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Women with acne are beautiful

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Well, this certainly does pertain to the actual title of the post, but I happen to find men with acne more appealing the men with flawless skin. One might think this is because I feel like an equivalent to him in a sense, or I feel "grounded" that way. But based on pure looks alone, acne gives a man character. BUT it does depend on the type of lesions, in my case. If I could choose where my guy had acne, it would be on the cheeks. It looks very masculine for some reason. I tend to do a double take (it an attracted way) when i see a man with far from perfect cheeks. This might sound weird, in addition to all of the rest, but my dad has really bad acne scarring on his cheeks. Isn't it true that daughters look for their father's traits in the guys they like? Or would that just be too weird.....

as for girls with acne. I am attracted to girls (though I'm not lez) who have acne in certain places. it shows that they are totally real and can offer you those little quirks we often seek in a mate. I am not particularly fond of seeing girls with forehead acne, or acne around the mouth. A little is okay. But AGAIN i have to mention the cheek area. For some reason, I could let acne go to town on any pretty girl and I would find her even more feminine.

Thank you Katt99 !! :D

At last someone is siding with me. :clap:

I'm exactly like you, but opposite in gender: although I am not gay, I find that men with acne, and even more acne scars, look more masculine. It gives their face more strengh.

As for girls, I definitly find that women with acne look much more classy. I also agree for the location: the cheek area is a nice spot. The forehead too although adult women rarely have acne on the forehead. And around the mouth is very sexy. I must say I find back acne also nice.

btw: do you have acne yourself?

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I cant say that I find acne attractive or un-attractive, it certainly would NOT put me off someone. I dont find it ugly on other people (I feel ugly myself but Im working on that)

I said in a different thread about Keanu Reeves.... nasty scarring but holy crap Id go to TOWN on him :silenced:


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for me i find women with acne is hot...

you'd scoop that low to get laid....gsus! (j/k)

Honestly...Doesn't bother me, why the hell would it considering I've had acne. Great thing is, you can share the experience and help each other if you indeed end up with a women that has acne, you both don't feel embarrassed, know the feeling/pain of having such a skin condition. I don't look at skin, rather the beauty behind it. Acne doesn't make an already attractive girl look ugly..remember that.

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for me i find women with acne is hot...

you'd scoop that low to get laid....gsus! (j/k)

Honestly...Doesn't bother me, why the hell would it considering I've had acne. Great thing is, you can share the experience and help each other if you indeed end up with a women that has acne, you both don't feel embarrassed, know the feeling/pain of having such a skin condition. I don't look at skin, rather the beauty behind it. Acne doesn't make an already attractive girl look ugly..remember that.

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Titch O'Binky, you see I'm sure that the scarring on Keanu Reeves is part of what gives him this masculine attraction.

It's good to read that you are working on not finding it more uggly on you than you find it on other people. I read you post on how miserable you felt when you thought other mums were staring at you when you bring your boys to school.

Part of the point of this thread (yes, there is a point to it, despite tygerskyn's claim) is for people like you to know that (i) not everyone that look at you think badly of you because you have acne, and (ii) some even think you look cuter with it.

I sincerely hope that knowing this truth will help you.

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Tygersjyn, I don't really see your point. You say the thread is pointless, that I'm just giving my opinion. But what can be the point of a post if not giving one's opinion?

There can be lots of points for a post on a message board besides giving an opinion. What you tried to do was create a thread in which you wanted to convince people that acne is just as socially acceptable as freckles. It's fine to make threads about your opinion, just pointless to build an argument based on unrelated comparisons, and without any actual facts.

In other words, go ahead and say you find women with acne attractive. But don't try to defend it with comparisons of things like freckles or scarification unless you want people like me in your thread. :)


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In other words, go ahead and say you find women with acne attractive. But don't try to defend it with comparisons of things like freckles or scarification unless you want people like me in your thread. :)

I don't have a problem having you in my thread tygerskyn. You are always welcome here.

I did not post this thread with a view to convince anyone. Actually, I'd be very interested to see a thread where someone convinces another person, like "yeah, that's true, finally you must be right, God does not exist". The interesting thing about expressing diverging opinion is not so much to try to convince the others, but to merely show that a different opinion can exist.

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Titch O'Binky, you see I'm sure that the scarring on Keanu Reeves is part of what gives him this masculine attraction.

It's good to read that you are working on not finding it more uggly on you than you find it on other people. I read you post on how miserable you felt when you thought other mums were staring at you when you bring your boys to school.

Part of the point of this thread (yes, there is a point to it, despite tygerskyn's claim) is for people like you to know that (i) not everyone that look at you think badly of you because you have acne, and (ii) some even think you look cuter with it.

I sincerely hope that knowing this truth will help you.

I honestly thought it would never happen, but after finding this website and all the wonderful/amazing/*insert good thing here* people, I am starting to feel comfortable in my own skin. I certainly dont feel ugly now, just a bit different. I know my red marks will take a long time to fade properly (genetics.. BAH Im a slow healer) and that the ice-picks wont go unless I treat them, but Im actually thinking about keeping them. My face has been through enough already and I dont want to stress it anymore.

