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[k3tchup]

hmm im skinny as well, or lean/fit would be the appropriate term. 5'11" 150lbs (i think i haven't weighted my self since last year before i started exercising)

i dont have visible muscles, im not ripped out of my gourde or anything like that. I think i would be nice to have, i do have/am working on my core as abs are nice to have regardless!
But in reality i dont think it matters as much; thats just the stereotype at work at against us skinny people.

[PaulH85]

There are also the ones that hangout at Amoeba Records all the time and remember when they used to light the bar on fire at The Burgundy Room. They don't care what you look like, as long as you're in a band or film school and have a British accent.

Sounds good to me. Good job they wouldn't care because my skin will never be perfect and I weigh 112 at the most on a fat day, but I could save it right at the end there with a few guitar riffs and my accent. Maybe I'll have to move across the pond!

[Peony7]

There's more than 1 thing that attracts/turns off a woman and it is different for all of us. To be honest when I was younger every single guy I knew was skinny and it never put me off. There are other things that def put women off/attract them and it would be better for you to concentrate on those. As for your ex-girlfriend, well you will just have to chalk that one up as experience and look for someone less shallow next time.

[Lola Burns]

There are also the ones that hangout at Amoeba Records all the time and remember when they used to light the bar on fire at The Burgundy Room. They don't care what you look like, as long as you're in a band or film school and have a British accent.

Sounds good to me. Good job they wouldn't care because my skin will never be perfect and I weigh 112 at the most on a fat day, but I could save it right at the end there with a few guitar riffs and my accent. Maybe I'll have to move across the pond!

I used to know a British musician named Paul. He was very sweet and all the girls had crushes on him and all he had to do is say "hello love" and we'd giggle and blush like retarded little school girls.

[j0e7]

Start working out bro. im 5'7" and weighed 122lbs on april '11 because i thought food was a cause to my acne, so i would avoid many foods. However, my derm told me acne is not food related (unless you are allergic to a certain ingredient) and said to eat whatever i wanted that day and go visit her 2 days later. So i did, and never got a pimple. I am talking about this because i am prob sure you are going thru the same nutrition paranoia i was going through (that is why i weighed 122) I started getting on oratane and my life changed drastically. I am an inspiring bodybuilder now and i only have one goal, to make me feel the person i am worth, regardless of what people have to say. I am currently weighing 145 now and my physique has changed very much. I now get compliments from friends and family about how i have gained so much muscle and not look so skinny anymore. I suggest you find a legit treatment. If nothing has worked for you, go on tane man. It will definitely transform you into another person. I have more confidence in my self now. Work out , eat good, sleep well, and keep a positive mind. If you want any help dont mind messaging me. Im from Orange county, ca. Yeah, LA is a shit hole when it comes to peoples appearances. Dont stress over that man, keep your head up high.

And about the ladies, CONFIDENCE is the number one factor in you being able to succeed in getting a girl. Im not going to lie and tell you appearance isnt important, but if you have the confidence to approach a girl and show her you dont care about how you look, that will be a plus. I know friends friend who goes with us clubbing and he isnt a very good looking dude, but the way he thinks is what inspires me. When we go into a club, first thing he will do is start to approach ladies, if he gets rejected, he wont care, but eventually from the girls he has hit up all night he will end up with a couple girls numbers. He doesnt care about his appearance and is confident off the roof and that is why he gets girls numbers. He also doesnt get bummed out if he gets rejected. That is how we need to think. Its pretty difficult, but it can be done.

[AceEpidermis]

Start working out bro. im 5'7" and weighed 122lbs on april '11 because i thought food was a cause to my acne, so i would avoid many foods. However, my derm told me acne is not food related (unless you are allergic to a certain ingredient) and said to eat whatever i wanted that day and go visit her 2 days later. So i did, and never got a pimple. I am talking about this because i am prob sure you are going thru the same nutrition paranoia i was going through (that is why i weighed 122) I started getting on oratane and my life changed drastically. I am an inspiring bodybuilder now and i only have one goal, to make me feel the person i am worth, regardless of what people have to say. I am currently weighing 145 now and my physique has changed very much. I now get compliments from friends and family about how i have gained so much muscle and not look so skinny anymore. I suggest you find a legit treatment. If nothing has worked for you, go on tane man. It will definitely transform you into another person. I have more confidence in my self now. Work out , eat good, sleep well, and keep a positive mind. If you want any help dont mind messaging me. Im from Orange county, ca. Yeah, LA is a shit hole when it comes to peoples appearances. Dont stress over that man, keep your head up high.

