omarcomin added a topic in Emotional and psychological effects of acneIs Anyone Else Sick To Death Of Always Thinking About Clear SkinIs anyone else bored and sick to death of always thinking about and obsessing having clear skin, my everyday life seems to be consumed by it now and it's almost like a natural reflex to any given situation, like fliching when you think you're going to get hit.
I watch a tv show or a film and i spend the entire duration just looking at the actors and thinking if only i had clear skin like them.
I get a text off of someone asking to meet up (those are few and far between these days since nobody wants to know me anymore, and rightly so because i've hidden myself away) my first thought is that i would like to but there's no way i can set foot outside the house with my face like this.
I see some clothes i would like to buy but then think would the color magnifiy my acne and what is the point in my clothes looking good when i have a face like this.
I'm not upset or angry over my clear skin obsession i'm just bored and tired of it. It's like i've been thinking about it for so long that now whenever any everyday situation arises my brain is chemically conditioned to immediatley think 'i can't because of my skin' or 'i could do this and do that if only i had clear skin'. It's like a drug addict in the deep thralls of heroin who can't see past anything but the drugs.
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omarcomin added a topic in Emotional and psychological effects of acneI'm Stuck In The PastI'm stuck in the past and am really having trouble moving forward. A couple of years ago i had a period where my skin cleared up quiet a bit, it was nowhere near clear but it was the best it had been since havng acne. I still had people that made horrible comments and still had trouble over my skin but also for the first time in my life i had friends, went out, girls actually started liking me, a couple even fancying me. I was a lot more confident than i had ever been and actually had a social life.
In the last couple of years my skin suddenley got worse and instead of trying to do something about it i was grieving for a 'better time' in my life. In that time all my friends have moved on because of me being a recluse due to my skin and never going out. What's so ridiculous about the whole situation is that time was just as sh!tty as ony other. Looking back the girls who claimed to like me were just using me for money, drinks etc and when ever i did go out i was just as bad as i am with going out now and was constantly insulted by people and worried about my skin. It's like looking back rationally i know that that time wasn't all that great but for some reason i can't move on from it, instead of just trying to better myself now (skin wise or emotionally wise) i'm stuck in a period that had some good moments (clubbing, the odd girl who seemed to like me) but for the most part was like any other negative time in my life that i've had acne.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so how did you move on from this?
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omarcomin added a topic in Emotional and psychological effects of acneAcne destroying you're relationship abilitiesApoloigies for the long post lol. . .
Does anyone feel that acne has destroyed their ability to be in a relationship?
I don't mean in the sense that you acne comes between you or you're parnter or that it holds you back from a relationship (which are topics that come up quiet a lot on the board) but that because of acne you don't know how to have a relationship.
A lot of adults here that still have acne started to get it in their teens, which is the most important part of you're life for developing social skills. One of the side effects of acne is that some people like me shut their self away and kind of went into suspended animation. Everyone around you did what teenagers did and progressed but you just hid yourself away. One of the very few benefits of acne is that it taught me how to enjoy my own company. I would hate to be one of those people who would go with a person they didn't have any real feelings for just to say they had a partner. I've had male and female friends who have gone with people who didn't really love them and who have cheated on them and basically treated them like scum, yet my friends stick by them because they're so afraid of being alone. I'm thankful to acne in that respect, that i can tolerate being on my own and sometimes even really enjoy it.
Unfortanetly one of the many drawbacks of acne is that i'm in my mid twentes but because of the effect i have let acne have on me i have never had a relationship. When other teenagers were going out and learning how to form relationships i was hiding myself away and didn't learn the nessceary realtionship experience that other people my age have. If i was to enter into a relationship now i would feel like a fish out of water, going from being alone but being able to do what you wanted, when you wanted to suddenley having to share yourself and your time with another person would be completley alien to me. Obviously everyone who is single and then has had a relationship has had to face this adjustment, but it would feel a lot more harder to deal with when you have been alone you're entire life and adjusted to being alone and learned to live like that.
So does anyone else have the apprehension that if they did start going out with someone, they would find it hard to handle because of being so used to being alone and not having the developed social and relationship skills that you should have acquired as part of growing up.
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