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[redhot63042]

Hello all I am in a profound mood and thinking way too much this evening. Nothing like being alone on Valentine's day. Oh well. Anyway, I am curious if anyone has ever given up relationships bc they felt so bad about their acne? Have you ever told someone you aren't capable of loving them bc you don't really love yourself? I have and I really feel this way. I hate acne and I am disgusted bc it has robbed me of my life and my ability to truly love and be loved. The truth hurts in so many ways. It felt appropriate for the holiday. Sorry just had to vent. thanks for listening red

[Avi]

I feel the same way, I am considering dumping my gf because of my acne, she deserves someone so much better than what i can give her. I think about it every night before I go to bed about how she would be so much happier with someone who is happy with themself

[redhot63042]

Mike don't do that just bc of your acne. Don't let it beat you. Your gf sees something in you besides your acne. It really is worse to us than the world. You will be more miserable if you are alone. Don't break up with her bc of your acne, but if you have relationship issues then break up over that. Don't let your acne win. Just bc it makes you feel bad about yourself, doesn't mean people who love you see it. My bf tells me I am beautiful I don't believe that, but he does. And I bet your gf believes you are handsome and wonderful. Don't let it win! good luck hun red

[arrshixerrr]

I give up on girlfriends becuase I get bored and always end up finding someone "better" or thinking there is someone "better". When Im single I want to be with someone and when Im with someone, I want to be single....Maybe I just need to find the ONE!!! Shen has to be out there, everyone has someone, I know it!!!!

Ohh, my acne never really comes up. I tend to date when its looking clear.

[Jinjo]

I'm pretty sure last year i'ld of probably not even tried to get into a relationship because of my acne. I'ld of found it hard to sustain a relationship while I was still sorry for myself. Anyway as the previous guy said, when you get the chance to rebuild you can make it better.

[adultAcne]

People become better looking as you get to know them. And once you fall in love, they can become the most beautiful people in the world, so don't undo all the progress you have made. Love is blind for a good reason... be greatful for what you have and don't fix what ain't broken!!!!!

[mr.peabody]

I 've given up. I had acne since I was about 14 and I'm 26 now. I've never really had a girlfriend and probably never will. Oh and yes I've heard the old cliches like "you never know what's around th corner" and "there's someone for everyone" and la de da. I heard them eight years ago, I heard them five years ago, I heard them one year ago, I heard last Christmas. So if anyone says them now I just think "yup, another eight years down the line and I'll look back and think the same old thing." Oh, by the way, I'm pretty much clear now, but it makes no difference.

[MartinaL]

I feel bad for my boyfriend...I started dating him when i was clear and felt beautiful, and now i feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth cause he has to see me like this and I feel like im not beautiful to him anymore..and im always yelling and getting mad at him, just because i fee like shit....i hate it...I HATE ACNE

[adultAcne]

I feel bad for my boyfriend...I started dating him when i was clear and felt beautiful, and now  i feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth cause he has to see me like this and I feel like im not beautiful to him anymore..and im always yelling and getting mad at him, just because i fee like shit....i hate it...I HATE ACNE

Don't screw it up!!!

[Vince Is A Stud Muffin]

I will never meet this awesome girl now that my severe acne is back and when it was clear we hit it off real fast. fuck life. THE END

[Melchior]

Hmm, well if I had a g/f I could care less if she had acne and such. But if she felt down, it seems like if I just tell her that I love her regardless, she'd still feel down?

I feel bad for my boyfriend...I started dating him when i was clear and felt beautiful, and now i feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth cause he has to see me like this and I feel like im not beautiful to him anymore..and im always yelling and getting mad at him, just because i fee like shit....i hate it...I HATE ACNE

I know how acne makes you feel right now I've felt like this for a very long time. But let me ask you. What do you want your boyfriend to love you most for? Do you want him to think you're beautiful physcially and base on that the most? Looks will fade no matter what, either by age, accident, etc. It's great to feel beautiful but wouldn't you rather have someone love you based on something else? I think your boyfriend would love you regardless of your acne. Has he ever talked about this?