I found that oddly inspirational, do you do any personal training by chance? If not, you seem well suited for the role.

With any luck I'll soon be entering into a daily workout regimen for the better part of a year. I'll be joining a gym intended for serious athletes with round the clock personal trainers, as I have issues with motivating myself when it comes to exercise. I'm doing this for three main reasons: to further a career in law enforcement, to increase my overall health, and to boost my confidence levels.

It will come with unique challenges, I'm sure. The two that I believe will be the most challenging is overcoming my sheer lack of fitness. I've never been truly fit; I've been skinny and I've been over my ideal weight, but I've never really experienced a point in my life where I was muscular or even really average for that matter. The second challenge will be adjusting any acne regimen around a workout schedule, which is more difficult than you might initially believe.

On the upside I have a goal, and one serious benefit working in my favor -- I have an incredible metabolism. when I was a child I would often eat 7 or 8 adult plates of food in a row, and yet at age 15 I was 5'11 and a mere 110 - 115 pounds. At the time I considered it a curse, but now that I've put on weight I've found that where some people have diets or genetics that necessitate months of exercise to lose a handful of pounds, I can lose 10 with ease over the course of a week and a half.

[PaulH85]

I used to know a British musician named Paul. He was very sweet and all the girls had crushes on him and all he had to do is say "hello love" and we'd giggle and blush like retarded little school girls.

Well, if that's all it takes then I'm sorted because I can say both of those words, in that exact order! I have all the necessary skills!

[j0e7]

Start working out bro. im 5'7" and weighed 122lbs on april '11 because i thought food was a cause to my acne, so i would avoid many foods. However, my derm told me acne is not food related (unless you are allergic to a certain ingredient) and said to eat whatever i wanted that day and go visit her 2 days later. So i did, and never got a pimple. I am talking about this because i am prob sure you are going thru the same nutrition paranoia i was going through (that is why i weighed 122) I started getting on oratane and my life changed drastically. I am an inspiring bodybuilder now and i only have one goal, to make me feel the person i am worth, regardless of what people have to say. I am currently weighing 145 now and my physique has changed very much. I now get compliments from friends and family about how i have gained so much muscle and not look so skinny anymore. I suggest you find a legit treatment. If nothing has worked for you, go on tane man. It will definitely transform you into another person. I have more confidence in my self now. Work out , eat good, sleep well, and keep a positive mind. If you want any help dont mind messaging me. Im from Orange county, ca. Yeah, LA is a shit hole when it comes to peoples appearances. Dont stress over that man, keep your head up high.

I found that oddly inspirational, do you do any personal training by chance? If not, you seem well suited for the role.

With any luck I'll soon be entering into a daily workout regimen for the better part of a year. I'll be joining a gym intended for serious athletes with round the clock personal trainers, as I have issues with motivating myself when it comes to exercise. I'm doing this for three main reasons: to further a career in law enforcement, to increase my overall health, and to boost my confidence levels.

It will come with unique challenges, I'm sure. The two that I believe will be the most challenging is overcoming my sheer lack of fitness. I've never been truly fit; I've been skinny and I've been over my ideal weight, but I've never really experienced a point in my life where I was muscular or even really average for that matter. The second challenge will be adjusting any acne regimen around a workout schedule, which is more difficult than you might initially believe.

On the upside I have a goal, and one serious benefit working in my favor -- I have an incredible metabolism. when I was a child I would often eat 7 or 8 adult plates of food in a row, and yet at age 15 I was 5'11 and a mere 110 - 115 pounds. At the time I considered it a curse, but now that I've put on weight I've found that where some people have diets or genetics that necessitate months of exercise to lose a handful of pounds, I can lose 10 with ease over the course of a week and a half.

