Focusing on all my shortcomings today. Would like to blame acne for my procrastination and feeling like a hermit, but I'm not sure I can. Thought my skin was healing. . . Old blemishes are flaring up again and new ones are bulging beneath the surface. New tea is coming in the mail today, can't wait to try.
Blah! Skin almost clear. I am dieting for weight loss, pants don't fit right. I am hungry, but determined. Skin tends to clear up when I don't over eat. Even when I over eat what would be considered healthy foods my skin quality decreases. Hmm . . . Maybe I should start a thread. . .
A lot of what therapists do is help you work through your feelings or barriers to success. their training makes it possible to give useful suggestions for you to implement, but not everything works for everyone to the same degree otherwise we wouldn't need these experts. Their training teaches them how to ask the right questions and evaluate situations. The progress that you make is your own and your therapist provides tools to help you. Usually therapists have a good understanding of themselves, I think most people have issues that they deal with. Even if your therapist has never had acne, he/she has had issues that they've struggled with and have overcome or are attempting to overcome. It's their training that qualifies them to service others, not their life experiences. If you continue to feel uncomfortable, discuss it with your therapist. You can certainly look for a different therapist, but to find one who has lived what you are going through is not necessarily realistic, you may have to search a long time.
I've been trying to tell myself that most people probably won't ask about my skin... maybe the worst I'll get will be stares. But it's ok I can deal with that I hope.
I've always had terrible anxiety when I start a new job and it makes it hard for me to actually keep a job at times. I'm currently looking for a paid job still - so I think that's what will help me with this 'job' for uni. I can think of it more as volunteer work or as just a uni assignment. Thinking both of these things actually helps a bit for some reason...
Thank you for all the other advice and tips. I'll try and remember to use them all. I can see how they would help - and for any situation where my anxiety is up (not just work related things).
You know, even if you feel like people are staring it is probably not at your acne. Everyone is programmed not to stare at a condition because it is rude. But often times people stare at people who have something they like. If you get the feeling that people are staring at you, maybe you are having a great hair day! Or you have a warm smile, cute outfit, or you are just projecting a lot of confidence. Sometimes you may only have the feeling that they are staring at you, but they are not. Maybe the children you are interacting with are compelling in some way. I had someone staring at me a few weeks ago while I was traveling out of the country. There was a language barrier so I was feeling very uncomfortable. The lady made her way over to me and took a picture of my purse! Apparently my Walmart find from the clearance rack was so unique in that country that she needed to post about it on facebook. HA!
I would just tell them that I have very sensitive skin. They don't need or want details, but you could tell them that most products don't work for you or you are dealing with it with help from a doctor. You might be pleasantly surprised by how many people don't ask. I think you will feel very rewarded and comfortable with the autistic kids, but they can be a challenge! For Anxiety, keep repeating a phrase until it becomes true. I had terrible anxiety when I started a job in fast food of all things. I was shaking and panicking as I was driving to work one day, wasn't sure I'd be able to function. I took some deep breaths and starting repeating out loud "I can do this". It has worked remarkably well for me in many situations since. Making phone calls to parents, going in to ask forgiveness from the boss, etc. I usually just say it under my breath, though. Smile frequently on the job, it eases tension. Keep breathing. Ask questions anytime you are not sure about something. Learn from those around you. Hold your head up and have good posture--it makes you look confident and in control even if you are questioning your skills. If you are having a particularly tough time at work, briefly confide in someone that you feel very nervous and are afraid of doing something wrong. Sometimes just voicing a concern makes it feel less threatening and if that person has any people skills at all, she will be reassuring and watch out for you the rest of the day! Good Luck!
I'm sorry that you now know for a fact that your parents are only humans complete with flaws and all. I think we all come to this realization eventually. It could be worse. Keep in mind that normal parents simply want the best for their children. They want them to not miss opportunities that maybe they overlooked in their own lives. They want them to learn from their own mistakes to prevent the child from having to make any. They want all these things whether they can articulate this to the child. Being a parent is a challenge and it never ends, even after the child is grown. Parents always deal with feelings of worry and want to offer guidance, hopefully it is done so in a constructive way.
