Challenging the challenges caused by acne
Posted 11 November 2008 - 09:28 AM
Posted 24 November 2008 - 02:14 AM
But I realize that I am giving up on life, and I don't want acne to control my life anymore
SO INSTEAD OF POSTING NEGATIVE FEELINGS TOWARDS ACNE, I WANT FOR A CHANGE TO SEE SOME POSITIVE POSTS ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOUR ACNE.
what are some challenges/fears from acne that you have overcome? How did it make you feel? Is it something that you were able to continue to overcome?
For example: I went out with a large cyst today. I woke up in the morning. depressed, didnt want to look in the mirror sat there examining my face. Normally i would not go out at all, just hibernate in my room, or go out wearing a hat (which in the end makes my forehead break out more). I got the courage to just say screw it, im going out to face the public and took a walk on a main street. It felt good just to walk and not care what other people might think. Im just starting to make little changes like this. cuz in the end, i think we really do analyze our skin more than other people. we are our worst critic.
I wanna challenge myself to not look in the mirror all the time, or to distract my attention away from my acne; or to go out with friends etc. I will keep you updated to let you know how i do.
this guy said to me the other day, its not what happens in life that important, its what you make of it. so true.
yes, sometimes i feel embarassed if my acne come up, and it will be even worse if my friend making a party and he/she invite me... oh.. i have bad feelings....
so do u have the solution about that...without healing my acne first, because it will take a long time.
Posted 22 December 2008 - 09:00 AM
*sigh* back to working on feeling better...
Posted 23 December 2008 - 01:23 AM
Posted 23 December 2008 - 08:01 PM
Posted 27 December 2008 - 12:48 PM
My life revolves around foundation too haha, no-one has actually seen me without it for a looong time >.<
Posted 31 December 2008 - 02:19 PM
I haven't really done anything courageous about my acne. I'm sure everyone's like this but on the days when my acne is almost cleared (or at least a lot more clear than usual), I am much more social and I go to parties (no alcohol =D) and I have a LOT of fun.
It's so not fair, having acne. It keeps me (well, keeps us) a lot of times in an inferior, shameful mode.
But the good news is: I don't use makeup! =D I'm so proud of myself.
I hate it when I try to cover everything up with makeup. First, it feels all gross and sticky, and second, it makes me feel like I'm ashamed of my body...which I'm not.
Posted 01 January 2009 - 08:25 AM
Posted 01 January 2009 - 11:47 PM
So I guess that's a positive thing that I've learned having acne. Also, it has made me a less judgmental person to other's physical imperfections.
Posted 04 January 2009 - 09:43 PM
Posted 05 January 2009 - 03:22 AM
-I've learned to be more empathetic. Everybody has their own insecurities and struggles. I think that I come across as happy/friendly to people, even when I feel bad about my skin. Who's to say that those people don't have their own problems?
- I've learned that interacting with people isn't about impressing them with money, looks, intelligence... or whatever. Its about acknowledging them as friends, taking an interest in them, and giving them the recognition every person wants.
- I'm making peace with imperfection- Both my own, and other people's.
- Hopefully, I'm learning to be less selfish and more humble.
Do you think that true happiness and inner peace come without struggle and soul searching? Is acne even as much of a struggle as the genocide, starvation, blindness, and other painful/debilitating diseases that people around the world face every day? What's sad is that humans go through so much suffering, but they learn so little from it.
While I do what I can to have clear skin, I would never pray for it. I'd rather have the strength and peace to deal with whatever life throws at me. If I spend too much time being angry about my skin, feeling sorry for myself, or being self-conscious, then I know there's still more for me left to learn. And once i've learned, it won't matter what my skin is like.
I think we let our appearance take over our lives when we are more worried about impressing other people than reaching out to them in kindness and love. Would the homeless people that I could talk with and serve in a shelter care about my acne? Does the person who is lonely and unpopular care whether the one person who reaches out to him has clear skin? We'll do ourselves a favor if we stop viewing acne as some type of curse, and start viewing it as an obstacle that will bring out the best in us!
Posted 25 January 2009 - 07:46 PM
why post positive things?? we will do it when our acne is better.. until then all i have is negative effects
well.. what r u doing to treat it? I could give u a million things ive tried that might help u if u want me to. Here, ill list them now.
