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[titoziot]

This topic makes me feel sexy, haha. Just wanted to say, somewhat oddly, that I would find a guy with acne more attractive. Only because of the shared experience. I would feel less self concious about myself during a bad skin day, or talking about treatments or funny acne related awkward moments that happen. Only people with acne can really laugh with you about things like that.

Even people with good skin who accept acne, don't really get the feelings that go along with it. In my experience, the boyfriends I've had that are accepting and can talk about it, often are just less shallow people and more tolerant in general. But, they don't always stay that way. Example; last boyfriend didnt care about a gooey zit I had and told me how beautiful I was etc, but then turned to me one day and asked me to double check with my derm that acne scars were permanent. Thanks, bro. Love ya too.

[Lee1234]

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Example; last boyfriend didnt care about a gooey zit I had and told me how beautiful I was etc, but then turned to me one day and asked me to double check with my derm that acne scars were permanent. Thanks, bro. Love ya too.

He said that? (I sound like a shocked pubescent school girl T_T) I guess he was hoping that it'd go away eventually, but still score brownie points in the meantime :/ I hope you find a real man who can truly appreciate you, inside and out. *cough*ignoretheinnuendopleaseitwasunintendedcough*

Edited by Lee1234, 06 February 2012 - 05:04 PM.

[Pilloo]

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

[Supbro93]

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

[poi6]

Supbro93, on 17 May 2012 - 01:09 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

A turnoff? Double standard much ?

[Supbro93]

poi6, on 17 May 2012 - 02:11 PM, said:

Supbro93, on 17 May 2012 - 01:09 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

A turnoff? Double standard much ?

It is reality, at least mine. I don't think anyone should identify with acne, i've always never thought they were a part of me, just a temporary disease that dont have anything to do with me. Anyone who thinks acne ADDS attraction to a person is crazy imo, ofc i understand the suffering the person is going through.

[rbamf]

i think it's ridiculous to say that you have a preference for girls with acne because it's beautiful. but whatever gets you off. with that said, i wouldn't judge a girl or turn her down because she had acne, but she does have to be a beautiful person with or without acne to play on my team.

[Pilloo]

poi6, on 17 May 2012 - 02:11 PM, said:

Supbro93, on 17 May 2012 - 01:09 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

A turnoff? Double standard much ?

I have acne and I find it disgusting on myself and others. Deal with it.

[Lilly75]

This is actually really interesting.
So acne can actually be 'attractive' to some guys.... I was wondering though - if you meet a girl with acne and find her attractive and have a relationship and then her acne clears up, would your attraction to her change? Maybe it wouldn't if you'd been in a relationship for a while and you knew her well etc but if you had just met and then her acne had cleared up soon after - would you be less attracted to her? And what about a girl with severe acne? And would you tell a girl you were attracted to her because of her acne? If some guy said that to me I'd probably think he was being jerk haha

Sorry for all the questions I just find this an interesting topic / idea. I guess it's hard for me to accept people find acne attractive when I hate it so much myself.

[PaulH85]

What interests me the most is that some approached this topic wondering whether people would be attracted to others specifically because of acne - like a fetish, as it were - and some people approached it simply by discussing whether or not acne would be an issue as to whether or not they'd find someone attractive. Goes to show how varied our opinions can be. I fall into the latter category and I'd always maintain that acne wouldn't change the way I felt about someone or indeed whether or not I approached them, etc.. If anything, I might be more inclined to talk to them because I might feel they could relate. Even if it was unspoken so as not to offend, I'd still feel as though they could relate. Then again, I'm in a position where I'm generally acne free now so if I were to put myself out there, maybe other people's initial perceptions of me would be different compared to when I was visibly broken out all the time.

I think if I was with someone who had clear skin and they then developed acne, I wouldn't care at all. If we were at a point where I loved them for who they are, I was getting that in return and we totally fit, I'd be absolutely into them and the relationship and I just can't see how acne would change that. By the same token, I don't think my view of someone would change, post-acne. For that to happen, their acne would have had to have been an issue for me in the first place.

