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[hkimmy17]

I have moderately severe acne and I honestly don't care about what other people say about my face but it's my mom that tells me to buy make up so I can cover it up and always says things like "What is going on with your face? Your face is so gross, use Proactiv again!" or even "Did you see how grossed out that girl was? You really need to wear make up when we go out!". Her and my sister are always making fun of my acne and calling me ugly and they both have clear skin and it's just I don't even wanna use Proactiv anymore!
It's far too expensive and harsh on my skin!
I'd rather just use something cheap and soothing on my tired skin like those say yes to carrot things, I use the cucumber ones.
Whatever.

Edited by hkimmy17, 21 April 2012 - 12:31 AM.

[Lilly75]

I'm sorry you have to deal with your mom and sister's attitude toward your skin. That must be really hard.

I wish I could have the same attitude toward acne that you do though! I think half the problem with a lot of people with acne is that they obsess over it and obsess over needing and getting clear skin. I admire that you don't really care about it and have the confidence to forget about it.

If proactive is really too harsh for you it could be doing more damage than good. If that's the case then maybe it is something you should stop and you should look into other treatments for acne that are more gentle or maybe even natural treatments if that's what you wanted to do. Maybe you can explain that you'd rather use something gentle for your skin to your mom and let her know that the things she says about your acne 'isn't helping' (but you could probably find a better way to say it...).

Good luck with everything

[IronBull]

I'm awfully sorry about what your mum and sister say to you. Trust me, I've been through the same with my father. Just ignore what they have to say and try a more gentle product if Proactiv isn't going to well for you. Proactiv doesn't work for everybody. You are who you are, so don't let anybody get you down. Believe me, it's hard, but you just have to try and rise above it. That's what I do whenever people say stuff about me. Best of luck.

[Broseph]

Your family is killing your self esteem, you need to tell them to stop. It's hard enough to feel good about yourself with acne without your own family making fun of you for it. Just tell them to stop because their comments make you feel self-consious/unattractive/insecure. They should understand this, everyone is insecure about something. Admitting your insecurities won't make you look like a pussy, it takes a real boss to admit what makes them feel bad and it's a sign of maturity. Trust me, it won't be awkward and they will back off. Keep in mind though that they are probably doing it out of love wanting to help you look/feel more attractive, so be nice about it.

That said fixing your acne is still a great idea, if for nothing more than to improve your looks. Proactive is expensive and I wouldn't recommend it, especially as you've already tried it and it didn't work. Everyone is different so I'm not sure what to suggest. If you don't know where to start I'd try seeing a doctor/dermatologist or trying the regemin here on acne.org. If you have a family doctor I'm sure your mom would be more than happy to have him prescribe something for your acne. Don't wear make-up if you don't have to, it won't do your complexion any favours.

Good luck!

Edited by Broseph, 21 April 2012 - 01:32 AM.

[AutonomousOne1980]

trust me, there is noone with acne that doesnt care about it, its time to put that myth to rest.

Edited by AutonomousOne1980, 21 April 2012 - 11:05 AM.

[Ghostunit]

My parents sometimes say why I stopped applying proactiv. I do now just on acne, not on entire face. Hopefully to clear up soon. I'm sorry you're going through this. If that happened to me, I would move and just stay home and work. ;\

[anonymus]

you are not alone, trust me. i live with this every single day. with my moms rude comments just like that! i feel your pain girl.

Edited by anonymus, 26 April 2012 - 09:45 PM.

[collegeboy84]

I have moderately severe acne and I honestly don't care about what other people say about my face but it's my mom that tells me to buy make up so I can cover it up and always says things like "What is going on with your face? Your face is so gross, use Proactiv again!" or even "Did you see how grossed out that girl was? You really need to wear make up when we go out!". Her and my sister are always making fun of my acne and calling me ugly and they both have clear skin and it's just I don't even wanna use Proactiv anymore!
It's far too expensive and harsh on my skin!
I'd rather just use something cheap and soothing on my tired skin like those say yes to carrot things, I use the cucumber ones.
Whatever.

Siblings can be quite mean sometimes. I know, my brother the other day commented on how all my studying has given me a "wrinkly" forehead. I know this is easier said then done, but just focus on what you can control. Your young, raging hormones, acne is going to happen. Focus on your education, get yourself a high-paying job and in a few years when your rolling in money your mother and sibling may regret giving you a hard time when they are begging for some cash.

[WantThisAcneGone]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with your own mother and sister saying things like that about your acne. You'd think they would be mature enough and have enough common sense to understand that this is something you cannot help.

The best thing to do is try your best to block out, ignore the things they say and find a product that works best for you. Just take it one step at a time. Don't stress yourself out.

[Faerie87]

The worst thing is when family members are mean to you about your acne. My uncle once gave me a bar of soap and basically told me to use it for my acne. I was really hurt by that, especially at that time I was just starting my first ever prescription treatment.

[smik]

It doesn't sound like your mom is going about talking to you the right way at all, but at the same time I can't help feeling like maybe she is saying it so bluntly because she so desperately wants you (her child, a piece of her) to be as perfect as possible. It's an idea that will hardly meet standards, but really, who can blame a parent for wanting it? You represent things to her that she no longer can do, but you still have time for.

Talk to your mom about how you feel; confronting a person, family or no, with an empathetic but FIRM stance always get shiz done. Unless they are completely arrogant/ignorant.

[arqa22]

not all people should have premission to have kids....