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[unruly_epidermis]

i'm sooooooooooooooooooo fucking sick of stupid people giving me advice that i haven't asked for. one of my coworkers, whom i consider a friend, is really starting to tick me off. about two weeks ago she tells me, out of no where, "you know, water is good for skin." and then this week she was drinking some Vietnamese drink and i asked her what it was and she goes, "it's good if you have pimples." and then just tonight i was telling her i like to stay up when i don't need to work the next day and she goes, "doing that kills your skin cells." it's like shut the fuck up already. i know she's trying to help but damn, shut the fuck UP. she's never had acne and she thinks she knows all there is to know about how to cure it just cause her mom is going to be a doctor. i wish i had told her to fuck up tonight, in not so blunt terms. even though in her mind she's trying to help (which is so annoying cause she's five years younger than i am), her ignorant advice is only reminding me of my problem. BLEH. i wish i had told her to shut it. and i know i'm going to soon, but i wish i had tonight!!!!!!!!!!

[Avelon]

i wish i had told her to shut it.  and i know i'm going to soon, but i wish i had tonight!!!!!!!!!!

Why didn’t you?

[xXillusion]

It's funnt, isn't it? How people are still in the middle ages when it comes to acne. THey think we're dirty but in reality, they're dirty. Dirty people who can skin on washing their faces, dirty soul and dirty imagination. Idiots

[mr.peabody]

OK I know that you're angry and that when people give advice like that you feel really embarrassed, but remember she is/was trying to help. I mean, it's not like she was making fun of you. But people who don't suffer from acne don't understand. The best thing to do is to tell her, politely, that you know about acne treatments and that you feel uncomfortable with her giving advice or commenting on your condition. Explain acne is a serious medical condition and that she should not draw attention to it. If she continues then you can be as rude as you like, but at the moment she's not trying to be nasty or hurtful. In the past I have told many people that I feel uncomfortable discussing my condition, and they always show respect by never mentioning it again.

[SuzanneHopes]

It didnt sound like she was trying to giving you advice.....IMO it sounds like she was trying to ...(sorry I cant find the right word so.. I will just say..haha) HARRASS you ..
Seems like you were trying to make conversation with her and she was turning it all around....geared towards you skin....

She sounds like a jerk to me..I can understand your anger...

[jan carlo]

Dude, Ignorance is not bliss. If you didn't listen to her, you just missed a very good advice that would one day, heal your skin. Here, read this topic:

http://www.acne.org/messageboard/index.php?showtopic=40303

Read through all of it. It's a lot, but you'll know that you'll regret not listening to that old advice.

[unruly_epidermis]

avelon, don't tell me i missed the best advice. why do you assume that i don't already know what she told me? i've had acne since i was 8. i'm 24 now. give it a rest.

[unruly_epidermis]

oops, not avelon. jan carlo. my bad.

but while we're on the topic, avelon...i didn't say anything because i was so angry i was trying to calm down before i said anything i would regret...but then again, the consequence of that is i still wish i had said SOMEthing. but i know i'm going to. i'll see her on Monday. i need to "educate" her.

[unruly_epidermis]

i should have just done this in one reply instead of three...anyway...
mr. peabody...i love your quote...
the thing is, i know that she was trying to help, but i also feel like nodoubt does. because every time we're talking about something unrelated to skin, she somehow turns it around and enters the skin topic. for instance, we were at 711 and she was looking at some fruity drink and she goes, "no wonder stacey has such great skin. she drinks that stuff all the time and can get away with smoking. her skin is great cause she drinks that stuff...also, water is good for your skin..." where the hell did that come from? you know? it's just starting to get really damn annoying. i'm the kind of person that loathes advice i NEVER asked for, especially from someone younger. call it ego. call it what you will. but i just freakin hate it. i haven't even known her that long for one thing. and she's done this in front of other people. i do agree with you, though, that i should tell her politely that it makes me uncomfortable. she's really stubborn so i can only hope i only need to tell her once!

[jan carlo]

jan carlo, don't tell me i missed the best advice.  why do you assume that i don't already know what she told me?  i've had acne since i was 8.  i'm 24 now.  give it a rest.

Yes, you know that. Also, I know that, and also, many people know that. But, have you tried it? Has those people tried it? Have I tried it? Yes, I did, and I regret not trying it sooner. Alright, I assume that she really didn't explain about the water and killing skin cells thing, but there's more than that. If you read my post, then you'll know what she's talking about. I had acne since 10. I found this site at 16. I tried BP months ago. Didn't work, and made it worse after a few months. I found the Vinegar method. Excellent method. But only for big acne and cysts, but not working for small bumps. I did research, and read forums, and talked to many people, especially the middle aged, and gambled my already 90% clear skin for a totally clear skin. Now, I am 17, and am glad that I hit the jackpot. Had acne since 10. Now 17, and no more acne. Jealous? Try my method then.

Like I said in my topic, it's all about courage, faith, patience, and a little luck (because it just depends on your source of acne).

[unruly_epidermis]

nope. i'm not jealous of someone as condescending as you.

[SuzanneHopes]

Hey..unruly_epidermis - Hmmm...sounds like some advice you ALREADY KNOW...
I think jan carlo is missing your point...

jan carlo - an example:
Lets say you had acne yet you showered 4 times a day...
how would you feel if someone you worked with gave you
bars of soap and told you how to use them...on a DAILY basis because they thought your acne was
caused by not washing or poor hygiene?
Yet, You KNOW this is NOT the case...wouldnt THAT get on your nerves pretty quick?
I think so...IMO this is what unruly is saying....get it?


unruly_epidermis already knows the ins, outs, ups and downs of his/her acne......
she KNOWS how this is affecting him/her ..this girl is just being an ass...IMO unruly..
I would set her straight...and that is some tuff talk.. from a nice young lady like me....

[unruly_epidermis]

AMEN, nodoubt. you get it. and, yeah. he totally missed the point, but i'm not surprised.
i'm a girl, by the way. heh

[SuzanneHopes]

Ms. Unruly...
No..it doesnt surprise me either that he missed the point..
At least We girls.. KNOW what we are talkin about...

If he can figure out what we are discussing at this moment, I am willing to bet he would be JEALOUS..of our comprehension skills... hehe

BTW, I love your username..
I wish I would have thought of it...Ok..Ok...I think, NOW I am Jealous!!!... huh! LOL

[jan carlo]

Alright. You gals win.

[Avelon]

Alright. You gals win.

You will make a great husband with that attitude

[unruly_epidermis]

you can use it when i'm not here, nodoubt

and ommagawd avelon, that "you'll make a great husband" line was tooooooooooo friggin funny! mwahaha!

[Polka]

this workmate obviously seems worried about your skin, so their heart is in the right place.

Just tell them (nicely) that you feel uncomfortable when she talks like that, i'm sure she will understand.

[mr.peabody]

  it's just starting to get really damn annoying.  i'm the kind of person that loathes advice i NEVER asked for, especially from someone younger.  call it ego.  call it what you will.  but i just freakin hate it.  i haven't even known her that long for one thing.  and she's done this in front of other people.

Yes, I really do understand how this feels, but SHE doesn't know you feel this way. Honestly, I understand that you want to vent at her, but it's right to do it yet. First explain how you feel, then if she carries on you'll be right to have a go at her. Most people don't understand that acne is a serious medical condition.

[lightning_king2000]

I had a friend who used to tell me I need to see a dermatologist and moisturize when my skin was at it's worst. I was never offended by it though cause I know my skin was terrible and I was always realistic about it. I think friends should be honest with friends, even if they dont know wat ur exactly going thru but they wont know unless u tell them.