When parents' messages feel destructive, especially when they should know better (like yours), I think a couple things need to happen. First don't take their comments too much to heart, they seem to be having trouble letting their little bird fly with her own two wings. You ultimately need to make choices that you are comfortable with. You will remain, long after your parents are gone you will only have yourself to answer to. I agree with not rushing through you application. It could hurt you if you apply, don't get accepted, reapply and they say "yeah, I remember her from last year, what a half-assed application that was." You can spend this year building up your activities and volunteer work to help insure that you will have a place. Now if you are only postponing your application because you are doubting your own self-confidence, because it is easier to not apply than to be rejected, then your parents may have a point. Assess the reasons behind your decision and then make YOUR decision. There are all kinds of paths that lead us to success, and forging your own path can be rewarding! Good Luck! I'm hugging you mentally
Those ranges that doctors go by are averages for humans in general. I believe that individuals may operate at levels that are optimum for them. Your optimum may certainly be higher on the normal scale than me impacting your health even if your results are "normal". But that's just my opinion and I have no credentials backing this up, just observing life. However, you are certainly entitled to a second opinion. You do not need to go through all the testing again. Just request a copy of your results or have them faxed to another doctor. Any doctor should not be offended by asking for a second opinion. It is your health and you have to advocate for yourself.
For everyone with those recent posts about hair concerns, a little information that may or may not be helpful. It is within the normal range to lose about 100 strands per day. For people with long hair--that looks like an awful lot of hair! In fact, I have heard of people with super long hair becoming so obsessed with how much of their hair collects in the shower in the shower drain everyday that they decide to go short. It looks like a lot less hair. Hair growth and hair loss are influenced heavily by hormones as most women who have been pregnant have noticed. Every hair follicle goes through periods of growth and dormancy. The growth cycle is around 2-5 years. The length of this cycle is genetically determined. If you would let your hair grow without ever getting it cut (or experiencing breakage) you would find that it would reach a maximum length. People with longer growth cycles have a longer maximum length than someone with a shorter growth cycle. At the end of the 2-5 year growth cycle, the hair follicle temporarily stops producing new cells and hair growth stops for that strand of hair. Luckily not all of our hairs are on the same cycle. At the end of the dormant period the strand of hair is shed (these are called club hairs) when a new strand grows enough to eject the old hair from the follicle. What happens during pregnancy is that the cycles of a lot of hair syncronize due to the hormones. Many pregnant women notice thicker hair. After the pregnancy, those hormones, in the process of returning to normal, cause many hairs to end their dormancy period simultaneously. It is significant enough that women notice the visible change in the thickness of their hair and an increase in the number of club hairs in their brushes and drains, but it is completely normal. I imagine that depending on the birth control pill, you could experience the same effect.
I feel better today than I have in a long time so I just had to share. I have been under near constant stress for the past year, especially since February. Now today I have hope and feel like life is falling into place. After Monday I will still be busy, but it will be within MY control not others. I will be settling into my new job where I plan to stay forever. Sometimes dreams come true. It has nothing to do with clear skin, either. I currently have four cysts that are bright red. If connected they would create a straight line that runs from just below the middle of my lower lip to the outer edge of my eyebrow. At least they have healed enough that they do not hurt anymore unless they get bumped.Oh, plus I have the usual whiteheads, blackheads, and scaring that I am accustomed to. I am secretly hoping that once my high stress is gone maybe I will be able to experience clear skin for the first time since I was about 9 years old! I'm NOT going to hold my breath, though. Even if I don't ever experience clear skin again, I know that I am a productive citizen that makes a difference in the lives of others. I am talented and determined and driven to attain the things that I want for myself. Those things include a sense of pride, feelings of love, happiness, and lifelong learning!
Awww! That makes me sad. Instead of wallowing in your dark feelings here make a of doable goals short-term and long-term. Then make a list of things you can do immediately to begin to reach those goals. Taking a proactive approach should help improve you mood. Sometimes we have to parent ourselves and be our own best friend.
My husband does the same thing to me! I just tell myself that if he did notice everything about my skin that I do, he never would have married me! Just be glad your mom doesn't obsess over your skin as much as you do.
I had similar hairline breakouts to yours at one point. Eventually connected the breakouts to shampoo and hair styling products I was using. I was using a variety of products that contained plant extracts. When I eliminated those, my skin improved. I was also using a dandruff shampoo that contained salicylic acid and when I eliminated it my hairline acne cleared up completely. I decided that I am sensitive to salicylates. . .maybe someone who reads this can relay their experiences and confirm if they think that is likely my issue.
Occasionally I was still experiencing some embarrassing dandruff. Once I figured out that I was sensitive to wheat and eliminated it from my diet, my dandruff and remaining breakouts elsewhere on my face and body cleared, too. Sometimes I cheat by eating a doughnut, but always end up regretting it by struggling with breakouts that take several weeks to heal!