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Being A Virgin...

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Why so desperate to lose your virginity?

When ever you see a young woman or a young man push a pram, do they ever look happy?

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Ok, I won't quote you, but I will reply to you. ;-)

Although, you're correct in what you're saying, i'll stress to you and everybody that there is no 100% guaranteed saftey when it comes to contraception.

Another thing I will stress to people is that those who are desperate to lose their virgity often do it while they're heavily intoxicated, so they don't feel as nervous as a first timer. Of course, being heavily intoxicated has its consequencies, such as not thinking things through clearly and neglecting the proper contraceptive procedures.

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Ok, I won't quote you, but I will reply to you. ;-)

Although, you're correct in what you're saying, i'll stress to you and everybody that there is no 100% guaranteed saftey when it comes to contraception.

Another thing I will stress to people is that those who are desperate to lose their virgity often do it while they're heavily intoxicated, so they don't feel as nervous as a first timer. Of course, being heavily intoxicated has its consequencies, such as not thinking things through clearly and neglecting the proper contraceptive procedures.

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Hey guys, first time poster here long time lurker. Right now i'm 19 and still a virgin, only had one girl friend and all we did was kiss. But after having acne mild to heavy for about 4 years i'm pretty scarred inside and out, seriously f**k puberty. Anyways since we broke up i have a terrifying fear i'll never find another girl that finds me attractive, seeing as i have little social skills and don't really go out. I just can't approach girls, I mean if you know me I give off confidence but throw a cute girl in and i'm looking down and quiet...-.- maybe one day i'll get it down.

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There are only two things I want in life: 1) for my skin to clear up now and 2) to have enough money when I retire to live comfortably. I am focused on achieving thse two goals. Everything else in inconsequential to me.

There is no point in constantly being depressed and whining about life. Some of you guys need to get a goal and work towards it. If you want to make your goal to be losing your virginity, then go do what it takes to find a gf. If you don't want to find a gf, take a vacation to Nevada where it is legal to hire a prostitute in certain parts of the state. You have to be pro-active.

If you are not going to do anything to improve your situation, stop your whining because it doesn't help you or anyone else.

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There are only two things I want in life: 1) for my skin to clear up now and 2) to have enough money when I retire to live comfortably. I am focused on achieving thse two goals. Everything else in inconsequential to me.

There is no point in constantly being depressed and whining about life. Some of you guys need to get a goal and work towards it. If you want to make your goal to be losing your virginity, then go do what it takes to find a gf. If you don't want to find a gf, take a vacation to Nevada where it is legal to hire a prostitute in certain parts of the state. You have to be pro-active.

If you are not going to do anything to improve your situation, stop your whining because it doesn't help you or anyone else.

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I'm not a virgin, but I've mostly been with ugly people. Never been with someone I realy like.

I don't have any expectations about being in a relationship one day. It just seems unreal.

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Thanks Zynko.

I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only who thinks the way I do. Having a wife/gf would be nice but it is not that important to me. I have struggled for years with cystic acne and I am sick of it. I would rather have clear skin then anything else in the world.

There are only two things I want in life: 1) for my skin to clear up now and 2) to have enough money when I retire to live comfortably. I am focused on achieving thse two goals. Everything else in inconsequential to me.

There is no point in constantly being depressed and whining about life. Some of you guys need to get a goal and work towards it. If you want to make your goal to be losing your virginity, then go do what it takes to find a gf. If you don't want to find a gf, take a vacation to Nevada where it is legal to hire a prostitute in certain parts of the state. You have to be pro-active.

If you are not going to do anything to improve your situation, stop your whining because it doesn't help you or anyone else.

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At least you guys can work and have a career. I have depression because I have no friends and do not socialize (because of acne of course) and at the moment I am unable to work. I just did an internship last fall (it was part of my studies) and it was a complete disaster. I was let go after 2 1/2 months because I didn't have the strength to work.

So now I have to go back living in my parents' house and I will be 25 this year :(

But I am in therapy and I will go to a clinic in a couple of months, so hopefully this will turn things around. Just so you know I am not only whining about things, I am also doing something about it.


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Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.


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Early this morning, I felt different and lonely in my thoughts. I wonder if its normal for me to still retain my status. By the way, I'm 27 and I'm a virigin. I lack words to describe how I felt this morning. I've had a lot of stories about guys being virigin and some even went to the extent of saying that a guy is a virgin as a result of his inability to chat with ladies but its not true. Majority of my friends are ladies and sometimes, some of them pass the night in my apartment and I use to have a girlfriend but she left because of my decision not to have sex. It have not being easy but I'm determined to win

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Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

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Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

just wondering, some1 who has no active acne but has acne scars - ur still gonna reject?

and btw i think ur abit of a hypocrate. u judge people with acne as if they are lesser beings, and ur actually one of those people! its horrible.


