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[fatalbert911]

im a 19 yo guy & i'm proud to say that i have a loving mother who's always been there for me & my little sister. she's always keept food in our stomachs and roof on our heads., she's even gotten me those little things like my ps3, and a nice tv. i realise now that these things cost alot money. i'm a pretty lucky guy to have her support, she just wants me to get educated & be somebody in life. I want to make her proud of me, it's the least i can do after raising me these last 19 years. i gotta look out for my lil sis aswell she needs her big brother, i welcome the responsibility to help out & have some extra cash in my pocket. the thing is ik it's hard enough to hold a job down as it is & throwing acne in the mix just makes thing's that much harder. For those of you that work, i'm curious to know how do you deal with going to your job mostly & how do you keep motivated just to do what your paid to do anyways? knowing myself i already know this is going to be a problem for me, with stuff like interacting with plp and such. so how do you guys deal with it & also please if you know of any jobs that a 19 year old could do with preferably little to no human contact do share your wisdom because honesty for the time being i would prefer to just do my own thing sense I'c developed the personality of a loner. All thanks to acne of course, so i'd really appreciate the info. the first thing i'm going to do is save up money to hopefully fix my face & make it normal as possible because i just can't be happy with myself until then =/

Edited by fatalbert911, 13 August 2012 - 12:48 AM.

[Lilly75]

First thing that came to mind job-wise was something in a call center because I worked in one for a few months earlier this year. I thought it would be good because you're not dealing with people face to face (apart from other people who work there) so having acne wouldn't be an issue. I couldn't deal with the actual job though - found it rather stressful and on some days you could get a lot of abuse from callers - which I also found hard to deal with. I also didn't like sitting in a cubicle for nearly the entire shift. But that's just me. It could be a job and environment that you find fine to work in.(Personally I think I need to work in an environment where I am dealing with people face-to-face, even though I do have acne. Hopefully that will help with my confidence too). A call center might not be the best thing out there, but at least you'd be earning some money to help out with/give back to your family and save up for whatever skin treatment you're looking into.


Anyway - good luck with the job hunt

[tricky]

I feel for you. I know what its like. But you have to manage your mental health along with your acne. .. and people need interaction. I had CBT therapy for several years and really can not stress enough that you need to try and stop letting your acne rule your life ( I know its easier said than done). ALso worth mentioning that people tend to mirror behaviour.. so if you are self conscious and embarrassed about your acne, others will be too. But if you are care free about it when around others, so will they be. Obviously there are nasty people around (and at 19 there’s probably quite a few!) but once you get out there (especially in the work place)… you’ll find that most people are very understanding. Just surround yourself with nice people.

You could try and work in the charity sector for example. I work for a homeless charity and because we are dealing with people who have REAL issues, I wasnt self conscious about my acne (its cleared up now thanks to Dans Regime). You could start volunteering at a soup kitchen/run at night for example. You’ll interact with people and if you don’t like it you can always quit. It’ll also give you some experience of working in the sector, and look good on your CV.

Just an idea. Basically you really do need to interact with people and not let the acne lead to mental health issues.. which it sounds like it is doing to you.

All the best.

[QuietJamie14]

Right now my job is ideal, as it's a combination of research and teaching. The research side means that I can spend a lot of time by myself, away from the stares of others, but on the other hand I have to stand up and teach classes of 18-22 year olds and also have to present my research at conferences, speaking in front of crowds of experts. I just force myself to do these (scary) tasks because I ultimately love what I do and refuse to let acne (or more accurately the self-consciousness that acne causes) to hold me back anymore. I did let it hold me back when it came to dating because in that situation I am being judged on my looks; but when it comes to work, the only thing that matters is that I'm good at what I do and looks are irrelevant.

I'm 28 now but when I was your age I worked in shops, serving customers for hours on end - again, hard to do when you're embarrassed by your own face. But I did those jobs because they helped me to get where I wanted to be in life.

I think it's great that you want to try and get your skin treated - but my advice is to not wait until your face is clear before going out to work and living your life.

