a job as you are getting older etc and i understand what she is coming from. She then goes well if you dont get married by 30, then im going to get an arranged marriage for you etc... well she didn't say it exactly like this but you get what i'm trying to say. I know that any guy that hears this from their mother would obviously get pissed off. I told her stop saying this stuff to me because i would get angry and when i get angry like normal ppl i get stressed and my acne would get worst. Its like she keeps on doing this over and over again and i tell her to stop.
The other thing is she wants me to eat food with the family. However, i hate it b/c i told her so many times they food she makes, its not good for my acne. I told her so many times, stop cooking food for me. I go and cook my own food and eat the stuff i buy etc. She goes oh don't worry its just so and so and i just get very upset. Why you ask? Because everytime i eat anything like that, my face breaks out within 3 days. And the worst part is i have tons of red marks as a result of it. I told her please stop it.
Then there is my father. Whenever he sees food at a discount in a supermarket he would buy it. Wheres the problem though? He would buy those junk food such as ice cream bars and sandwiches and then put it in the fridge. The problem is stuff like that i'm very addicted to and those stuff give me pimples immediately. Thats why i never buy that stuff and avoid it. But what does he do? He buys it but doesn't even eat it. He just leaves it there and the only reason he buys it is because its CHEAP. I told him quit buying that stuff because last time i couldn't resist and ate some of it and then broke out even more. He then goes well just stop eating it then... WHO'S TELLING YOU TO EAT IT? Well i then said no one is and i try to stop eating it buts its so damn hard when its right in the fridge. The worst part is he NEVER EATS IT... he just leaves it there. The thing is i know how to avoid eating foods that aggraviate acne but isn't buying stuff like that and putting it in the fridge making it hard to not even try? The thing is i see it all that time and don't even touch it for like a month and then suddenly i go and get one b/c i couldn't resist. I know its my fault but does anyone here think this is just bad? He also smokes a lot and my mother told her to quit smoking. He still does it but not as much.. I told him this How about you aren't not allowed to smoke but we just put a pack of cigarettes on the table right next to you. You think that would be tough on you? Does anyone see where i'm going with this or is my logic wrong.
I then last time would then eat with them and then they make some eggs. I told them so many times if i eat with them, don't make that stuff. Basically just make vegetables and chicken and thats it. No sauce or anything as well. And recently when i was eating with them, i forgot and then ate some crabs and then broke out even more in my face where i then broke down very hard inside my room because of it. Then my mother/father would go okay starting from now then, we not cooking anything you cook food for yourself then. I go... you said said 15 times already. After i go cook my own food and eat by myself you then say lets all eat the same food etc. its like the same process going over and over again.
I know its my fault for eating those food such as ice cream and crab etc but I completely forgot about the crabs. The reason was b/c before i ate the crab my face was clearing up so much a few days before that i got happy so i forgot about it. Then after i ate it, next day my face just broke out so much again.
I really hate my parents so much. I told them so many times quit doing that and they never listen. They go you can't just eat vegetables and chicken everyday etc. I told them i'm trying to clear my acne and they say fine okay but after some time, they always do crap where its causes me more acne such as leaving certain food i can't resist on the table or stressing me out. Last time i screamed at them and said my acne is getting better but now you come into my room and talk about stuff i dont want to hear and now im stressed out more. And as a result, i get more pimples the next few days.
Does anyone here have an opinion on this? Am i over the line with getting mad at them? Before someone says get your own place, i do have the money to get my own place. However, i would then be paying a lot of rent but wouldn't have a job so i would run out of money pretty quickly. Does anyone here think this is wrong of them or of me to get angry at them? I told them so many times i would look for a job once my acne gets controlled and they go okay but they would then stress me out every 2 weeks so my acne then gets even worst b/c i'm screaming since they keep talk about my future etc.
All i ask them is to quit stressing me out when i am trying to clear my acne. Is that too much to ask? I'm tryng to clear my acne so i can go and try to have a normal life. Most ppl my age already have jobs and some even are married and have kids already. They would tell me to drink the soup and say its good for you... but i have no clue if that soup is bad for the skin or not. That could be another reason why my acne is getting worst. I tell them quit putting those junk food right in the middle of a place since they DON'T EVEN EAT IT.
Am i asking too much from them? I know if i was a parent and my kid had acne and told me this stuff, i would never stress him/her out because i would know what going through acne is like. They just don't give a damn. Last time they said oh you don't even have that many pimples etc and you are a guy and not a girl so quit worrying about it. But then recently my mother saw my face erupted a lot and then didn't say that. I then said... are you happy now? You're the reason for this. Stressing me out over and over again. Now my face is so bad that i can't even leave the house anymore. And the acne i have is lots of cysts so anyone know what a cyst is can tell why i'm angry.