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[DaveM]

Seriously, how do you do it?

I don't know if it's just my physical appearance with acne, or it has something to do with my confidence being really low.

Like whenever I get remotely close to a girl ill push her away because I'm scared that a) other people will comment 'why is such a good looking girl going out with a guy like that' and b) if we get close and she sees my back/chest she might freak out and I wont be physically attractive or whatever (as if chest/bacne isn't a massive turnoff).

So to the people out there with like serious acne (not the 1 or 2 zit people) and who have/have had GF/BF's, how do you manage it? and what do they think of your acne?

thanks guys

[MACGrrl]

You gotta believe in yourself, and have confidence in yourself. Not everything is about appearance despite our messed up society that emphasizes looks.

Be confident with who you are as a person, and happy with yourself.

I was with someone when I had cystic acne and they still thought I was beautiful. I didn't want them touching my face or looking at me much I was so self conscious...but that didn't matter to them. It's all about being happy with yourself as a person.

You can PM me if you need anything!

Ashley

[arrshixerrr]

Well, as of now, I do not have a girl either, but I have been asking girls out and going on some dates.
Thats the key is to just get out there and ask them out and not worry about so much. If you end up worrying about it all the time, you wil never be able to focus on you and her. Chances are she has insecurites about her body too.
I do have some pretty bad bacne and chest acne, but I have been working out and my body is looking good. Still has the acne, but its better to have the 6 pack with acne then a keg with acne.
1)Dont let it bother you, try to make her like you for your attitude and personality.
2)Remember that she has problems and worries about her body as well, most of us do. Thats what helps me the most if I start doubting my self when talking to a girl.

Good Luck!

[ThatGuy16]

Well I dont have a girl either now, but hey, I learned that alot of girls like personality more. Honestly, im sure you've heard this a million times, but it really is the best advice one can give for meeting girls and that is.....


Be Yourself!!

[the.ronin]

I don't have serious acne, but the last time I checked, asking them on a date was a good place to start.

[DaveM]

I don't have serious acne, but the last time I checked, asking them on a date was a good place to start.

yeah obviously man, but thats not the thing....

like i can't actually get a relationship with a girl up to the point where i'd feel comfortable asking her on a date, my self esteem is so dead.

[DaveM]

Not everything is about appearance despite our messed up society that emphasizes looks. 

but i mean its so damn hard to look a girl in the eyes when your face is covered in zits. and i mean i've had acne for so long now that even after it's gone i have a feeling that theres going to be some serious psychological things that i'll have to overcome

add on to this that ive become so quiet lately and i don't think i'd have much to talk about anyway.

seriously i don't know how some guys do it, some of my friends have a new GF every month... I have no idea where or how they meet so many girls.

[Cr0n3]

Having Acne is a given. Think of how you look without it. It (Acne) only decreases your beauty, but deep inside (without acne) you are beautiful/handsome. Now, if you find a person who looks more in what is inside you and not what is given, and who thinks that it is just a phase (somehow it will go away) then simply choose that person. You just have to find a person like that, not like those shallow people who doesnt really care about whats inside (personality/attitude) but only cares about the looks.

Thats how i have a GF, luckily i found a person with the same interests as me and who is not shallow and cares more for who you are inside and how you trully look.

Someone is always meant for a certain person. Time will come when you will find that person.

I guess thats just about it.

[nextbigthing]

Belive it or not most lads I know might not be the best looking ever but they have the chat and confidence and just will chat to any girl, which the girls fall for. I suppose if a guy came up to me and started chatting away and being confident I'd fall for it even if he wasn't all that good lookin'.
Anyway, all the good lookin' ones, pfft can you say NO PERSONALITY??!! They reckon they don't need it cos all girls will flock to them with the click of a finger, well they don't attract me!

[Guider]

You gotta believe in yourself, and have confidence in yourself.  Not everything is about appearance despite our messed up society that emphasizes looks. 

Be confident with who you are as a person, and happy with yourself. 

I was with someone when I had cystic acne and they still thought I was beautiful.  I didn't want them touching my face or looking at me much I was so self conscious...but that didn't matter to them.  It's all about being happy with yourself as a person.

You can PM me if you need anything!

Ashley

You have a great name Ashley and, if that's you in your avatar, you're gorgeous

[Pika]

My friend named Chris has moderate acne and girls flock to him. It's his confidence, humor, and personality that makes him so attractive to women.

Women like guys they can have fun with, laugh with, not guys that hold their head down because they have a whitehead on their chin.

Keep your head up, crack jokes, have fun, and that will show the ladies you aren’t the least bit self conscious.

If you need more help, PM me.

[CosairBOi]

My friend named Chris has moderate acne and girls flock to him. It's his confidence, humor, and personality that makes him so attractive to women.

Women like guys they can have fun with, laugh with, not guys that hold their head down because they have a whitehead on their chin.

Keep your head up, crack jokes, have fun, and that will show the ladies you aren’t the least bit self conscious.

If you need more help, PM me.

YO MAN.... I NEED HELP GETTING A GF....
THEY ARE HOT MAN.................
I ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE OUT WITH THEM BVUT THEY KICK ME IN THE BALES LOL

[Pika]

Learn how to type and maybe they won't kick you in the balls.

[Melchior]

Seriously, how do you do it?

I can't.

So to the people out there with like serious acne (not the 1 or 2 zit people) and who have/have had GF/BF's, how do you manage it? and what do they think of your acne?

thanks guys

I've never been in a relationship and I doubt I ever will. Every girl I pass completely ignores me. I've been confident, still didn't help me. I'm sorry I can't help you, I don't have the answers.
I think you'll find someone though, just hang in there.

[Pika]

Melchior i know a soph at my school with moderate acne dating one of the most hottest soph girls..

[Graphite]

confidence!

[Melchior]

I wish I could have a video camera built into my eyes or something, so you all can see what I see. Really, if girls don't completely pass me by ignoring me like I'm the scum of the earth, they grimace at me. I tried an experiment today and smiled/looked in the eyes of every girl around my age I saw, regardless of anything, just to get some reaction, I got a couple , a couple , a couple , a couple , a couple but mostly .

It may be just where I live (big city), but it really seems like the representatives I ran into saw nothing good about me.

[Pika]

well no shit Melchior if u look at them and they dont see any traits then of course your gonna get those looks.. make them laugh, be the class clown, be funny, confident, try to dress nice and match and stuff, start bodybuildin..

if some kid bumps into u stand up for yourself, so people see ur not an 'average kid with acne'

[Graphite]

if some kid bumps into u stand up for yourself, so people see ur not an 'average kid with acne'

good way to get into a fight and get your ass whooped by the wrong person.



If no girls are looking at you maybe they aren't interested in you.