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Also I think it's interesting how we seem to have different preferences when it comes to relationships. Some say that they want a partner who also has acne, because he/she can better understand what we're going through. But I wouldn't want to have a partner who has acne. I want somebody with clear skin.

Whenever I see a couple where both have acne it really upsets me, because I think "They are only together because they weren't good enough for somebody who didn't have acne." And whenever I see a couple where one of them has acne and the other one hasn't, it makes me really happy. That's why I want somebody with clear skin.

just wondering, some1 who has no active acne but has acne scars - ur still gonna reject?

and btw i think ur abit of a hypocrate. u judge people with acne as if they are lesser beings, and ur actually one of those people! its horrible.

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I get acne from ejaculation wtf.

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I'm 19 and I'm a virgin too. Sometimes I care and it makes me feel self-conscious, but then I remember, oh yeah, it's not a big deal. You're fine, man. Sex is kinda objectively gross anyway, and you won't enjoy it if you're so worked up over having sex just to have sex. Don't sweat it, someone will have sex with you one day sooner than you think, I promise. :P If I were you, I'd focus more on finding some friends who don't belittle you for inane shit.

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Don't worry, it seems like theres a lot of pressure to lose it, especially during high school (which Im finishing this year). Ive been in a few relationships but I dont really have an interest in losing mine yet, cause Im waiting for someone I can see myself spending the forseeable future with. It seems like the majority of the guys Ive dated havent been too thrilled with my wanting to wait though lol. I would say just wait till someone you trust and love comes along and try to ignore the people who are putting you down for it.

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There are far more male virgins than female virgins. Women are naturally attracted to symettry, compact midfaces, flawless olive skin, dark hair, low hairlines, and height.

Male beauty is NOT subjective. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Being born male an "average looking" or ugly male is a SCAM.

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There are far more male virgins than female virgins. Women are naturally attracted to symettry, compact midfaces, flawless olive skin, dark hair, low hairlines, and height.

Male beauty is NOT subjective. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Being born male an "average looking" or ugly male is a SCAM.

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I think it just depends on the girl really, I know girls who have very high standards and girls with no standards at all, and girls that fall somewhere in the middle. I don't really care much how a guy looks (of course it would be nice if I found them handsome, its just not particularly important to me), I'm more concerned with how they treat people and whether we're compatible. I'm struggling with body image issues my self though, so I may be more forgiving in that area then is considered normal.


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I am the Messenger Unwind Series The Summer I became a Nerd

The Fault in our Stars The Kill Order Fetch

The Divine Comedy Origin (1st) Pretties/Uglies

Journey to the Centre of the Earth Vitro (2nd) The Knife of Never Letting Go


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I think it just depends on the girl really, I know girls who have very high standards and girls with no standards at all, and girls that fall somewhere in the middle. I don't really care much how a guy looks (of course it would be nice if I found them handsome, its just not particularly important to me), I'm more concerned with how they treat people and whether we're compatible. I'm struggling with body image issues my self though, so I may be more forgiving in that area then is considered normal.

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hate this.

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Being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. I was a virgin until I was 18. It's honestly not even a sliver of the deal everyone makes it out to be. I didn't feel any different; it didn't change me at all. I know you are feeling badly about this, but you are not weird, and it's a lot more common to be a virgin at 19 than you think! Any girl who would care you are a virgin is honestly not a very good person, and she is not worthy of being with you. I know no matter how old a man was, it would not bother me one bit if he was a virgin. Anyway, virginity is an awful social construct created to instill shame around sexuality. I really hope you will find peace with yourself. You will experience your first sexual encounters when the time is right. What it all comes down to is chance and timing. In the mean time, you have everything you need to experience the wonderful pleasure your body can provide. Enjoy. You will find someone to share this pleasure with before you know it.

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Sex in and of itself, i.e. the physical act, isn't all that it's trumped up to be anyway. This is especially surprising given the hypersexualization of literally EVERYTHING around you, haha. Rarely, if ever, is it the mind-blowing, state-of-nirvana type shit that you see in movies. Actually, it ends up being and feeling a little awkward most of the time.

It becomes a lot more enjoyable when there's trust as well as a bond of some sort between the two people. If it's only the sex you feel like you're missing out on, then you're not really missing out on much. I personally derive a lot more enjoyment out of just blazing a fatty and touching myself before chillaxing to some doc about WWII or the cosmos. Life's good ma man.

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