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Women with acne are beautiful

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Women with acne are beautiful.

I know, this sounds very provocative. Don't be too much angry right now, and let me explain myself:

I believe that beauty canons are very cultural. They are stereotypes. Look at painting from the 17th-18th century: women represented as beauty models in these would all be without any second thought considered as overweight today. In the same vein, there are african civilisations where scarring is considered beautiful and women even practice voluntary, ritual, scarring. Whereas we "modern" western people view acne scars for instance as "ugly".

So think about it considering this background: why would acne on a woman be ugly, while, for instance, freckles, who look very much the same, are considered charming (although ot be everyone).

Personally, I find girls with freckles charming. And I also find girls with acne charming, just the same. And I know many other men that think similarly, even if they would rarely dare to say it because it is hard to go against stereotypes.

So, ladies with acne, don't be shy!

Ahh, thank you Frank. That was very sweet of you. ;)


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i just think you made some good points here. well said!

So shall I conclude that you disagree with me r0ckst4r?

That's your right, of course, but it's all the more a shame as, judging from your gallery, you are one of best examples of a girl being made only more overwhelmingly charming by her acne. You should really drop the motto "broken beauty" (well, the word broken I mean)

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FrankPlk,thank you for putting a smile on my face and giving me hope for a while.But,I think men who share your opinion are extremely rare.Sometimes people tell me that they didnt even noticed my acne and scars-they are pretty obvious,unfortunatelly,because of how great person I am.But thats just two or three opinions.All through school people would call me spotty.The worst thing is when you re in love.And he is great,with wonderful,pure skin.I can be as great as I want,but when another girl comes,with even greater personality than my own,and with a lovely skin,guess whom will he choose.

Sometimes I wonder would Ingrid Bergman,Grace Kelly or Nicole Kidman be considered beautiful with acnes and would they ever become actresses.I wanted to be one,too,but never tried drama school for obvious reasons.I maybe sound pessimistic,but I guess I accepted reality although it hurts me every day.So I renounced the love of my life.Its simply how it goes.

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Acne on girls doesn't bother me at all. An attractive woman is an attractive woman

with or without acne. Think it looks a lot worse on men than it does women.

Imperfections make a woman even more attractive in my opinion.

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I prefer men who are not 100% perfect as it kind of makes me feel sick.

Small imperfections can be attractive including scars.

However I fail to see how acne is attractive. I know that the state of my skin has prevented me from approaching people I might like to. Also you know when eyes wander away from your eyes & to your acne. Its natural as the eye is drawn to the imperfections. Just like if a lady wears a low cut top you just cant help but notice.

Saying about the acne not being attractive I wouldnt care if my partner had acne, but thats because im covered in it too. there is absolutely no way in hell i could approach someone with smooth clear tanned skin while i am pasty & covered in spots. the rejection would hurt too much lol.

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I, myself being a girl who had acne, would like to add something to this thread.I am a sri lankan and after 1980s and onward, people here have an impression that people with acne are ugly. But in the past, i mean a generation or two back, acne was considered to be a sign of a girl's healthiness, fertility and activeness and girls without acne were taken to be dull, stagnant,ill people.

However I never listened the comments about my face even when i had bleeding wounds and acne with puss because i always love my self and i am pretty to myself. however i got rid of it after four years and still i am 27.and i was always considered to be a teen of about 15 or 16 even when i was a working girl of 25 coz i had face reddened with acne,which looked youthful, bright and full of life unlike those of girls without acne, which were homogeneous allover(colour and texture),like mummies. even now i have small scarring which contours my face beautifully (and no need of blushing make up too), rarely breakouts which add girly redness and i never do make up so that i am exhibiting my natural beauty without hiding acne scars. And i am often being mistaken to be a younger girl while many of my friends were mistaken to be about 28, 30, 35 or even moms with kids or married women. And there is no specific measurement for beauty.no standards. those funny standards are only in the mud filled heads of beauticians,commercial people and foolish folk that worship the above.

And i believe the facial features and shapes account for the beauty, not the skin colour or texture.

ex. A person with thousands of acne or some other thing will be handsome if he has enchanting eyes,nose and lips.

And every person is beautiful even if he/she is african,american,european or asian irrespective of skin colour.

