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[snsdgirl14]

I'm sure we all have a lot of days where we don't want to get out of bed. Not for the normal reasons of "I'm so lazy" "My bed is so comfortable" but more like we don't feel like facing the world today with our insecurities.

I feel this a lot. For some reason, it's the worst in the morning. I'll go to the mirror and inspect my skin (a terrible habit) and think "such-and-such looks so obvious!" and wonder when it's all going to get better. Then I end up going back to bed and trying to fall back asleep.

My question is, what do you guys do to cheer yourselves up and get out of bed for the new day? Sometimes I give myself pep talks, thinking that if I don't get up and face the world today, I'll regret it. Or that I'm my own worst critic and no one will judge me. Or that I need to keep on living, I can't stop just because I'm insecure about something.

What do you guys do? looking for more tips..

[ClearDreaming]

More often or not when I force myself out of bed its because I HAVE to go somewhere. I've said I'll meet someone, and if I dont go, or keep cancelling, they will wonder why, and then at some point I am going to have to own up and go 'hey guys, I spend all my time in my room cus my skin is bad' and then I think they'd probably just laugh at me, because it probably does sound ridiculous to everyone else.

But I could also do with some more tips, I'm sure a lot of us could.

[snsdgirl14]

More often or not when I force myself out of bed its because I HAVE to go somewhere. I've said I'll meet someone, and if I dont go, or keep cancelling, they will wonder why, and then at some point I am going to have to own up and go 'hey guys, I spend all my time in my room cus my skin is bad' and then I think they'd probably just laugh at me, because it probably does sound ridiculous to everyone else.

Yeah I know haha. I've imagined myself telling my friends before and I think they'd be there for me at first, but then probably think I'm overreacting too. I know if one of my friends told me that, I'd support them, but I'd also tell them they had to keep on living with the hope that it'll eventually get better (and it will).

[ClearDreaming]

Yep, exactly! I try to keep their views in mind.

[Vartell]

I force myself to get up, mainly as I have to head off to work or what not.
But those for bad days, I simply just turn on the music (That's my pep-talk) nothing like some loud music in the afternoon (My morning) to set the day in the right direction no matter what is holding you down.

Oh, I did tell two of my friends about why I avoid going out as often and they were beyond supportive (I'm not saying all will be but if they are truly your friends they will be). Heck, one told me to be proud of it, because it shows strong character...Can't say I agree 100% (Maybe 99%)

Edited by Vartell, 01 August 2012 - 08:23 AM.

[QuietJamie14]

Actually, this isn't a major issue for me because I've found something - unrelated to my appearance - that I enjoy in life. I have a passion for literature: creative writing, studying old manuscripts, learning medieval languages, interpreting and translating poetry, etc. I'm also lucky enough to research and teach what I love for a living. When I'm caught up in my work, I do bounce out of bed. When I'm immersed in my interests, I can forget about my skin for a while.

My acne/scarring has been getting me down a lot more in recent months, but that's because I've been actively dating and trying to attract women after years of not caring about all that stuff. So I've become self-conscious again, I guess. Now and then, there'll be a day when I don't want to face the world but I never allow myself to go back to bed and shut myself away (well, sometimes I shut myself away in a library but that's for work!).

Still, I'd recommend that you find something (whatever it might be) that fascinates and motivates you so much that you can put your skin worries aside, temporarily at least.

Follow your bliss, as Joseph Campbell said.

[snsdgirl14]

Thank you all for the quick advice! I know I have to just keep on going too. Life doesn't stop for anyone, cheesy as it sounds, and we all have our own problems - we just learn to deal with them. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm having my own self pity party. I want to be one of those people who gets up and lives each day to the fullest no matter what.

Actually, this isn't a major issue for me because I've found something - unrelated to my appearance - that I enjoy in life. I have a passion for literature: creative writing, studying old manuscripts, learning medieval languages, interpreting and translating poetry, etc. I'm also lucky enough to research and teach what I love for a living. When I'm caught up in my work, I do bounce out of bed. When I'm immersed in my interests, I can forget about my skin for a while.

My acne/scarring has been getting me down a lot more in recent months, but that's because I've been actively dating and trying to attract women after years of not caring about all that stuff. So I've become self-conscious again, I guess. Now and then, there'll be a day when I don't want to face the world but I never allow myself to go back to bed and shut myself away (well, sometimes I shut myself away in a library but that's for work!).

Still, I'd recommend that you find something (whatever it might be) that fascinates and motivates you so much that you can put your skin worries aside, temporarily at least.

Follow your bliss, as Joseph Campbell said.

Thank you! I find your post especially reassuring. Finding something you're passionate in definitely helps get your mind off other problems. If it helps, I'm sure your acne and scarring is not that bad, and I know many women who wouldn't care at all.

Another thing I often think of to get out of bed are my friends and people I know. They each have their own insecurities (weight problems, etc) yet they all get up and do their thing. One of my friends has acne problems like me and kind of red/blotchy skin, but she still gets up early everyday to run for her track team, AND goes to all her classes too. Makes me ashamed to think I've let my skin get in the way of class so many times. She's still one of the prettiest girls in our group even with acne, and I think her determination factors into that!

[Green Gables]

I have to work to pay my rent...don't have this luxury.

[tuffluck]

I was in the same situation then I forced myself to get the first job I could. I got hired fast and now i work 6 days a week. If it wasn't for my job I think I would have lost my damn mind. I was on the brink!

[snsdgirl14]

I have to work to pay my rent...don't have this luxury.

I'm on summer break right now which is why I can do this (university student) but when I go back to school in a month I will have to get up everyday for classes.

I'm more or less trying to 'train' myself to just get up and face the day no matter what, because I can't skip classes just for this...that'd be stupid on my part.

[Kairasa]

I sometimes feel that way, but I am a recent college postgrad trying to find a job/moving really far away/recently engaged, all at the same time. So there is a lot of change and stress coming my way. Honestly, I pray a lot. My faith is instrumental to my life, and by praying, I pray for God to strengthen me, to work through me, to help me trusting myself...not just for a magical band-aid to make life easy. I feel it's important to explain that and if I've become a bit wordy, I apologize. I have always been one to excessively talk. =P

Other than that, I do something very cheesy, and that is count my blessings. I start with whatever I can...I can walk, talk, see, read, and move on to things like I have a comfy bed, breakfast (or lunch) to look forward to, ect. Beauty and joy can really be found in little things. I encourage you to try. =)