[Ilovemesomevanity]

im a lifeguard and i get paid $12/hour, pretty good for an 18 yr old highschool student
imo its better to get a job that forces you to talk to people, otherwise youll just be a loner forever. trust me, ive gotten a lot more confident since i started lifeguarding, and everyones really nice! and idk any part time jobs that dont have to do with people interactions anyways

[HelloLovve]

Wow, you sound like an awesome guy! Your mom is probably so proud of you!!

And wow, do I feel your pain. I hated going to work because of my skin sometimes. I had two jobs in college. My main source of income was working at a newspaper. This was good for me because only my co-workers saw me. Who btw, seemed to be dealing with their own skin issues. All the ads that went into the paper were done over the phone or by e-mail. I very rarely had to see a customer in person. I actually really enjoyed that job. I also worked on the weekends at a grocery store in the bakery department. I baked bread. This position didn't require me to see anyone. I just made bread all day in a small room by myself. It's hard staying motivated to do something you're not passionate about. I was going to college to teach, which I love doing. Even now, when I get the occassional breakout, going into a classroom to sub is hard bc I'm so self-concious. But as you grow up you do what you have to do. It paid my bills, paid my tuition, and paid for my acne meds, lol.

I've definitely learned that everyone is suffering from their own body issues. If it's not acne, it's their weight, their teeth, their hair, etc. You just have to keep your head up.

Good luck! And don't let your skin run your life.

[fatalbert911]

thank's guys for the replies, i like the idea of having a some type of call person job although i know something like that is probably stressful, well ik it depend on who you work for. Also i din't know you could be a lifeguard at 18?! lol that's awesome but i'm assuming that your acne isn't all to bad though if your willing to have such a public job as that one. quitejame14 i could see myself doing something like that back in high school i had to present project's to the class a few times ad i like to think i'm a pretty good speaker myself. i do want to go to college an all that but as you may guess my skin is what has been preventing me from even looking into it up to this point. i realize that the world moving towards a more intellectual based economy rather then Manuel labor so i don't want to fall behind on that aspect. i gotta really start to look into that soon...

[Binga]

thank's guys for the replies, i like the idea of having a some type of call person job although i know something like that is probably stressful, well ik it depend on who you work for. Also i din't know you could be a lifeguard at 18?! lol that's awesome but i'm assuming that your acne isn't all to bad though if your willing to have such a public job as that one. quitejame14 i could see myself doing something like that back in high school i had to present project's to the class a few times ad i like to think i'm a pretty good speaker myself. i do want to go to college an all that but as you may guess my skin is what has been preventing me from even looking into it up to this point. i realize that the world moving towards a more intellectual based economy rather then Manuel labor so i don't want to fall behind on that aspect. i gotta really start to look into that soon...

Look into computer programming/science and see if you like it.

[fatalbert911]

Wow, you sound like an awesome guy! Your mom is probably so proud of you!!

And wow, do I feel your pain. I hated going to work because of my skin sometimes. I had two jobs in college. My main source of income was working at a newspaper. This was good for me because only my co-workers saw me. Who btw, seemed to be dealing with their own skin issues. All the ads that went into the paper were done over the phone or by e-mail. I very rarely had to see a customer in person. I actually really enjoyed that job. I also worked on the weekends at a grocery store in the bakery department. I baked bread. This position didn't require me to see anyone. I just made bread all day in a small room by myself. It's hard staying motivated to do something you're not passionate about. I was going to college to teach, which I love doing. Even now, when I get the occassional breakout, going into a classroom to sub is hard bc I'm so self-concious. But as you grow up you do what you have to do. It paid my bills, paid my tuition, and paid for my acne meds, lol.

I've definitely learned that everyone is suffering from their own body issues. If it's not acne, it's their weight, their teeth, their hair, etc. You just have to keep your head up.

Good luck! And don't let your skin run your life.

well thanks for the compliment & uh yeah my mom's loves me unconditionally. you say you worked at a newspaper place ey? that doesn't seem like a bad idea i might ask around to see if they need a paper boy or something lol. a bakery job seems like a job idea as well especially if i'm by myself like you where. so what i plan to do is keep on looking for stuff see if i'm lucky enough to find a solitary job. but if i cant and i don't manage to do my research about the whole college thing then i probably suiting up and heading down to the local us recruitment branch lol although i wouldn't know witch one of them i'd join.