FrankPlk,thank you for putting a smile on my face and giving me hope for a while.But,I think men who share your opinion are extremely rare.Sometimes people tell me that they didnt even noticed my acne and scars-they are pretty obvious,unfortunatelly,because of how great person I am.But thats just two or three opinions.All through school people would call me spotty.The worst thing is when you re in love.And he is great,with wonderful,pure skin.I can be as great as I want,but when another girl comes,with even greater personality than my own,and with a lovely skin,guess whom will he choose.

Sometimes I wonder would Ingrid Bergman,Grace Kelly or Nicole Kidman be considered beautiful with acnes and would they ever become actresses.I wanted to be one,too,but never tried drama school for obvious reasons.I maybe sound pessimistic,but I guess I accepted reality although it hurts me every day.So I renounced the love of my life.Its simply how it goes.

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I don't think that it's always the acne that makes a woman seem less attractive: It's what the acne does to how a woman feels about herself. Men often like confident girls who feel comfortable in their own skin. How can you feel comfortable in your own skin when it's disease ridden?


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i just had to jump in here with my two cents, this thread is too fascinating.

i see a lot of people on here saying things like "acne is a disease which we are biologically hard-wired to find unattractive, it's just fact." well, yes and no. there is some primitive part of our brain which may strongly prefer clear skin to blemished skin (so i've heard), but like the OP said, there are much more important things that determine who we will be attracted to. i believe our attraction to things like personality and demeanor are actually far more powerful than to any particular physical features. the argument that one's beauty can be hidden or diminished by acne or blemishes, because of some primitive function of our brain, is a cop-out made by people who have so totally swallowed the beauty ideal that acne = ugly that they cannot see past something so superficial.

99.99% of everything is culturally produced. any accepted idea or attitude about anything. when in doubt, it's culturally produced. every last naturally-produced biological occurrence has social and cultural meaning ascribed to it. any and every disease (ESPECIALLY those which affect one's perceived beauty) has layers and layers of social and cultural meaning heaped atop the actual biological variance. there is very little that exists "naturally" in this world, least of all our attitudes and accepted ideals of beauty.

one last thought: as a single young person, acne has been a blessing as well as a curse. it is like the ultimate crappy-person detector. the difference in the quality of men i have dated before and after my acne got bad has been marked. before, it was a parade of superficial guys who were only interested in my looks, and were all just jerks at the end of the day. now, the guys i go out with find me beautiful for all the right reasons. this type of personality also tends to be mature, intelligent, reasonable, sincere and kind. people who would find me in any way less attractive for my acne, i would certainly find them unattractive for their superficiality and closed-mindedness. there are plenty of people out there who understand what "beauty" really is and they are the only people worth knowing smile.png

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I know not everyone cares that I have acne (in fact, I know majority of people, male or female, probably couldn't care less). My boyfriend is one of them. I know that whether I'm clear-skinned or going through the worst breakout in history, or if I had a terrible burn accident and ended up with a scarred face, my boyfriend would love me the same and still find me beautiful. Same goes with everyone else I love. So really, that's not even an issue.

But It doesn't change the fact that I would rather not have acne. I am more comfortable when my face is clear. It's more than just appearance. Its the oil on my skin that I can feel when I touch my face, or the pain I get sometimes when I get a particularily bad pimple. No one enjoys that when it happens to them. More importantly though is the health. I know that when I break out its my body trying to tell me something else is wrong - like I'm not getting enough proper nurtition, I'm dehydrated, or my body is reacting to the toxins in the environment or a product I'm using.

I appreciate you trying to tell women fighting with acne that men will still think they are beautiful (because its true, duh), but women being uncomfortable with their acne doesn't solely revolve around a fear of not pleasing men. (Nice try).

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The whole point in the OP posting this was to try and ingrain some confidence in women suffering from acne but, I guess that kinda backfired :/

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being confident just to impress others is not real confidence

take someone attractive for example, they appear confident, so what if something happens to them, car accident etc and their face gets deformed, will they still have their confidence?

true confidence is more than trying to please other people, confidence is when you are happy with yourself in every situation, it doesnt mean that you should give up your goals but you shouldnt be like "if things arent going my way im fkd" either

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