Thanks! i appreciate you finding my post oddly inspirational haha

Yeah, i was always a skinny guy, and in high school i did wrestling so during that time i was pretty fit (just for a year) I also wasnt very dedicated and would procrastinate on my workouts. I say you go for it and really try and get yourself into a certain workout program. Bodybuilding (fitness) lifestyle has its own tricks and requisites a person must go under in order for them to achieve their goals. I would suggest you start off by calculating your MACROS. That will help you by telling you how many calories/carbs/protein you need per day in order to put on muscle. Trust me man, its not as hard as it seems. Once you start putting on weight and look urself in the mirror, that will be your motivation to keep going. Confidence will be something that will start showing in urself once you start seeing results. Your metabolism is a great factor to have as well, so that way you burn of fat much easier. Many people say they are skinny and cant gain weight because of GENETICS, but i can honestly say that is not true. I am a person who had that kind of mentality, but i surpassed that barrier of thought and now i am accomplishing what i thought wasn't possible. Watch motivational videos on youtube, for example, bodybuilding motivational videos/ motivational speeches, etc. That will help you a lot. Dont mind asking any questions. I will gladly help man.

On the personal training, no i don't do any personal training. I have learned a lot from bodybuilders who have helped me out through time. I also learn a lot on bb.com and certain youtube videos. The internet is such a great place to learn anything you want. I pretty much have my own little gym in my backyard. Started buying equipment little by little and well yeah, its my personal gym

Edited by j0e7, 07 February 2012 - 06:02 PM.

[AceEpidermis]

Much appreciated, I may just take you up on that. I've attempted to get fit and build muscle on a few occasions, but I never really had a reason to put my whole heart into it. On my most recent lesser attempt, I made an absolutely crucial mistake. I completely overlooked my good fats and carb intake. I was mostly eating chicken and salad (and chicken salad, ha). What I found out rather quickly was that instead of building any muscle from the protein, or losing any fat from eating less transfats, I was just becoming malnourished.

That's what I get for trying to push beyond what I could do at the time without the proper information.

[rbamf]

one of my friends is about your size, and he's one of the biggest pimps i know. he looks and talks like snoop dogg and overall has a commanding presence- that's why girls flock to him, not because of his size.

You should take this experience as a wake up call, and use it as leverage to work on yourself. Attitude and confidence go a long way. I'd encourage you to hit the gym and get bigger too. That would make you physically more attractive and would increase your confidence. Try to work on yourself every day.

I read somewhere that "in everything you do, is everything you are." What that means to me is if you're out there taking action, and doing the right things, then you're a man of action. You can feel confident about yourself simply because you are taking action.

Good luck with everything. hope you can take something out of this.

ps. there's PLENTY of girls out there. especially if you're in LA.

[j0e7]

Much appreciated, I may just take you up on that. I've attempted to get fit and build muscle on a few occasions, but I never really had a reason to put my whole heart into it. On my most recent lesser attempt, I made an absolutely crucial mistake. I completely overlooked my good fats and carb intake. I was mostly eating chicken and salad (and chicken salad, ha). What I found out rather quickly was that instead of building any muscle from the protein, or losing any fat from eating less transfats, I was just becoming malnourished.

That's what I get for trying to push beyond what I could do at the time without the proper information.

do it bro, once you start seeing results and feeling better about yourself, you will be like "mannn...wish i would have done this a long time ago!"
yeah in order for you to get muscle you must learn to eat fats as well. Try and bulk first, get some fat on you and that will make you develop muscle much fast. Lift heavy as well. Once you see that you have gained a few pound and have added a bit of muscle, start cutting. What cutting means is having a stricter diet and that will burn any excess fat you had from the bulking phase you did. Repeat cycle and in a few months, BAM! you will really be proud of what you have achieved. Cant explain everything here in detail, but if you have any questions, send me a message. dont mind asking! goodluck!

[makethatchange]

For some reason I've always been more attracted to guys who are skinny and have just a little bit of muscles. But a friend of mine likes complete opposite! She wants muscles muscles and more muscles lol. Do whatever makes you feel good, not all girls like the same thing.

[Kairasa]

Well...my boyfriend is FROM this site, and he had some of the worst acne I've ever seen. He has scars now and I love them. It may sound silly to say but his imperfections are what make him...the wonderful man I love. That being said, of course I find him attractive physically, but more important than his handsome visage is his heart and soul. If you are talking about love, there is a lot more to a person than their face and body. Age will change that, and before people scoff, I am not denying that you must find them physically appealing, but that should not be the basis of your relationship.