~This cleared my skin up when used with a very gentle cleanser and moisturizer but then i started to change what I was doing so my skin freaked out.
~This is supposed to work nicely. There are lots of different products to choose from. Check it out. (This didnt work for me but everyone's different).
3)Steaming my face with boiled lavendar red clover tops and strawberry leaves. Just boil a pot of water with these ingredients (the herbs should be dried) and stick your face over it until you get too hot. Drinking the 'Essence of teinchi flowers' tea. Using a gentle natural cranberry cleanser by MyChelle and a pumkin renewal cream by MyChelle. Using Cactus magic acne treatment.
4)Cleansing Tea Tree pads by Dessert Essence and Blemish spot treatment by Dessert essence
~this is drying so you'll need to use a good moisturizer like eucerin, barrier repair by dermalogica, or pumkin renewal cream by MyChelle
5)Ziana spot treatment with gentle cleanser and moisturizer
~ basically, your classic retinol. this will probably work for moderate acne or just as a spot treatment for other products that ur using
6)Duac topical gel
~i didnt try this for long enough to really know
7)Zapzyt 10% benzoyl peroxide
~this site doesnt like it but i dont really know
Posted 26 January 2009 - 11:28 AM
Posted 26 January 2009 - 06:23 PM
Posted 27 January 2009 - 11:09 AM
Awww... Thank you so much! Best of luck to you too, buddy! Yeah, my acne is mild atm, but I also have a ton of allergies giving me surprise breakouts and an itchy, red and blotchy skin sometimes. I think I played around a bit too long with my friends kitty on Sunday... Also, you know how the acne changes every day a little.
Posted 30 January 2009 - 02:50 AM
Posted 31 January 2009 - 12:22 AM
Posted 10 February 2009 - 12:30 PM
Posted 10 February 2009 - 11:35 PM
I have also learned that I tend to worry and notice all my blemishes and flaws way more then other people do. So obsessing over it doesn't help, it's better to put my chin up, smile and focus on OTHERS rather then myself.
I've also found that when I have a bad flare up I tend to want to revert to my old ways(hiding from people,getting depressed, not wanting to go out, staying in my room, not going out and doing fun things I want to and planned on doing because I had a break out, etc.) and sometimes I end up hurting my friends and family or letting them down because I'm to worried over my acne.
For example the other day a friend came up and gave me a sideways hug and asked me how I was and I was having a "bad day" so I hardly replied and tried not to make eye contact, I just wanted to be invisible.
By only focusing on myself and my wants (wanting to hide) I in effect "blew off" a good friend. I should have cared more about his feelings and the kindness he showed me and smiled at him and returned the kindness, then about my insecurities.
I wonder what people think when I respond in this way to them? How easy it could be to give them the wrong idea or make them feel insecure or rejected accidentally!
Everyone has insecurities or flaws they worry about and think people judge them about. Rejection is a big fear for many people, everyone wants to be accepted and loved, flaws and all.
Really people notice and remember your smile, friendly attitude and kindness way more than your acne. I've even been told by people I was pretty! Acne and all.
A friendly, kind, joyful person who is interested in others is a very attractive person!! Making others feel loved, important and accepted will take you miles further then having flawless skin.
Strong friendships and solid communication skills are more useful and more valuable then clear skin and do not require clear skin to gain.
In the end I, myself, have held myself back and limited my life way more than acne has. It's always been my choice. My acne may have been painful and emotionally difficult but not physically limiting. I could always still walk and see, and talk and hear and do the things I wanted to do, I just choose not to.
Looking back I don't think wasting so many years of my life and falling into serious depression and suicidal thoughts over my acne was a wise choice.
It would have been better to have been brave and lived and enjoyed my life as best and most fully as I could. It never would have been easy and maybe not always doable but I could defiantly have done better and made wiser choices. The best thing to do now is to learn from this and move on to a better future.
One last thought is learning to love and accept yourself as you are for who you are. I often remind myself this by thinking of a loved one and what advice I'd give them if they had acne and felt bad about it or disliked them self for it. I'd wrap them in love and acceptance and encourage them to live their life. I'd hate to see them harshly judge themselves or hate themselves because of acne, or limit their life over it.
I try not to judge myself more harshly then I'd judge a love one, truly we are our own most cruel and judgmental critic!
So smile and find joy, your not your acne and there is a whole beautiful person there that wants to live and share in the world!