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[jessica8976]

im so tired. i try not to get acne get in the way of my life or my happiness but its hard when people constantly try and remind me. im not the type of person to say a rude comment about a person's appearance because i know first hand the damage that it can do. Nothing hurts worse than words because they stay. My friend all day had been cracking jokes at my face-surprisingly i didn't know why i even told him how sensitive i am about it. Yet, he did it anyways and constantly. So i suck it up, shut my mouth, and stand there as a "good person". but i couldnt take it anymore. i dodge my very own reflection in the mirror, the last person i want to hate in the world is myself, and his blows were getting lower by the end of the day. finally i bursted, he slapped my face jokingly and said "hey i think i might of even popped some of the many pimples on your face." its like he was laughing in slow motion after that. i knew he was self conscious about his weight and i went somewhere where i had never wanted to go. i told slapped him back and told him that i even made his fat giggle. He became dead serious after i said that, it was the first time my words actually fought back and ill admit i felt better because i just wanted him to stop. but i dont want to have to do this each time someone comments on my skin but it just seems that its the only thing that works.

please comment if you can give me any feedback or similar stories

[Ilovemesomevanity]

wow. thats not a friend, thats a bully. youve already told him youre sensitive about it. next time he does that can you slap him again for me? i dont care if hes insecure about his weight, actually what hes doing is even worse since he knows what it feels like. but dont use his own insecurities as a weapon, just call him out on it (after you slap him for me ) he knows what hes doing and theres no excuse for it. you deserve to be respected, so dont ignore things like this if it really bothers you

[markm90]

You shouldn't even associate, let alone be friends with someone that would degrade your appearance like that. And yeah, if someone were to say anything like that to me, I'd definitely point out their biggest flaws and try to make them feel as horrible as possible.

[spriorda]

I know what you mean about dodging a mirror. Been there done that. Its awful. If someone makes fun of your skin then their obviously self conscious about themselves. Most normal people could give two shit's about the way someone else looks.

[jessica8976]

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Ilovemesomevanity: haha will do! i do question our friendship alot when things like this happen but unfortunatly most of my friends dont have acne and it just doesnt seem like they understand how much their comments hurt:( ill definantly call him out on it next time its just too painful to stand there and take it. thanks for replying your comment really helped:)

[ihatemynose]

Wow, what a phucking douche bag, I would beat the living shet out of him ( sorry for the language ) I would not hangout with a person like that. About the dodging the mirror, I had to do that everyday for the past 2 horrible long years of my life, even I went out with friends ( i'm a guy ) they would look at their reflection in the mirrors while I just dodge the mirrors, keeping my eyes down the whole time then became depressed after that. I could only look at the mirror when there was no one else around. I couldn't even look into the mirror when my mom was around. What hurts the most is that when friends asks you to take a photo of them because they're looking nice and I couldn't help but to feel miserable. Now after accutane, my skin probably improved by 200% and I am just starting to recover from all the psychological damage that acne caused... I still am scared to have my picture taken and look into a mirror when people are around but I could do it now.

[Tyga]

Your friend makes fun of your appearance because he is insecure about his. Making fun of you makes him feel better about himself.

Edited by Tyga, 22 January 2012 - 10:14 PM.

[rbamf]

you have to stand up for yourself. you did exactly the right thing.

[snsdgirl14]

A real, genuine friend would never pick on an obvious insecurity of yours like that. That's completely messed up because a) friends would never want to intentionally hurt another friend, which it seems like he's doing and b) you can't help it if you have acne. Making a joke like that is tasteless and just cruel. He obviously wants to put you down and make you feel lower than him, probably because of his own insecurities.

Real friends won't give two shits about what your face looks like at the time. I've had friends with bad acne in the past and half the time, I didn't even notice when they had a flare up or whatever. Ditch this "friend" immediately because he's not healthy for you, at all.

[overdosed]

if i get a slap on my face let alone a hand on my face i get angry real fast as it aggravates the acne. As for the "friend", a real jackass. I hear ya on the battle with acne. It sure is a uphill battle. Somedays its amazing how my mind allows me to forget about the acne and then every now and then i'm reminded of it in subtle ways. Acne is very annoying but keep in mind it's not the worst.

[FK in the coffee]

Well, I'd guess he's trying to cover up his own insecurities. :/
Is he like... a friend you've had for a while and you're well acquainted? If so, you could always try to talk things over with him. I know a lot of guys try their best to ignore talking about the dreaded thing called feelings, but it might be beneficial for the both of you. (:

If he's still being a jackass, then I'd say you should dump him like a sack of potatoes and find cooler people, lol.

[MJRI94]

He insulted you. Multiple times.
Understandably, you get tired of it and retaliate. Once.
And yet he gets so upset so easily? If you can't take it, don't dish it out in the first place springs to mind.
You did the right thing and yes I realise you don't want to be mean or anything but sometimes you have to stand up for yourself because no one else will.

[jessica8976]

Thankyou everyone for your support