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[Tally747]

Well I've had acne since I was about 10 years old. Until I was 13 I had big glasses too so that never helped. Now I'm 19 and in college and it's still going. I'm nearing the end of my third month of accutane and while I can see it making a difference, the idea of having to be on these meds for another 2-3 monthes makes me cringe. I just hate looking in the mirror every day and being absolutely disgusted.

There has never been any girl in my life, not even for a brief kiss, and my guy friends (the ones that I have left) still poke fun at me for it. I've come to the point where I'm just starting to hate everyone, including myself. I still go out but it always seems to end up the same. Girls call me awesome, sweet, even cute, but then they seem me in good light and it all just goes away. The girls I get to know and genuinely like just end up using me as their little confidante.

I really hate how this sounds but it's true and I dont really have anyone in my life i feel comfortable talking to about this. I try to keep my negativity out of my life but I ended up taking a semester off from school because I couldn't get myself to go to class. It's just embarassing seeing the people with perfect skin who look great give me weird looks as if I could just wash my face and my skin would be perfect too.

[sasch12]

Tally, it does get better. I have experienced some of what you've described and while in the throws of it, it seems like the world is caving in....but in reality, it's just our perceptions. I have been on accutane 3 times and unfortunately, while i was clear for a number of years each time, my acne eventually came back so i am trying another route. Accutane for the most part will have an impact on your acne so just give it time and try your best to stay upbeat. When i feel down, i call a friend, read a book and try to improve upon an area of my life that I CAN CONTROL (your body, your diet, stress management, etc).

All the best and the org is definitely a place where you will find lots of positive support.

[MultiColours]

you sound exactly like me... i'm in college and i still have to deal with acne, but trust me not everyone has perfect skin.
don't let something minor like this get you down and i say "minor" because acne isn't such a big problem as we tend to see it... think of the more worse cases one could have.
acne will go away, it doesn't stay forever... it's just like when a person gets braces, they have to deal with that for a while then it's over with.
you should wake up every day, look in the mirror and thank God for everything you have it your life..
because trust me i know exactly how you feel.. i sometimes can't stand to look in the mirror at myself but at the end of the day, acne is acne; when it's time, it's all going to fade away.
accutane will fasten and improve the process of that, it's a pretty successful drug.
and for the girls situation, there'll be someone who will like you just the way you are... just don't let anyone take advantage of your niceness or sweetness.
keep smiling

[Tally747]

thanks everyone. its just that as minor as acne seems, i moved to a pretty rich neighborhood when i was 10 and although there were kids dealing with it throughout high school, i was the one who got teased and ridiculed for it and then later for being introverted instead of outgoing (like i should have been after i'd been beat up and made fun of by the same people for years). Sucks even more that all the kids with perfect skin were getting hammered, eating like shit, and smoking while their skin just got better and mine just got worse. Now I just feel like any girl who finds out im 19 and so inexperienced will just assume something is wrong with me. After all what normal guy cant even get a kiss by 19 =/

[Empty Inside]

Tally747, on 28 January 2012 - 01:24 PM, said:

thanks everyone. its just that as minor as acne seems, i moved to a pretty rich neighborhood when i was 10 and although there were kids dealing with it throughout high school, i was the one who got teased and ridiculed for it and then later for being introverted instead of outgoing (like i should have been after i'd been beat up and made fun of by the same people for years). Sucks even more that all the kids with perfect skin were getting hammered, eating like shit, and smoking while their skin just got better and mine just got worse. Now I just feel like any girl who finds out im 19 and so inexperienced will just assume something is wrong with me. After all what normal guy cant even get a kiss by 19 =/

i feel the same exact way, also 19 and never even touched a girl. never even held a girl's hand. i cant even get close to a girl without them making fun of my acne. acne is a virus that is killing my life...

[Sunshine41]

I guess you're male? Well, it sure is easier for girls, I mean they can put on some foundation and cover it, but for guys I believe it's difficult. But hang in there! Clear skin is not what makes someone beautiful or handsome, it's the face lines, style and after all personality and intelligence! So, don't lose your confidence!

P.S. Can you grow a beard or something?

[Tally747]

you're right in saying that clear skin doesn't make you attractive, but i am willing to say that having acne definitely makes you less attractive to the vast majority of people. if i look at my own face and i'm disgusted, how the hell wouldnt someone else?

I know there are nice girls out there who care about how someone is inside, but most care about the outside first, then hope theres something on the inside

[Sum1killme]

Yea man feel the same I think this is how serial killers are made been good all my fuckin life never been in any kind of trouble tried hard in school then acne just killed me from within now I just fuckin feel like a prisoner inside of my body screaming into a never-ending darkness. No friends no gf no life just a fucked up hideous face but I guess we just have to find something to keep sane and keep moving forward.

[BreannaBreanna]

My brother. He was the same way(as far as girls) It sounds like the fine line of love and hate. Whatever you do, try not to let resentment and bitterness invade your life. Have you tried the diet route in nutrition and holistic forum???? Im just asking because, although my results I guess are inconclusive as of yet(very early in my journey)...I have cut out dairy, sugar and pastas (and starting tomorrow any gluten)...but anyways, since I cut dairy i have noticed a significant improvment in my skin. Try and look to all the positives of everything. Let it make you stronger. Heres one positive example...Those people looking are passing judgment on you. You dont pass judgment on others with acne. Why? Bc you now have compassion and empathy for them. Compasssion and Empathy for other people is quite an attribute!! It doesnt seem these people have this attribute. Compassion for ALLL types of people, not just acne sufferes. (Example when I see someone in a wheel chair or a disability...I always only look/talk to them in their face, I do not let my eye wander lower..and Im sure some people do) Hold your head high. Some girl will appreciate you for you. As for your friends that still poke fun...I do think you should put them in their place.

[thisisnothollywood]

Hang in there, ur not alone okay!!

[EddieE]

I honestly find girls with acne attractive. I think all the people with acne are good looking but with spots ;\
I almost feel the same, except that I am clear.. just 1-2 small active zits. I used to break out with big pimples.
My skin is very smooth and life is still the same. I can't seem to make friends. I am a terrible person when it comes to talking. I don't talk much. I'm usually quiet.

But you know what.. I'm gonna ignore everything. Those who mess with me, etc.. I will just smile .. I will give them a big smile. I hate when people take advantage of me 'cause I am quiet.. since I never act tough, etc. If they have a problem with that, I will raise my voice and say that I am a happy person and that their yelling, crying, etc.. won't end it. I am going to keep studying and studying.. reading and reading. It is time to take college serious and get good grades and become smarter. I used to be depressed because of skin problem.. now I am a little bit depressed 'cause I am shy and quiet who doesn't get mad, etc. I'm always nice which is bad... lol
I gotta start acting tough!

Edited by EddieE, 06 February 2012 - 07:29 PM.