Having had acne, I feel I have a degree of empathy and understanding which I wouldn't otherwise have had. That probably helps me see beyond acne where others are concerned. I can understand why acne sufferers might not like to see acne on others though and I don't think that's an example of double standards. It would only be double standards if they accepted it on themselves but couldn't accept it on others. In that respect, those who say they don't like acne and struggle to find themselves or others with acne attractive, period, are simply being honest. There's no real right or wrong because it all comes down to personal preference and your own view.

I guess my own circumstances play a part in how my view has been shaped because I've never been in a relationship and never had the experience of someone being interested in me. Having got to 26, it kind of feels like that isn't going to happen so if it ever did and I found someone who liked me and was actually physically attracted to me, I'd be blown away by that. Perhaps that wouldn't be the best response because I can't help but wonder if I'd almost try and force myself to like someone simply because they liked me. I'm not sure that would be the case, I suppose it's just something that's come to mind when I've considered these things.

[Lilly75]

PaulH85, on 18 May 2012 - 06:46 AM, said:

What interests me the most is that some approached this topic wondering whether people would be attracted to others specifically because of acne - like a fetish, as it were - and some people approached it simply by discussing whether or not acne would be an issue as to whether or not they'd find someone attractive. Goes to show how varied our opinions can be. I fall into the latter category and I'd always maintain that acne wouldn't change the way I felt about someone or indeed whether or not I approached them, etc.. If anything, I might be more inclined to talk to them because I might feel they could relate. Even if it was unspoken so as not to offend, I'd still feel as though they could relate. Then again, I'm in a position where I'm generally acne free now so if I were to put myself out there, maybe other people's initial perceptions of me would be different compared to when I was visibly broken out all the time.

I think if I was with someone who had clear skin and they then developed acne, I wouldn't care at all. If we were at a point where I loved them for who they are, I was getting that in return and we totally fit, I'd be absolutely into them and the relationship and I just can't see how acne would change that. By the same token, I don't think my view of someone would change, post-acne. For that to happen, their acne would have had to have been an issue for me in the first place.

Acne doesn't make me attracted to a person, nor does it make me 'repulsed' by them (that's not the word I want but it's really late and i'm tired but you'll get what I mean - whatever the opposite is to being attracted to someone haha) but I do think now that if a guy had acne I would be more comfortable in approaching him. Like you said, I'd feel as though we could relate to each other.

I also agree with what you said about acne not changing your attraction to someone. If I was with someone with clear skin who developed acne I wouldn't care at all. Especially having acne myself. And no one can base a relationship on whether someone has acne or not - so of course there are a whole bunch of other characteristics etc that would make me attracted to that person - or not attracted to another.

PaulH85, on 18 May 2012 - 06:46 AM, said:

Having had acne, I feel I have a degree of empathy and understanding which I wouldn't otherwise have had. That probably helps me see beyond acne where others are concerned. I can understand why acne sufferers might not like to see acne on others though and I don't think that's an example of double standards. It would only be double standards if they accepted it on themselves but couldn't accept it on others. In that respect, those who say they don't like acne and struggle to find themselves or others with acne attractive, period, are simply being honest. There's no real right or wrong because it all comes down to personal preference and your own view.

I guess my own circumstances play a part in how my view has been shaped because I've never been in a relationship and never had the experience of someone being interested in me. Having got to 26, it kind of feels like that isn't going to happen so if it ever did and I found someone who liked me and was actually physically attracted to me, I'd be blown away by that. Perhaps that wouldn't be the best response because I can't help but wonder if I'd almost try and force myself to like someone simply because they liked me. I'm not sure that would be the case, I suppose it's just something that's come to mind when I've considered these things.