[k3tchup]

Well...my boyfriend is FROM this site, and he had some of the worst acne I've ever seen. He has scars now and I love them. It may sound silly to say but his imperfections are what make him...the wonderful man I love. That being said, of course I find him attractive physically, but more important than his handsome visage is his heart and soul. If you are talking about love, there is a lot more to a person than their face and body. Age will change that, and before people scoff, I am not denying that you must find them physically appealing, but that should not be the basis of your relationship.

How nice. Really. The world needs more kind and accepting people as you.



Btw i weighed my self at work. Apparently ive gain 14lbs lol. So im 164 which is the heaviest ive ever been however im wearing pants that i havent wore since like freshman in highschool. I dropped 3-4 pant sizes since i started running/exercising. I look skinner as well. o.0

[Kairasa]

Well...my boyfriend is FROM this site, and he had some of the worst acne I've ever seen. He has scars now and I love them. It may sound silly to say but his imperfections are what make him...the wonderful man I love. That being said, of course I find him attractive physically, but more important than his handsome visage is his heart and soul. If you are talking about love, there is a lot more to a person than their face and body. Age will change that, and before people scoff, I am not denying that you must find them physically appealing, but that should not be the basis of your relationship.

How nice. Really. The world needs more kind and accepting people as you.



Btw i weighed my self at work. Apparently ive gain 14lbs lol. So im 164 which is the heaviest ive ever been however im wearing pants that i havent wore since like freshman in highschool. I dropped 3-4 pant sizes since i started running/exercising. I look skinner as well. o.0

Thank you. =)

And muscle weighs more than fat, so perhaps that could be why? Regardless, congrats!

[k3tchup]

Well...my boyfriend is FROM this site, and he had some of the worst acne I've ever seen. He has scars now and I love them. It may sound silly to say but his imperfections are what make him...the wonderful man I love. That being said, of course I find him attractive physically, but more important than his handsome visage is his heart and soul. If you are talking about love, there is a lot more to a person than their face and body. Age will change that, and before people scoff, I am not denying that you must find them physically appealing, but that should not be the basis of your relationship.

How nice. Really. The world needs more kind and accepting people as you.



Btw i weighed my self at work. Apparently ive gain 14lbs lol. So im 164 which is the heaviest ive ever been however im wearing pants that i havent wore since like freshman in highschool. I dropped 3-4 pant sizes since i started running/exercising. I look skinner as well. o.0

Thank you. =)

And muscle weighs more than fat, so perhaps that could be why? Regardless, congrats!

^this. i forgot all about it, too tired to think tonight, and would probably be why. I'm happy but i.. i guess i didnt think i would actually gain that much.


anyway thanks.

[TheMedic]

EDIT: Sorry wrong thread.

Yes, some woman are not attracted to skinny guys and get offended when skinny guys try and pick them up. To some woman, its a sign of weakness and many woman are operating under 'survival of the fittest' kind of mindsets. So to some woman, you're weak and pathetic, and they will say that to your face if you try and push too hard on them. But skinny can be treated, bigtime can be treated.

Edited by TheMedic, 15 February 2012 - 01:32 AM.

[k3tchup]

EDIT: Sorry wrong thread.

Yes, some woman are not attracted to skinny guys and get offended when skinny guys try and pick them up. To some woman, its a sign of weakness and many woman are operating under 'survival of the fittest' kind of mindsets. So to some woman, you're weak and pathetic, and they will say that to your face if you try and push too hard on them. But skinny can be treated, bigtime can be treated.

I kind of find that to be a bunch of crap but i can somewhat say i can see a point being made that if the chick is or has a troubling past then i could see wanting a bigger man for protection reasons.

But when it comes down to it i think thats just a secondary characteristic thats a plus but not all look for it. I think other traits that are not often found in a lot of men are more valuable then just being physically bigger than most men.

[TheMedic]

EDIT: Sorry wrong thread.

Yes, some woman are not attracted to skinny guys and get offended when skinny guys try and pick them up. To some woman, its a sign of weakness and many woman are operating under 'survival of the fittest' kind of mindsets. So to some woman, you're weak and pathetic, and they will say that to your face if you try and push too hard on them. But skinny can be treated, bigtime can be treated.

