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#81 Zynko

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Posted 08 April 2013 - 03:47 PM

There are only two things I want in life: 1) for my skin to clear up now and 2) to have enough money when I retire to live comfortably. I am focused on achieving  thse two goals. Everything else in inconsequential to me. 

 

There is no point in constantly being depressed and whining about life. Some of you guys need to get a goal and work towards it. If you want to make your goal to be losing your virginity, then go do what it takes to find a gf. If you don't want to find a gf, take a vacation to Nevada where it is legal to hire a prostitute in certain parts of the state. You have to be pro-active.

 

If you are not going to do anything to improve your situation, stop your whining because it doesn't help you or anyone else.

True words. I have the same exact goals, because of acne and having a lot of free time(not being social) I was lucky enough to achieve the money part early in my career, however I would add 3rd goal to this list, which for me is to find a gf/wife. Money without someone special is not worth it, trust me. 


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Posted 08 April 2013 - 09:02 PM

I'm not a virgin, but I've mostly been with ugly people. Never been with someone I realy like.

 

I don't have any expectations about being in a relationship one day. It just seems unreal.


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Posted 08 April 2013 - 09:02 PM

Thanks Zynko.

 

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only who thinks the way I do. Having a wife/gf would be nice but it is not that important to me. I have struggled for years with cystic acne and I am sick of it. I would rather have clear skin then anything else in the world.

 

 

There are only two things I want in life: 1) for my skin to clear up now and 2) to have enough money when I retire to live comfortably. I am focused on achieving  thse two goals. Everything else in inconsequential to me. 

 

There is no point in constantly being depressed and whining about life. Some of you guys need to get a goal and work towards it. If you want to make your goal to be losing your virginity, then go do what it takes to find a gf. If you don't want to find a gf, take a vacation to Nevada where it is legal to hire a prostitute in certain parts of the state. You have to be pro-active.

 

If you are not going to do anything to improve your situation, stop your whining because it doesn't help you or anyone else.

True words. I have the same exact goals, because of acne and having a lot of free time(not being social) I was lucky enough to achieve the money part early in my career, however I would add 3rd goal to this list, which for me is to find a gf/wife. Money without someone special is not worth it, trust me. 



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Posted 11 April 2013 - 04:10 AM

At least you guys can work and have a career. I have depression because I have no friends and do not socialize (because of acne of course) and at the moment I am unable to work. I just did an internship last fall (it was part of my studies) and it was a complete disaster. I was let go after 2 1/2 months because I didn't have the strength to work.

So now I have to go back living in my parents' house and I will be 25 this year :(

But I am in therapy and I will go to a clinic in a couple of months, so hopefully this will turn things around. Just so you know I am not only whining about things, I am also doing something about it.


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Posted 11 April 2013 - 04:59 AM

Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.


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Posted 10 March 2014 - 09:49 AM

Early this morning, I felt different and lonely in my thoughts. I wonder if its normal for me to still retain my status. By the way, I'm 27 and I'm a virigin. I lack words to describe how I felt this morning. I've had a lot of stories about guys being virigin and some even went to the extent of saying that a guy is a virgin as a result of his inability to chat with ladies but its not true. Majority of my friends are ladies and sometimes, some of them pass the night in my apartment and I use to have a girlfriend but she left because of my decision not to have sex. It have not being easy but I'm determined to win

 



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Posted 15 March 2014 - 05:29 PM

Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

just wondering, some1 who has no active acne but has acne scars - ur still gonna reject?

and btw i think ur abit of a hypocrate. u judge people with acne as if they are lesser beings, and ur actually one of those people! its horrible.

 

Early this morning, I felt different and lonely in my thoughts. I wonder if its normal for me to still retain my status. By the way, I'm 27 and I'm a virigin. I lack words to describe how I felt this morning. I've had a lot of stories about guys being virigin and some even went to the extent of saying that a guy is a virgin as a result of his inability to chat with ladies but its not true. Majority of my friends are ladies and sometimes, some of them pass the night in my apartment and I use to have a girlfriend but she left because of my decision not to have sex. It have not being easy but I'm determined to win

im just curious, why on earth?



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Posted 16 March 2014 - 12:07 PM

Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

just wondering, some1 who has no active acne but has acne scars - ur still gonna reject?

and btw i think ur abit of a hypocrate. u judge people with acne as if they are lesser beings, and ur actually one of those people! its horrible.

 


 

I don't know if I'm a hypocrite but I am for sure an incredibly insecure person with a low self esteem. I'm convinced that I can never have a boyfriend, because I'm too ugly because of acne. I think that I can never be good enough for someone with clear skin. So if someone with acne liked me I would think "he only likes me because he's not good enough for girls with clear skin and that's why he's turning to me" Kinda like a backup. But I want to have the reassurance that somebody wants to be with me even though he could have been with other girls, if he wanted. I need to know that he really likes me for me and that I'm not just second choice. And (in my mind) people with clear skin can give me that feeling because they could be with other people if they wanted to. Maybe I can move past this one day and be a better person. Sorry!


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Posted 16 March 2014 - 04:57 PM

 

Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

just wondering, some1 who has no active acne but has acne scars - ur still gonna reject?

and btw i think ur abit of a hypocrate. u judge people with acne as if they are lesser beings, and ur actually one of those people! its horrible.

