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[jessica8976]

ive been inside my room for 4 days. i cant even get into the kitchen without my parents complaining that im staying home too much. i stay inside because im so tired of people commenting on my acne ...i just dont want to hear it anymore i dont even want to think about my stupid acne yet people blab on about it and i hate it now i get nagged at at home too..ugh when does it stop..my mom is concerned that i dont have any friends and thats bc i realised all my friends arent really friends they would make fun of my face too...so does this mean im freindless so long as i have acne? ugh im really trying to stay positive here i just started the regimen again ive tried it in the past but went to overboard with the bp and it burnt my face horribly so im taking it super easy now following dans instructions, i know my acne will get better i just need help getting through the now. i have school tomorrow and makeup wont even help my face and i have new classes...this is not the face i want to meet new people with ugh acne gets in the way of my social life sooooo much. :""""""(

[ihatemyskin94]

STRICT DIET.
eliminate wheat/dairy/sugar
eat fruits and vegetables and lots of water. just eat very healthy

[~Elle~]

The best thing you can do really is just to stay involved with everything and keep in touch with your friends. If they are being mean to you, you can try to explain to them that you're not so happy with your acne yourself but that there's not really much you can do about it so they should just back off. When you just try to forget about it and have fun, you'll feel much better. However, having said that, I know how hard that is and I have to admit that I didn't succeed in doing all those things myself a couple of years back when I had acne. But I was talking about it with a friend the other night, about how unhappy I was in that period, and she said she honestly had no idea. I think we make such a big deal about it but people really don't look that closely at your face. Sure, they'll notice that you have some acne, but they won't all stare at you for hours because of it. So just try to enjoy your new classes and meeting people. If you're nice and outgoing, they will like you either way. And good luck with the regimen! I hope it works for you.

[PaulH85]

One thing that will lift your mood is leaving your room and going outdoors for a little while. Get some fresh air. Of course, I totally understand not wanting to do that if you're feeling down and self-conscious about your acne, but you have to start somewhere in order to break that vicious cycle. After all, it's not as if hiding away and making yourself feel bad actually helps your acne. It all starts with being kind to yourself, giving yourself a break and at least attempting to forget about your skin for a while. If there are people you can spend time with who you feel happy, secure and comfortable around, go and spend time with them. Small steps towards breaking the habits of hiding away and spending time by yourself because of your acne. There's nothing wrong with spending time alone if you actually enjoy it, but nothing good comes from essentially imprisoning yourself because of your acne. You can't shape things to how you'd like them to be where friends and so on are concerned if you're hiding away.

As for your new classes and the new people you will meet, try and look upon it as an adventure and something different. You never know what might happen and who you might meet. Be optimistic about it, think positively and try and put some positive vibes out there and that is what people will notice. That's something I'm starting to learn - if you make eye contact and connect with people, that's what people see. I guess that the confidence isn't actually going to be there and that it's it's something you struggle with, in which case, just fake it. Be who you want to be and who you want people to see. It does work, I can promise you that.

Where your skin is concerned, you'll get through that eventually. You're already taking positive steps to clear your acne and from what you wrote, I can tell that you're learning from past mistakes - I did the same with with BP so you're not alone - learning how your skin behaves and reacts, and learning how to go about things in the right way in order to get clear. Stick with it and the patience will pay off.
I'm not going to harp on about diet but that could also be something you could look at if there's room to make it more skin-friendly. I went crazy with all sorts of topicals and antibiotics and goodness knows what else for thirteen years before I made changes to my diet. Those changes - decreased sugar, dairy, yeast; cut out processed food - have given me the best results I've seen in that entire time and I'm almost clear. Honestly, it's worth consideration and a bit of thought as to whether there's anything in your diet which might be a contributing factor to your acne.

I really do feel for you with the comments, people making fun, struggling with your friends and so on. I've been there, too. I wish I had some good advice there based on experience but to be honest, I only ever got it wrong and I hid away instead of tackling it. What I should have done at the first opportunity was drop those people who only ever said bad things and were no good for me. I should have replaced them with more positive, friendly and nice people. They're out there and, if you put those positive vibes out there like I said before, you will find them.

[mrjarjarbinks77]

jessica8976, on 29 January 2012 - 02:12 PM, said:

ive been inside my room for 4 days. i cant even get into the kitchen without my parents complaining that im staying home too much. i stay inside because im so tired of people commenting on my acne ...i just dont want to hear it anymore i dont even want to think about my stupid acne yet people blab on about it and i hate it now i get nagged at at home too..ugh when does it stop..my mom is concerned that i dont have any friends and thats bc i realised all my friends arent really friends they would make fun of my face too...so does this mean im freindless so long as i have acne? ugh im really trying to stay positive here i just started the regimen again ive tried it in the past but went to overboard with the bp and it burnt my face horribly so im taking it super easy now following dans instructions, i know my acne will get better i just need help getting through the now. i have school tomorrow and makeup wont even help my face and i have new classes...this is not the face i want to meet new people with ugh acne gets in the way of my social life sooooo much. :""""""(

I know Dan means well but, if you already tried it, it did not work, you are going to want to do something else. Get a dermatologist. If you are being controlled by your acne, the scenario, and condition you find yourself in, it means that it is bad enough to make you prevent going out. You need to get help for this. Acne will pass. Scars are forever. Don't let them tell you other wise about laser treatments or all sorts of magic bills or bullshit organics. It is a money make. Some maybe fortunate to have success with threatments. Some need fillers after scars to some what make it better. I saw a video on the forum of a poor girl who was scarred terribly after laser use. Its terrible. Please, eat a healthy diet, drop dairy, watch your intake of eggs, exercise, don't live careless through your cravings, and consider accutane. For all these people that knock it and the side effects, i guarantee they are much better then being scar face for the rest of your life if you are dealing with severe acne or acne that is preventingh you from going out. 1 blemish would stop me.

Don't let this be your life. Make a change. You are probably a beautiful girl but, how can a guy approach you if you hide in your room?

[A damsel in Distress]

Jessica, I agree with Paul, you are doing what you can do! And if people are turned off by your acne why on earth would you ever want to know them? Look for people with depth of character. They see and hear the heart. Shallow people only like to "wade". So they can only look at you skin deep. But that's how they look at themselves too
Delightfully, Me:)