If I was your boyfriend and I told you that I really didn't see your acne as an issue and I loved you because of who you were, would you still feel bad about it?

Remember, having acne doesn't make you any lesser or worse off for him, it makes zero difference, like many other things, at least it SHOULD. If it doesn't make zero difference to him then I'd find someone else. Assess yourself, what is good about you? Maybe your kindness, intelligence, creativity, etc. Beauty isn't what you think it is, having a perfect face isn't beauty, being a good person is though.

[Darth Hideous]

I've never utterred the word "love" to anyone before. To me, it's in the same class as all the other 4 letter words.

[emilyburd]

..dark hideous didnt understand what you mean exactly

[~Emma~]

A dear friend of mine had terrible acne though school and because he didn’t socialize much he became extremely shy. After school and college he had a great job but was extremely lonely, he tried to ask girls out but it never worked out for him. He didn’t like to go clubbing and the like and he felt stuck.

A few years ago, he went to an introduction agency and to his credit was completely honest with them. His now wife, is his perfect match. She is from Russia and just adores him. Holding hands and carrying on, we are always telling them to get a room.

I guess I am not trying to make any real point here other then you just never really know.

[scarred4lyfe]

Hello all I am in a profound mood and thinking way too much this evening. Nothing like being alone on Valentine's day. Oh well. Anyway, I am curious if anyone has ever given up relationships bc they felt so bad about their acne? Have you ever told someone you aren't capable of loving them bc you don't really love yourself? I have and I really feel this way. I hate acne and I am disgusted bc it has robbed me of my life and my ability to truly love and be loved.  The truth hurts in so many ways. It felt appropriate for the holiday. Sorry just had to vent. thanks for listening red 

I totally feel the same way....their was this guy who liked me and I just kept avoiding him...he ask me if I wanted to go out and I would make up some stupid excuse not to go... I'd never had the guts to tell him...that I felt like I was'nt good enough for him...so I just kept avoiding him....The sad part is..I really liked him....I'm such a loser

[nextbigthing]

I've had the chance of having bf but make the excuse I wanna 'concentrate on college work' which is half true. But would like a bf but feel that I don't have the confidence to cos of my acne-I'd hate them staring at my face...Prob that's why I just have 'flings' and have nothing serious cos I'm too scared to

[vitaminz]

I know what it's like to feel that acne is totally destroying your dating life! However, if you look around you, you do see people with zits who have boyfriends or girlfriends who are pretty zit-free. And mind you, the partner with zits often has moderate to even severe acne. I live in a city so perhaps i see more people each day, but i definitely do see such people.

Seeing such couples always inspired me so much. I don't deny that having zits lowers one's attractiveness. That is definitely true. Humans somehow have been evolutionarily programmed to have a predilection for attractive faces. However. there are many people who fall in love with their partners for deeper reasons. I was very inspired by my best friend who had really bad acne but who never let it lower his confidence. During his bad acne years, he went through two relationships with girls who were pretty and zit-free! They didn't mind his acne and loved him for who he was. My best friend is in good shape and is very humorous and an excellent conversationalist, and I believe these traits helped him a lot. Of course he tried his best to find acne treatment methods but all the while he never let acne pull him down. In fact, one of his girlfriends, when they were still in early getting-to-know-each-other phase, even went with him for a facial and after the facial, he came out of it with his face and zits really red because the worker at the facial somehow insisted on squeezing his zits or something. And his girl didn't mind one bit!

So i think it is important not to make everything into a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you have bad zits, don't become socially withdrawn and negative because that only worsens your image and self-esteem. We are what we think.

And i'm speaking from the perspective of someone who has moderate to severe acne for MANY years.

Good luck to everyone!

[Darth Hideous]

..dark hideous didnt understand what you mean exactly

I mean only that people think it is an offensive word when it comes forth from my mouth.