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[gwenmerk]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

[DodoStain]

She probably likes you regardless if your acne is "good" one day or "bad" the next. You're worrying about yourself too much. Take all of that energy your wasting on worrying and put it towards your gf and your relationship.

[mrrreeow]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

I feel for you hon.
I started dating my boyf when I was almost finished Accutane.
My skin was pretty much all clear.
My acne has come back, and we have been together for almost 2 years now.
Although I know that he won't break up with me over it, I hate the way I act around him.
I hate how I've changed in the last few months.
I guess all I can say is, try your best to be normal - try not to change how you act around her.
It will be a test of how strong your relationship really is.
Good luck.

[Pika]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

Does she ever bring up that you are shy and insecure? When she does, tell her why. It will build a bond between you two, and you'll be closer with her and afterwards you won't think about it as much.

[-Misfits-]

Yeah just tell her you feel bad about it, and i bet she will feel what you're saying...

[Darth Hideous]

I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie).

Are you the same type of person as those who would lie about not having an STD even though they have one? Could you see yourself rationalizing that type of lie, just as you rationalized this one?

[Marvin]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

Congratulations on the start of a new relationship! I would really like to stress how important it is not to be lying. Telling your GF that your acne is from an allergic reaction is blasphemous. Unless you GF is a total nuthead I think she might be able to differentiate acne from an allergic reaction...
It's not all about looks and to the people who say it is, f*ck em.
If she can't handle your acne then you don't belong together. Get on a regimen be it SA or BP and start treating your acne before it treats your face like pizza.
Don't worry so much and start taking some affirmative action! you'll be alright cowboy. Just continue to look up different regimens and ideas people here have come up with. You will definately be a handsome hunk after you rid of acne. No doubt about it!

[Poogle]

Tell her the truth and be a man about it. There's no point to lying. If she likes you she likes you. If she doesn't like you you can have perfect skin and she wouldn't care.

Put it this way, if she breaks up because of your acne, then she's not worth being together with. During my college days I had really bad acne yet I got a really cute gf. She never cared about the acne. It's like it never existed. Looking back, she was my favorite gf because I knew she really cared about me for who I am on the inside. Too bad we broke up few years later.... long story.

Love is much more than just having smooth skin. Treasure those that can see past your acne.

[DaveM]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

man at least you got a GF... i would kill to be in your shoes right now.

treasure it, if she can accept you with acne then thats the best shit in the world. If I could only be so lucky

[Melchior]

Don't worry GettingThere, you can always sit with me at the losers table. What? You say you're too good for me? Bleh, fine then!

Hey tell her the truth asdf. If she doesn't show the same interest in you after your bad days with acne because of the way you look, you should dump her. Be confident because you're great guy, acne doesn't mean shit. And if she can't see through the acne to the real you then she's shit, to put it bluntly.

I bet you shes just concerned with how you feel. How would you feel if your girlfriend said she was down about her face because she thought you didn't like it, but you did... wouldn't you feel bad that its hard for her to get past it?

And why are you saying things are about looks sometimes? Wrong approach man... What are you worried about? Just because shes "nice" and you have acne doesn't mean you're not worthy of her or anything.

The only problem is that you've already lied about why you feel the way you do, you should be honest in the future. She may get more upset over the fact that you lied to cover up how you feel than the skin condition itself.

Tell me what happens.

[Ms-PiggleWiggle]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

think of it this way. I have pimples...and ive dated guys with crystal clear skin, except one..he had acne too...not too bad but he had spots. However, sure i noticed his spots..but thats cuz i have acne as well...but honest to GOD i never thought of the acne as something disgusting or a turn off....i swear i even kiss his face with his breakouts..... I couldnt love him anymore if he had hollywood skin. he was sweet and kind and just a perfect gentleman!

you are being too self conscientious and that may hurt the relationship. be aa good and sweet bf and she will not care about your blemishes! I understand that llooks matter a lot but im sure we've all dated someone who had their imperfections...maybe love handles and a paunchy belly...but that didn't make us like them anyless...=)

i date this slim dude whos fat went straight to his belly..and i always make fucalled him a pregnant seahorse but i love him and his belly and he knew it. I make fun of his high forehead too..i call him a baldy or egghead...but u know...i never even noticed his forehead till he kept stressing over it!

hope this makes u feel better.

ames

[girl3900]

I agree with what everyone has said so far.

I've dated a few guys with acne and the only reason I wanted to break-up with one is because he was so self-conscious about it. He'd never look me in the eye and he was always trying to hide it. It got to much for me so it ended. What i'm trying to say here is that I honestly couldn't have cared if he had acne or not, it was the way he was dealing with it that was so unattractive. If you hold your head up and ACT like you don't care, I'm almost positive she won't.

[Guider]

I just got a girlfriend, about 3 weeks ago, and at the time I asked her out my acne was good. Now it is a lot worse. I feel very self conscious around her about it, and I hate it. I wear clothes with hoods to hide some of it from here. I think that it should clear up soon, but I am not sure. I told her that I had an allergic reaction to something and thats why my acne had gotten worse. I said it is just time before it got better (all of that was a lie). I just wanted her to not worry about it. She is really great, and I know that she would not break up with me over it, but I dont want her to have to go through this. She is to nice a person to worry about it, and even though everyone says its not about looks, many times it is. I just dont want her to feel bad at all about me. It keeps me up everynight thinking about her. I hate it.

She really doesn't care so don't worry about it I can promise you that whether you have severe acne or not she won't care

What's your name by the way asdf? whereya from?

[Charlie Chalk]

im sure she's cool but don't put her up on some pedestal like she's some prize you just won, your JUST as important as her so just be cool about it.... zit happens!
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[Oneoftheguys]

Um, not to be crude or anything, but have sex with her. Good sex, work hard to make sure she has fun. She'll care a whole lot less about acne then.

[Pika]

Sex is everything to a woman.

[Maceintheeye]

i tell my girlfriend I dont want to hang out with her certain nights. She constantly asks me why and gets really upset. I eventually told her one time it was because my skin was really bad, she said i was being ridiculous- that didnt make me feel too good. It made me feel defensive that I had to prove to her my reason to be sad. But once she came over she proved to be that I never really had a reason and she made me feel alot better.

Just break down the barrier with her, and after she comforts you once it wont be a problem again.

[the.ronin]

I don't think they worry about it as much as you think man. I am definitly hoping that this amazingly cute girl I just met recently feels the same way towards me as I do towards her...but we'll see

Hi V

[gwenmerk]

I mean honestly, do girls care about acne a lot? I have it just on my cheeks, which I am grateful for. But it has gottena lot worse, and I know that it is destroying myself confidence. After I was done with accutane about 7 months ago, I was so confident and knew i looked good, so i felt good. but now, i feel so shitty. i love my gf but at the same time dont want to be around her. maybe someday my acne will clear up, hopefully soon. thank you guys for understanding me, i wish the world did. i have seriously cried more in the last 2 weeks then ever in my life, like when i am alone every couple of days.