I think you're right in saying that personal experiences / circumstances would affect your view of this sort of thing.
Personally there was a guy who was interested in me for a while who had severe acne. Nothing happened though because I couldn't accept that someone would be interested in me because of my acne - even though it wasn't as bad as his - and I even still found him attractive. We were both very shy people too. Ughh that whole situation is ridiculous and I really regret not getting to know him more. His acne played no part in my opinion of him. Like I said - i still thought he was cute. It all had to do with my own perception of myself and my acne.
Again - ridiculous, I know. I do wonder if I should get in touch with him again...
But anyway - my point here being that because of this experience - and realising how ridiculous I was - I now feel more comfortable with myself and can understand more that yeah, someone can like you despite your appearance / acne. I know that I can be attracted to someone despite their appearance. It's just weird that it took me a while to make this connection - that I would be interested in someone, not caring about their appearance but couldn't accept someone was interested in me because I didn't accept my own appearance.
I think I made that much more confusing than it needed to be - but I hope someone understands what I mean

PaulH85, on 18 May 2012 - 06:46 AM, said:

I can't help but wonder if I'd almost try and force myself to like someone simply because they liked me. I'm not sure that would be the case, I suppose it's just something that's come to mind when I've considered these things.

Honestly, I wonder this too – having also not been in a relationship. I hope that I never do this. I can’t imagine anyone would really be happy like that. And also, the other person would catch on I’m sure. I think I’d rather be happy and single than miserable for the sake of being in a relationship – no matter how much longer I go without one.

[AuguriesofInnocence]

This is weird. I guess you cant help what turns you on but this is definately out of the normal category.
I have been attracted to people both with and without acne, its the total of the person not the condition of their skin.
Some people are still beautiful with acne some are ugly with clear skin. None of this means anything about them as a person, in the end you sont want to be with a beautiful person with or without acne who is not nice.

[Lee1234]

whoa, I guess I've been gone long. I've stated all my personal opinions in regards to this on the first page. Some (as we've seen ) have defined it as a fetish lol by all means, I won't say your opinion is wrong. Scenario- I see a pretty girl across the street, acne isn't visible at that distance. I cross the street to go and talk to her and her acne becomes as clear as day. At this point, I'm even more attracted to her than I was initially, in fact I feel humbled because she's so gorgeous. Maybe it is that familiarity, maybe I'm insane? or maybe acne and the stance of disgust, people often take, is perpetuated by peers and the media (can't tell you how many movies I've seen, where they insult the spotty kid, same goes for cartoons). An otherwise hideous outfit is paraded around on a Victoria's Secret catwalk and despite it's ugliness, people flock to buy it, why? because we're told that it's an awesome dress that you must have and people eat that up. I'm going off on a tangent now, all I'm trying to say is that, acne on a woman, to me is a beautiful thing. I don't possess the linguistic capacity to elaborate any further than that, it's just beautiful, simple as.

Edited by Lee1234, 18 May 2012 - 01:39 PM.

[WalkTall]

I rarely ever see anyone else with acne
But obviously it wouldn't bother me.
Id probably feel more comfortable if she had bad skin.

[poi6]

Pilloo, on 18 May 2012 - 04:05 AM, said:

poi6, on 17 May 2012 - 02:11 PM, said:

Supbro93, on 17 May 2012 - 01:09 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

A turnoff? Double standard much ?

I have acne and I find it disgusting on myself and others. Deal with it.

Whooa buddy chill......

[Pilloo]

poi6, on 18 May 2012 - 08:31 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 18 May 2012 - 04:05 AM, said:

poi6, on 17 May 2012 - 02:11 PM, said:

Supbro93, on 17 May 2012 - 01:09 PM, said:

Pilloo, on 17 May 2012 - 08:50 AM, said:

There's a fetish for everything, doesn't surprise me.

lol this.
After I have had acne I do repect them alot, but women with acne is a turnoff imo, sorry girls <3

A turnoff? Double standard much ?

I have acne and I find it disgusting on myself and others. Deal with it.

Whooa buddy chill......

Chilly, buddy. Woah.

[FlaggLives]

Honestly I can agree with this post. I feel like if I met a girl with acne she would be the perfect girlfriend for me because I would be able to see her inner beauty and she would be able to understand the crap that I deal with on a day to day basis with acne. match made in heaven! lol