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What I've learned time and time again, is that going to others for advice seldom works. It's just because you can talk and talk and talk and explain everything thing about what happened and the person you are talking to will probably sympathize with you. But, then you can later add just one more small detail and that suddenly changes their whole opinion and recommendation. There are so many details that can be left out that can change the whole story. So, none of us really know the whole story. You gotta just trust yourself and know that you are smart enough to figure things out for yourself... with maybe a little advice from others now and then. Usually, the gut feeling is the most telling and reliable.
Actually ironically enough that is probably the best advice yet. However, I wasn't looking for advice because I agree completely with what you said. No one knows about everything that is going on, no matter how objective or detailed I try to be about the story. Basically I was looking to vent, just an outlet to get my story out because I'm sure if I keep whining to my friends about this all the time they will get sick of it. lol. I think also I'm one of those people if I can write something down...then I don't think about it as much then. But if people want to give advice I don't mind that either. I'll listen but more then likely I won't take it though and do what I feel needs to be done. Don't worry about being sympathetic...I wasn't looking for that or advice. I wasn't really expecting too many people responding. In the end it comes down to is two people not being able to make it work. Its hard...but I know I am strong enough to deal.
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I was in love with somebody for a year and a half, and when we broke up even a while after I still felt like I was cheating on her just for liking other people.
Ask him not to tell you he loves you, because that will just make things harder for you both. I think you will both end up back together soon, I've seen it happen with my relationship and others.
I still love my ex-girlfriend, but she truly messed up our relationship. I hope you and your ex can work it out.
It does get easier with time, trust me. It's been about two months for me now, and things are getting easier everyday. I still hurt, a lot but you have to deal with it and keep on going. And having little contact with who you love makes it easier.
Why can't you make it work darling?
Shame you're not around where I live though
I don't think I can do that...that is tell him to stop saying I love you. I think he would take it the wrong way. But see when we did break up, we cleared the air and there was no hard feelings other then the realization we can't make it work right now. But I can see what you mean. What I think I need to do is to move on with my life. I think the best case best scenerio, is that we would remain friends. It would be too hard to stop seeing him all together. I don't know if we would ever end up together again- stranger things have happened. But I know enough to realize not to hold onto that hope either.
Well one of the reasons we couldn't make it work was we didn't have enough time. First he got upset he didn't see me enough, then suddenly he got so busy from a new full time job on top of school, and other issues like his parents getting divorced, family issues, friend dying...etc. then I didn't see him enough. He has little time to deal and I can see he is not in the right head space to be in a relationship. It became a snowball effect...I would get upset about something, then he would get upset...And we didn't see each other enough to figure out the problems so things got worse. Pretty soon he started lashing out on me, which is like what I explained in the begining of this topic. We both knew something had to change.
Good luck guider with your relationships...when you love someone it is so hard to get over them. Sometimes you never do. But I know we can make it and move on.
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I try to be a good listener, and I try to help 
Things will work out for the best, everything happens for a reason 
how old are you darling? 