 


 

I don't know if I'm a hypocrite but I am for sure an incredibly insecure person with a low self esteem. I'm convinced that I can never have a boyfriend, because I'm too ugly because of acne. I think that I can never be good enough for someone with clear skin. So if someone with acne liked me I would think "he only likes me because he's not good enough for girls with clear skin and that's why he's turning to me" Kinda like a backup. But I want to have the reassurance that somebody wants to be with me even though he could have been with other girls, if he wanted. I need to know that he really likes me for me and that I'm not just second choice. And (in my mind) people with clear skin can give me that feeling because they could be with other people if they wanted to. Maybe I can move past this one day and be a better person. Sorry!

dont be sorry, ur buisness is ur buisness. but u should know that people has many things to offer expect thier looks.

so do u really believe u have nothing to offer expect ur looks?

and also, i dont think theres many guys whos just gonna date u as 'backup'. that can happen if they just wanna get some, but if its a relationship, why would they date some1 they dont like? even if its the worst case like u think that somebody initially chose u as 'backup', this relationship can still develop to be something good. u just never know.


Edited by mazgan, 16 March 2014 - 04:58 PM.


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Posted 17 March 2014 - 08:53 PM

I get acne from ejaculation wtf. 



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Posted 17 March 2014 - 10:57 PM

I'm 19 and I'm a virgin too. Sometimes I care and it makes me feel self-conscious, but then I remember, oh yeah, it's not a big deal. You're fine, man. Sex is kinda objectively gross anyway, and you won't enjoy it if you're so worked up over having sex just to have sex. Don't sweat it, someone will have sex with you one day sooner than you think, I promise. :P If I were you, I'd focus more on finding some friends who don't belittle you for inane shit. 



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Posted 26 May 2014 - 12:14 PM

Don't worry, it seems like theres a lot of pressure to lose it, especially during high school (which Im finishing this year). Ive been in a few relationships but I dont really have an interest in losing mine yet, cause Im waiting for someone I can see myself spending the forseeable future with. It seems like the majority of the guys Ive dated havent been too thrilled with my wanting to wait though lol. I would say just wait till someone you trust and love comes along and try to ignore the people who are putting you down for it.


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Posted 27 May 2014 - 04:23 AM

There are far more male virgins than female virgins. Women are naturally attracted to symettry, compact midfaces, flawless olive skin, dark hair, low hairlines, and height.

 

Male beauty is NOT subjective. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Being born male an "average looking" or ugly male is a SCAM. 



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Posted 27 May 2014 - 03:22 PM

There are far more male virgins than female virgins. Women are naturally attracted to symettry, compact midfaces, flawless olive skin, dark hair, low hairlines, and height.

 

Male beauty is NOT subjective. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Being born male an "average looking" or ugly male is a SCAM. 

I don't know about the subjectivity, but it is obvious to me that women are completely brainwashed by the media, Hollywood, the beauty industry, the porn industry, etc. You know what I mean. People say that men only care about looks. That's a lie. Research indicates that it is exactly the other way around. Men care less about looks as they have more sex drive fueled by testosterone. You wonder why women wear so much make up in the first place and the way they dress. It is about the competition between women, not about attracting men.



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Posted 27 May 2014 - 03:53 PM

I think it just depends on the girl really, I know girls who have very high standards and girls with no standards at all, and girls that fall somewhere in the middle. I don't really care much how a guy looks (of course it would be nice if I found them handsome, its just not particularly important to me), I'm more concerned with how they treat people and whether we're compatible. I'm struggling with body image issues my self though, so I may be more forgiving in that area then is considered normal.


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Posted 28 May 2014 - 12:34 AM

I think it just depends on the girl really, I know girls who have very high standards and girls with no standards at all, and girls that fall somewhere in the middle. I don't really care much how a guy looks (of course it would be nice if I found them handsome, its just not particularly important to me), I'm more concerned with how they treat people and whether we're compatible. I'm struggling with body image issues my self though, so I may be more forgiving in that area then is considered normal.

I think you are an exception to the rule.



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Posted 28 May 2014 - 12:47 AM

I have juicy sex all the time,

 

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Posted 29 May 2014 - 10:08 AM

hate this.

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Posted 08 June 2014 - 10:34 PM

Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. I was a virgin until I was 18. It's honestly not even a sliver of the deal everyone makes it out to be. I didn't feel any different; it didn't change me at all. I know you are feeling badly about this, but you are not weird, and it's a lot more common to be a virgin at 19 than you think! Any girl who would care you are a virgin is honestly not a very good person, and she is not worthy of being with you. I know no matter how old a man was, it would not bother me one bit if he was a virgin. Anyway, virginity is an awful social construct created to instill shame around sexuality. I really hope you will find peace with yourself. You will experience your first sexual encounters when the time is right. What it all comes down to is chance and timing. In the mean time, you have everything you need to experience the wonderful pleasure your body can provide. Enjoy. You will find someone to share this pleasure with before you know it.

You! Yes, you. The one reading this. You are beautiful, talented, amazing and simply the best at being you. Never forget that.

 

You don't have to be pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to you boyfriend/spouse/partner. Not to your coworkers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked "female."

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Posted 09 June 2014 - 12:59 PM

Sex in and of itself, i.e. the physical act, isn't all that it's trumped up to be anyway. This is especially surprising given the hypersexualization of literally EVERYTHING around you, haha. Rarely, if ever, is it the mind-blowing, state-of-nirvana type shit that you see in movies. Actually, it ends up being and feeling a little awkward most of the time.

 

It becomes a lot more enjoyable when there's trust as well as a bond of some sort between the two people. If it's only the sex you feel like you're missing out on, then you're not really missing out on much. I personally derive a lot more enjoyment out of just blazing a fatty and touching myself before chillaxing to some doc about WWII or the cosmos. Life's good ma man.


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