Ive had no new breakouts apart from my Three Amigos in well over two weeks, but even they arent all that evil looking.

I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.


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I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.

Good to hear. And good to hear that you have already achieved a lot in tackling your negative thoughts. I hope my posting my opinions will help people a bit in this respect.

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I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.

Good to hear. And good to hear that you have already achieved a lot in tackling your negative thoughts. I hope my posting my opinions will help people a bit in this respect.

I think it will. As soon as you see the flip side of acne, you can start to deal with your own feelings about the aftermath of it. I think my turning point was reading a blog of one of the other users who had severe acne, he came through the other end with a great sense of humour, it seemed like he never let it depress him and certainly didnt allow it to control his life.

So when Im finished here, Ill have scars on my face.... so fricken what? I have my life, my children and my husband.

And a whole bunch of new friends to talk to :)


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In other words, go ahead and say you find women with acne attractive. But don't try to defend it with comparisons of things like freckles or scarification unless you want people like me in your thread. :)

I don't have a problem having you in my thread tygerskyn. You are always welcome here.

I did not post this thread with a view to convince anyone. Actually, I'd be very interested to see a thread where someone convinces another person, like "yeah, that's true, finally you must be right, God does not exist". The interesting thing about expressing diverging opinion is not so much to try to convince the others, but to merely show that a different opinion can exist.

I don't have a problem with you or other people finding acne attractive. Really all I have issue with is the comparisons you use. I mean, it's pretty pointless to compare something that's classified as a disease to things like freckles or scarification. It would have been far more accurate to say something like "People who get cold sores on their mouths are still considered attractive."


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I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.

Good to hear. And good to hear that you have already achieved a lot in tackling your negative thoughts. I hope my posting my opinions will help people a bit in this respect.

I think it will. As soon as you see the flip side of acne, you can start to deal with your own feelings about the aftermath of it. I think my turning point was reading a blog of one of the other users who had severe acne, he came through the other end with a great sense of humour, it seemed like he never let it depress him and certainly didnt allow it to control his life.

So when Im finished here, Ill have scars on my face.... so fricken what? I have my life, my children and my husband.

And a whole bunch of new friends to talk to :)

Attractive and SMART...I'm impressed. ;)

Remind me to give you a cookie.

That being said, Acne suffers down the line will learn to adjust and not take the problem too serious as they once did...I've been through that, especially when they change that negative state of mind. Things could be worse.

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To be honest, I don't see acne, I just see the person. Just like I see though the makeup, I see though the acne. I still see it, but it doesn't affect my thoughts on who I find attractive or pretty.

Like today, at the store. I seen a pretty girl at the cashier that looked good but had a lot of acne. She looked very depressed and doesn't make eye contact with anyone. Just a few months ago, the same person was in a happier mood with 95% less acne on her face. It's a shame what it does to people. I still think she looks nice.

But I guess, people with any type of acne can understand what the others have to go though and thus don't care about the acne from the opposite sex. If they're "perfect", then they probably care.

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To be honest, I don't see acne, I just see the person. Just like I see though the makeup, I see though the acne. I still see it, but it doesn't affect my thoughts on who I find attractive or pretty.

Like today, at the store. I seen a pretty girl at the cashier that looked good but had a lot of acne. She looked very depressed and doesn't make eye contact with anyone. Just a few months ago, the same person was in a happier mood with 95% less acne on her face. It's a shame what it does to people. I still think she looks nice.

But I guess, people with any type of acne can understand what the others have to go though and thus don't care about the acne from the opposite sex. If they're "perfect", then they probably care.

Well, if they are "perfect", they probably don't exist. Unless you are living within the matrix.

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I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.

Good to hear. And good to hear that you have already achieved a lot in tackling your negative thoughts. I hope my posting my opinions will help people a bit in this respect.

I think it will. As soon as you see the flip side of acne, you can start to deal with your own feelings about the aftermath of it. I think my turning point was reading a blog of one of the other users who had severe acne, he came through the other end with a great sense of humour, it seemed like he never let it depress him and certainly didnt allow it to control his life.

So when Im finished here, Ill have scars on my face.... so fricken what? I have my life, my children and my husband.

And a whole bunch of new friends to talk to :)

Attractive and SMART...I'm impressed. ;)

Remind me to give you a cookie.

That being said, Acne suffers down the line will learn to adjust and not take the problem too serious as they once did...I've been through that, especially when they change that negative state of mind. Things could be worse.

GIMME COOKIE!

*as long as its free from sugar/hydrogenated oils/additives/dairy..... GAH just give me an apple, its probably safer :lol:

I think the relief of accepting it as a part of me helps, I dont worry about new ones causing scars as I already have some..... its difficult to explain, its not that I dont care for my appearance (it still takes me a half hour to war-paint up for the day) its just that I do it to look nice for me, not to cover up the flaws for others. Youre so right, things could always be worse.


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GIMME COOKIE!

*as long as its free from sugar/hydrogenated oils/additives/dairy..... GAH just give me an apple, its probably safer :lol:

I think the relief of accepting it as a part of me helps, I dont worry about new ones causing scars as I already have some..... its difficult to explain, its not that I dont care for my appearance (it still takes me a half hour to war-paint up for the day) its just that I do it to look nice for me, not to cover up the flaws for others. Youre so right, things could always be worse.