I kind of find that to be a bunch of crap but i can somewhat say i can see a point being made that if the chick is or has a troubling past then i could see wanting a bigger man for protection reasons.

But when it comes down to it i think thats just a secondary characteristic thats a plus but not all look for it. I think other traits that are not often found in a lot of men are more valuable then just being physically bigger than most men.

No, it's not a bunch of crap it is a fact. Some woman do not want skinny guys, and there's nothing more to it. But skinny can be caused by so many things. Many men don't thicken out until their older. Some men are suffering hyperthyroid, some malabsorption, sometimes even hypothyroid can make you skinny. Adrenal issues as well, low cortisol vs high cortisol can effect weight distribution.

Edited by TheMedic, 15 February 2012 - 03:30 PM.

[k3tchup]

EDIT: Sorry wrong thread.

Yes, some woman are not attracted to skinny guys and get offended when skinny guys try and pick them up. To some woman, its a sign of weakness and many woman are operating under 'survival of the fittest' kind of mindsets. So to some woman, you're weak and pathetic, and they will say that to your face if you try and push too hard on them. But skinny can be treated, bigtime can be treated.

I kind of find that to be a bunch of crap but i can somewhat say i can see a point being made that if the chick is or has a troubling past then i could see wanting a bigger man for protection reasons.

But when it comes down to it i think thats just a secondary characteristic thats a plus but not all look for it. I think other traits that are not often found in a lot of men are more valuable then just being physically bigger than most men.

No, it's not a bunch of crap it is a fact. Some woman do not want skinny guys, and there's nothing more to it. But skinny can be caused by so many things. Many men don't thicken out until their older. Some men are suffering hyperthyroid, some malabsorption, sometimes even hypothyroid can make you skinny. Adrenal issues as well, low cortisol vs high cortisol can effect weight distribution.

Fact? Fact by you because you were rejected for being to small? Everyone has there preferences but just because someone says it doesn't mean its prove 100% fact. Its personal preference. Women seek for what matters most to them; in a serious dating relationship not revolved around sex i think the size of a man matters not. If its just for sex then ya i could see women generalizing, stereotyping in order to find a mate. Its a terrible judgement but people do it. Its not right but such is life.

I'm skinny, hell since i've been working out ive lost a least 3-4 inches off my waist. Im the type that doesnt need to lose weight at all. My family does not have weight distribution problems not any thyroid issues, not even acne problems. I am the first not because of my thyroid but because i neglected my body and never practiced clean hygiene. I had my blood drawn and my thyroid checked in September during a serious break out. All my labs came back perfect. My cholesterol even shocked my doctor.

Case and point: some men suffer from thyroid problems which results into them being skinny. Some men are skinny just because that's the god made them. Some woman chose with a bias, flawed opinion that skinny men mean they are weaker than some guys who are better built. But really the judgment is that skinny mean are lesser men.

You know why i get seriously offended when such topics arise? Because im a fucking male nurse, excuse my french. I work in a female dominated field.I have since i was 15-before i even had a drivers license- and i was told, judged, looked at that i was in the wrong field at such a young age. I was judged by female patients that i couldn't do a good job like a female could because i was male, skinny, young, inexperienced, and i didn't know what the hell i was doing. A senseless, stupid, and hurtful judgement. This is just an example of a poor judgement or quality about a person. Just because im not female means i can do a great job. Just because a guy is built small he is of less value. Its like saying people with acne are monsters. There some of the nicest people, most forgiving people you will ever meet because they KNOW what its like to hurt.
Men on the other hand make the same bullshit judgement that a blonde is an idiot and only good for the kitchen and bedroom. Such bullshit stereotypes that still exist and shouldn't. We all have our preferences yes, but some take them to far. And your trying to interpret that as us men are less men. Wrong.

You think that just because im a guy and have feelings that i have emotional problems too now? That this is something biochemical/neurological? That i might have to much estrogen in my blood hence the reason i am emotional? Think again. I was abused as a child, i watched and held dieing people in my arms at a young age, and i have suffered the pain of acne at my own cause. I'm am aware of my emotions but im also a quite person because of what has happened to me. Experience shapes us.

I am a better individual because of what Ive done, seen, and do. Its not a crime. It doesn't make you a worse person, what does is assuming and judging without rationally thinking about it.

Edited by k3tchup, 15 February 2012 - 06:35 PM.