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[Reese]

heya all ive been a lurker here for a long time but forgot my other info so I had to make a new account, anyway..

just wondering if anyone else gets like this, I am not ugly, infact alot of girls call me very good looking, which is all fine and dandy, but I have this problem where I get obsessed about spots, and how I look..

example is one time I broke out with a few spots, which granted, is NOTHING compared to what real acne severe sufferers have to deal with (and I bow to your will power), and I just didn't want to be seen in public, its wierd, but I have this certain image for myself and if I personally don't think im looking as good as normal other people will look down on me and it lowers my self confidence ALOT.

I'd look in the mirror and on a good day just by looking in the mirror my confidence would go from low to high. on a bad day if I think im looking shit, it just goes down and I feel like crap.

I hate being so self obsessed about looks and just wish there was some way to not care about it, maybe I'm just vain, but am I the only one who gets paranoid when they have some spots or generally look bad compared to normal?

I know this is a stupid post but I mean its the internet so I figured it might be good for some advise.

oh and another example is:

this one girl who fancied me (had a crush on me) for a few years, and her friend was trying to set her up with me, but I rejected her because to be blunt, she is.. lets put it this way - wasn't blessed in the looks department . now I never told her no, just told her friend no (who also liked me, and actually laughed when telling me her friend liked me).

so I see this girl when im going out clubbing on saturday, and she comes up to me and is like 'hey I used to think you were gorgeous, but now I think your an ugly bastard!'

on the outside I wanted to unleash some bad disses to her but basically just laughed it off because she was drunk and said 'well thats me told eh? better you think im ugly so atleast now I can have some peace'

on the inside I somehow let it get to me, until ofcourse I got in the club, and pretty much the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen in my life introduced herself to me and we started talking and having fun / flirting / dancing.

it sucks to be this paranoid about looks lol, I'm obsessed with the mirror and have to keep myself looking at what i think is good otherwise i usually just shrug off shit and dont go out or try to delay stuff.

I think the thing I need to realise is that people percieve me different than I see myself, like my dad told me. I might look good to everyone else on a really bad day but just am too paranoid to realise it.

flame me if you have to I can take it

thanks for any advise~

[Reese]

I am shy she approached me heh, but that still doesn't fix the whole insecure problem just because I can talk to girls, approaching them is a different story unless I'm E'd out my head or drunk to hell.

self esteem fluctuates like a case of the flu

edit: and she wasnt little miss goodfuck, she wasn't a slut and more of the ideal GF type.

[damn]

i hear ya, your not alone in that department.

[Wickeh]

i hear ya, your not alone in that department.

[A584537]

-    wasn't blessed in the looks department .

I was feeling bad for you until this line.
I feel exactly like you though basically, though I don't care about how somebody looks. I would look great without acne, but I get little out breaks sometimes and it destroys me. It's nowhere near as bad as some peoples on here, but to you it's horrible and it destroys you.

Why are look so important to you? Most people say acne humbles them, but apparently for you it hasn't. Going out to a club and things isn't the type of things people do when feeling horrible about acne.

When I'm feeling absolutely horrible about my acne I don't go anywhere, I don't leave the house and I try to hide away from anybody that lives here. Maybe that's just me, but a lot of other people do that to I think.

- wasn't blessed in the looks department .

Basically, as mean as this may sound, get over it. You get a tiny bit of acne, but three women have showed a lot of interest in you. You get a tiny bit of acne, but you have the confidence to actually go out to a club.

Get your ass off the computer and go out and meet some women that are "blessed in the looks department."

[Miya]

I rejected her because to be blunt, she is.. lets put it this way -   wasn't blessed in the looks department  .

I agree with the above poster. Obviously, acne hasn't humbled you one bit. You're the type to only look at physical appearances, huh? Well, just remember this, beauty fades but inner beauty does not.

[Reese]

trust me ive had my fair shair of acne, infact ive had extremly bad periods but I tend to clear it up doing a non regimen routine pretty easy..

all I do is gently wash my face with COLD water until near numb , then a little hot water, but quickly, then dry off properly, and apply clinique moisturizer which seems to for some reason make my face clean up by the next day.

but then I always tend to get a spot under the mouth and my t-zone area can be annoying at times, theres always something going on but I manage to handle it.

I also exercise in my room morning and night which helps, if your face isn't up to scratch , why not concentrate on other departments ?

and yeah its pretty vain to say she wasnt nice looking, but she wasnt, and im not going to lie, infact she was downright wicked witch of the west looking and had the voice to go with it. just because I have acne doesnt mean I need to go for ugly girls does it? I mean we all have a certain sort of girl we like and I do too.

just because I go out doesnt mean I aint paranoid about my spots or whatever, I just say fuck it you only live once and go out and have fun.

my point is its hard to cope with even if I can mask it pretty good to the outer world..