I find acne scars to look nice on women too, by the way. Different from acne itself, but nice too.

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I think you are right tbh. Everyone on this planet has the right to be and feel beautiful, acne ridden or not. Acne does not make people ugly, only thing is, we have to tackle our own negative thoughts before changing someone elses perception of us.

Good to hear. And good to hear that you have already achieved a lot in tackling your negative thoughts. I hope my posting my opinions will help people a bit in this respect.

I think it will. As soon as you see the flip side of acne, you can start to deal with your own feelings about the aftermath of it. I think my turning point was reading a blog of one of the other users who had severe acne, he came through the other end with a great sense of humour, it seemed like he never let it depress him and certainly didnt allow it to control his life.

So when Im finished here, Ill have scars on my face.... so fricken what? I have my life, my children and my husband.

And a whole bunch of new friends to talk to :)

Attractive and SMART...I'm impressed. ;)

Remind me to give you a cookie.

That being said, Acne suffers down the line will learn to adjust and not take the problem too serious as they once did...I've been through that, especially when they change that negative state of mind. Things could be worse.

GIMME COOKIE!

*as long as its free from sugar/hydrogenated oils/additives/dairy..... GAH just give me an apple, its probably safer :lol:

I think the relief of accepting it as a part of me helps, I dont worry about new ones causing scars as I already have some..... its difficult to explain, its not that I dont care for my appearance (it still takes me a half hour to war-paint up for the day) its just that I do it to look nice for me, not to cover up the flaws for others. Youre so right, things could always be worse.

funny girl. *rollseyes*

Me being right? weird...i could have sworn you were the one calling me wrong, hateful and full of hostility with my posts, not long ago.

Don't think i forgot, little girl.

GIMME COOKIE!

*as long as its free from sugar/hydrogenated oils/additives/dairy..... GAH just give me an apple, its probably safer :lol:

I think the relief of accepting it as a part of me helps, I dont worry about new ones causing scars as I already have some..... its difficult to explain, its not that I dont care for my appearance (it still takes me a half hour to war-paint up for the day) its just that I do it to look nice for me, not to cover up the flaws for others. Youre so right, things could always be worse.

I find acne scars to look nice on women too, by the way. Different from acne itself, but nice too.

LMFAO! someone feels left out.....funny stuff.

Frank, move along.

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i agree, girls with acne are pretty.

its nice knowing some people arent perfect, who wants that.

and some people with acne dont take things for granted, like alot of girls do these days.

beauty will always be in the eye of the beholder, and for me acne and girls is totally acceptable

all girls can be gorgeous no matter what.

live laugh and love people

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It's so easy to get lost in constantly having to present

Whatever face you believe a person wants to see rather than your own.

Yet we hesitate to surrender all of our insecurities


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Frank, move along.

I'm not sure i understand what "move along" means. (sorry, I'm not a native english speaker). Could you enlight me?

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Gee, according to this reasoning, the only reason why I never had a real girlfriend until age 35 was because all the women with acne never knew I existed ( or vice versa ).

ROFLMAO.

You are killing me dude.

Seriously.

SOS

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Frank, move along.

I'm not sure i understand what "move along" means. (sorry, I'm not a native english speaker). Could you enlight me?

lol, you serious? Your English is pretty DAMN good. What it means, its means...carry on, skip the thread, look else where, etc.

get it?

unless that's sarcasm.

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A little bit of harmless acne is an indicator of hormonal overflow as expected in a healthy young girl (well, I'm talking about teenagers and maybe early twenties here). Severe nodulocystic acne is ugly but so is many things..

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A little bit of harmless acne is an indicator of hormonal overflow as expected in a healthy young girl (well, I'm talking about teenagers and maybe early twenties here). Severe nodulocystic acne is ugly but so is many things..

Acne is often linked to hormonal overflow also in adult women. This means that it is only normal for women to have acne from time to time, ad it's not an issue for their beauty.

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I understand your desire to make acne more socially acceptable, but you're going at it the wrong (and false) way. This post-modernist rewriting of what some things are (big is beautiful, no it's not, obesity is a disease) is doing more harm then good.

Acne is universally considered non attractive in all cultures. While some part of attractibility can be influenced by culture (from rubenesque, to skinny minnie, from pale to tanned, etc) some are universal (T&A for women, wide hips and firm breasts and delineated waist, clear skin).

Acne represents lesions in the skin, inflammation, random patterned scars, and the collection of pus under a plug of sebum. Saying skin is bad because it has acne isn't some culturally brainwashed fact. It's simply biology. While in the 18th century having a tan meant you were a lowly brute, and now it means you're hot, in all centuries acne was considered a flaw.

Now, do people still recognise beauty in others despite acne? Of course! It may be harder, or easier, on a non-issue, or even a deal breaker for some, but it's another marker that can up or lower your general attractivity level. Thankfully you can raise it by stuff you can control, and that you're responsible for - like how funny, smart, educated, and pleasant you are.

i just think you made some good points here. well said!

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