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About madeupdreams

  • Birthday 12/24/1986

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  1. I've heard some real horror stories from some people on here about their dermatologists, so I feel fortunate for finding one that was so sweet and supportive on my first try. I had the same fears as you going into my appointment, but my dermatologist really set me at ease. Have you looked up patient reviews for the derm you're planning on seeing? That might help give you an idea of what their bedside manner is like. Some doctors have little to no people skills, but there are plenty of others that do. Do a little research on your derm and maybe that will help you either feel a little less nervous or will help you on your way to finding someone who's a better fit. Good luck!
  2. Thanks for this! I've been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks a lot this year, and the trigger is almost always my acne. It's alwtays reassuring to know I'm not alone.  Your story about that spa was horrifying! I'm so sorry you went through that. I would've had a complete meltdown. The woman who runs that place sounds like a total con artist. And wtf was with her slapping your hand away when you were covering your face??
  3. I know exactly what you mean. I've struggled with acne for about 17 years now, and I had a whole year of crystal clear skin recently (also while being on doxycycline). Then this past summer, it all came back. It was more frustrating than ever before because I had actually attained clear skin, and it was amazing and I was so much happier, and then it got ripped away from me. I almost wished my skin had never cleared up in the first place so that I wouldn't know what I was missing. Thankfully, my skin finally seems to be slowly improving after being on spirinolactone for about four months, but it just makes me wonder about how long it'll last before acne rears its ugly head again.   Anyway, just wanted to let you know that I understand what you're going through, and I hope you're able to find a permanent solution to your acne, or as close to permanent as possible. 
  4. Took the words right out of my mouth. People know that there's no point offering a solution. No matter what they say, they'll get told they're wrong (and in the nastiest way possible).
  5. Being Unattractive

    I don't understand what your goal is in making posts like this. People are taking the time to make thoughtful responses and you're just being completely dismissive and rude. What do you want people to say? "Yeah, I bet you're really ugly and you'll definitely be alone the rest of your life." Isn't that way you think anyway? Why even ask? Also, I'm sure you think the guy in that picture is every woman's dream or whatever, but just for the record I don't find him attractive at all. He's only attractive in the most bland, generic way possible. I've never dated anyone who looked remotely like him. Bleh. 
  6. I Will Never Find Love

    Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.
  7. I Will Never Find Love

    Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 
  8. I feel absolutely horrible. I actually thought my skin was clearing up because I went a whole two days without a breakout, but then I broke out today, and it's BAD. I feel so hopeless. I hate this so so so much.

    Wow, this entire post honestly could have been written by me. I know exactly how you feel. It's so disappointing when you think your skin is clearing up and you actually feel a surge of hope and confidence, only to have it crushed by another breakout. I also know what it's like to lose your motivation to do well in school and in life because you feel like there's no point because you'll always be weighed down by acne. I've been feeling like that since my acne came back a few months ago (after a year of clear skin, which I never took for granted for a second), and it's been hard to pull myself out of that hole. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm 28, almost 29. I've had acne for 17 years now and it's possible that I'll have it for another ten or twenty years. I've decided that I can't go through my life letting acne hold me back. Don't get me wrong, this is an ongoing struggle and not something I've already succeeded at. Some days I wake up and say "fuck this, I'm going to have a great day even though my skin looks like hell. I won't let this control me" and the next day I can't even get out of bed because I'm crying about how gross and ugly I feel. But the important thing is that I'm trying. I'm forcing myself to leave my house and spend time with my friends even though all I want to do is hide. It's really hard sometimes, but I hope you can find the strength to do the same thing. Don't let acne defeat you.You can PM me on here if you ever feel really hopeless and need to talk. 

    People who have never had acne are just clueless idiots, and the ones who go out of their way to draw attention to it are rude and insensitive. I'm so sorry the people around you have been so thoughtless. The only thing that gets me through my day is believing that nobody really notices my acne, or at the very least, they wouldn't point it out for no good reason. I guess some people just think they're trying to help by suggesting a face wash/dermatologist/whatever, but they should stop and think that maybe, just maybe, you've already explored those options. Nobody wants to be walking around with acne, after all.  I'm sorry you're surrounded by assholes, and I hope things get better for you soon.
  11. Thoughts on a few things...

    Those aren't privileges, you fucking idiot. Those are all just counteracting discrimination that women used to face, and still face. Those things are all in place in an ATTEMPT to make things a little more even and fair for us.  I cannot even wrap my mind around how out of touch you are with the real world so I won't be continuing this conversation. Have fun living in your own little world where women get allllll the glory. 
  12. Thoughts on a few things...

    LOL okay. It's IMPOSSIBLE for a woman to be single and lonely, huh? Good to know. Oh and thanks for teaching me about my "invisible benefits". I had no idea it was so easy to be a woman. I guess I've just imagined all of the street harassment I get on a daily basis, sexual harassment I have to tolerate at work, laws that restrict my access to reproductive health care, being paid less than men for doing the same work as me, having agonizing menstrual cramps every single month that prevent me from working or going to school, etc. etc. etc. Nope, being a woman is a total cakewalk!
  13. Thoughts on a few things...

    Seriously. This post is so nasty. Like there aren't enough women on here who are struggling with self-esteem issues. God forbid a woman who has acne AND is overweight happens to read this garbage...yeah, that's really gonna brighten her day. 
  14. Thoughts on a few things...

    Trust me, as a woman, you guys have no idea what you're talking about. There are just as many shallow men out there as they are shallow women. Saying "all women are picky and only like men who are physically attractive in every way" is not only absurd but offensive. Grow up and quit feeling so damn sorry for yourselves. The only thing that might make acne slightly more tolerable for women is the fact that it's more socially acceptable for us to cover it with makeup...but in the end most makeup only makes acne worse, so even that isn't an advantage.
  15. Thoughts on a few things...

    Wow, you guys REALLY have women all figured out!
  16. I second all of this. As much as I don't want to let my acne control my life and keep me from my responsibilities (and fun stuff as well), sometimes the anxiety that comes with facing the world is more than I can bear. Taking a mental health day can be just as important as taking a "real" sick day.
  17. I Will Never Find Love

    I know exactly how you feel. I started avoiding my last boyfriend because my acne came back after being gone for almost a year. I had told him about my skin problems before, and I knew he loved me and wouldn't leave me over something like that, but I was still just so devastated and embarrassed about my skin getting bad again. I convinced myself that I looked so repulsive that my boyfriend couldn't possibly be attracted to me anymore. I got so depressed and anxious that I wouldn't let my boyfriend or friends come over, and I wouldn't leave the house unless I had to go to work or school. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago because he couldn't understand why I didn't want him around. I couldn't explain to him how disgusting I feel, how I don't want anyone to look at me, much less touch me or kiss me. I know how hard it is to have confidence and feel attractive when you have acne. Even when my skin was clear, I didn't feel confident. Years and years of acne have permanently damaged my ability to feel good about my appearance. At the end of the day though, I know I'm my own worst critic, and I'm sure you are too. Trust me, NO ONE on this earth cares about the fact that you have acne as much as you do. I bet you would be shocked to know how many people still think you're beautiful. Try to keep your head up. I say that as someone who is struggling to do the same. Just trying get through each day hoping that my skin will be a little better tomorrow.
  18. I've had acne for over half my life now, about 17 years. Like *DarkHeart* said, it bothers me more with every passing year. I hate being almost 30 and still having bad skin. I've begun to lose hope that it will ever go away for good. If I'm going to be stuck with acne forever, I know I have to get over it and not let it ruin my life, but it's easier said than done. I cry about it almost every day. :/