I actually commented on another post about a month ago about something similar to this topic. I talked about my father who outgrew his acne. My dad has beautiful, extremely low maintenance skin today, but he has tonnes of pitted scarring from the acne he had suffered from when he was younger.
I feel as if all I do is share the stories of acne-proned people in my life. But I feel the need to do it, because in all honesty, they are the ones who have left the most lasting impression on not just me, but the people around them as well.
I have an aunt who at 40, STILL has acne. She is one of the most INCREDIBLE women in the world, and I'm not just saying that to pompously "glorify" or like Nicky said, "glamourise" her.
Despite having acne and very oily skin, she is so unbelievably beautiful. What makes her extremely attractive (yes, she's had her share of boys chasing after her) is her attitude towards life.
She's never met her dad, she had to live with her relatives when she was younger (due to their financial situation), and she also lost her mother when she was only in her 30s.
Yet, when you talk to her, NEVER and I mean NEVER will you feel any form of insecurity or discomfort radiating from her personality. She has always said that life is beautiful, and it's meant to be lived with gratitude. Every single week, she does an extensive prayer of ONLY thanksgiving. No requests, no complaints, just PURE thanksgiving to what she has.
She has never let acne stop her from living her life. She's now a very successful worker in her field (I'd like to keep her profession private), and has 2 beautiful children. She loves to eat, so she'll eat whatever she wants. Life is absolutely WAYYYY too short to deprive yourself of the joys that it brings to you.
I know for a fact that if/when my aunt clears her acne, it would NEVER change her personality. Her state of happiness is not reliant on any external circumstances. She is quite lucky that she's one of those people who considers herself lucky, and sees all of life's events as miracles.
I will also add that despite what we see and what we're meant to believe in television, my aunt has NEVER been taunted by her acne. If anything, almost everyone agrees that she's a very beautiful woman.
Anyway, to go back to Nicky's topic about learning to accept acne. To me, each of us reach a certain level of clarity, which may be the clearest we can be. Some can go to 100%, others 80%, etc. It's kind of like our natural body shape. I think we all have a natural "clear skin" shape at certain points of our lives. Maybe one day it'll get clearer, but we should never get stagnant and wait for that day to come, because we're not gonna be here for very long. Our time will come eventually, and you don't want to look back on these years and realize how much you've missed out on the beauty of our world.
Do what you can to get it clear. Surely, with all those efforts that you've put into, at least one of them is bound to work. To those that work, stick to it and forget the rest. Enjoy life. Seriously, you deserve it.
And remember, don't let ANYONE ever make you feel ashamed about yourself and your decisions in life.
If you choose to go on Accutane, then no one SHOULD ever stop/scare you from your decision to do it. Same thing for birth control, diet changes, topicals, etc. But don't obsess! This holds especially true for the younger members out there, who are around my age (20s). Historical observations have revealed that the brain is at its most "agile" around the 20s age. Wouldn't you want to use all of that brain power to good use? Learn a language. Master an instrument. Provide education to children who don't have the means to it.
Because one day, we will all perish.
Okay, I think this post has been going on for too long now. Sorry if it got a little dramatic towards the end, but I wanted to add my 2 cents, because there doesn't seem to be a lot of spiritually overcoming acne topics on here.
Nicky, your story is SOOOO moving. I will honestly hold you near and dear to my heart for the rest of my life.
Edited by sweetchildomine, 07 February 2011 - 05:51 PM.