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[thrillpink]

Hi,
I wonder if you guys have this problem too... These last few weeks I've been changing my diet and all and it's going quite good for me, but i'm becoming a bit anti social.
My friends all eat kind of crappy and when we're out, we always go to mcdonald's or something like that. Or when i'm at a friends house and they make dinner it's always something like pasta, pizza or rice. And i don't want to be a nag saying i don't want to eat it or talking about all the things i can't eat. So sometimes i'll end up not going, so I can eat healthy.
But that really sucks, I don't want to miss out on things because of food. I want to eat to live, not live to eat
Does anyone recognize this? And do you have any tips?
xx

[Rachelx7]

I hear ya. If you want to socialize with other people - going out to eat is a big part of that. I don't understand how people stay on their really strict diets if they eat out. I know... I could get a salad with no dressing at most places. Yum. ;-) I'll be honest.... Eating out is one of life's little pleasures for me and I'm not convinced I want to give that up for clear skin.

[corgisoulpower]

Ask if they want to cook with you sometime. Everyone pitches for ingredients and you explain to them along the way why you're preparing things the way you do.

"So we'll just chop up this garlic and let it sit for a couple minutes for the enzymes to activate."
"You chop the fruit and add it to the buckwheat/coconut milk/eggs batter when it's mixed all the way, then we'll add semi-sweet chocolate chips.-little addition about insulin resistance-"

Maybe it's just because I love ordering people around and then acting like a smarty-pants about the foods we're working with. Or I could just have like-minded friends...nah, I totally will have cheat foods around them too.

Jar of tahini+sliced veggies=easy snacking with friends. A bag of baby carrots usually comes with me if I'm uncertain about eating options.

[thrillpink]

Rachelx7, on 25 January 2012 - 12:57 PM, said:

I hear ya. If you want to socialize with other people - going out to eat is a big part of that. I don't understand how people stay on their really strict diets if they eat out. I know... I could get a salad with no dressing at most places. Yum. ;-) I'll be honest.... Eating out is one of life's little pleasures for me and I'm not convinced I want to give that up for clear skin.

Yeah, just a salad is a bit blah Though my diet isn't even thát strict, in a restaurant I just eat meat or fish and veggies and leave the chips/rice or whatever. And i do eat white pasta or bread sometimes, I can't do it 100% of the time (I could, but then I wouldn't have a social life at all).

corgisoulpower, on 25 January 2012 - 01:05 PM, said:

Ask if they want to cook with you sometime. Everyone pitches for ingredients and you explain to them along the way why you're preparing things the way you do.

"So we'll just chop up this garlic and let it sit for a couple minutes for the enzymes to activate."
"You chop the fruit and add it to the buckwheat/coconut milk/eggs batter when it's mixed all the way, then we'll add semi-sweet chocolate chips.-little addition about insulin resistance-"

Maybe it's just because I love ordering people around and then acting like a smarty-pants about the foods we're working with. Or I could just have like-minded friends...nah, I totally will have cheat foods around them too.

Jar of tahini+sliced veggies=easy snacking with friends. A bag of baby carrots usually comes with me if I'm uncertain about eating options.

Haha lol, well I don't even have to begin talking about healthy eating to my friends Seriously, they're the worst and they absolutely do not care. And to be honest, I'm really lazy too when it comes to cooking.
I wonder how often you can "cheat" without really messing everything up.
And taking something with me might be a good idea. I have no idea what tahini is... I'm going to look that up!

[alternativista]

Are you female? Tell them you are preventing wrinkles.

[Phresh]

It's a part that comes easier with time. I still get shit at work sometimes when my buddies want to go to Wendy's and I say fck that I'll just go make lunch and eat by myself. But they should (if they are good friends) learn to adapt to your new way of taking care of your body. I've had 2 of my best friends start to take up the way I eat and ask me tips all the time on what to eat/not eat, it's actually really rewarding to be able to help.

The most important thing, though, is to not hold yourself back too much. If you really want to go out and eat some fast food, or hit a buffet - go for it. Your limits/what you're comfortable with will come with time, just don't forget to live a little every now and then.

[tim12]

alternativista, on 25 January 2012 - 03:57 PM, said:

Are you female? Tell them you are preventing wrinkles.

I'm a male, and I always tell the bros that it's my anti-aging/anti-wrinkle diet.

I would say splurge every now and then if it's with friends. I'm sure they'll understand if you want to go to a more decent place like Chipotle. If they're good friends, they'll respect your choices! Don't mistake questions/skepticism for anything negative, sometimes people are just curious since they haven't heard of diet/lifestyle changes

[Chestercool]

Im totally disturbed by this, its hard to hang out with friends. My girlfriend for example, wants me to eat a cookie, i look her face and i feel bad if i say "i dont want it". what i do is eating before i go out and if they ask me to eat i tell them i've already eat and im full, so they dont look at me like a bored old man. Im going on a trip with them tomorrow, ahhh they love cheap fast food...what am i gonna do =/, hoping cinnamon and fish oil keep me clear

[alternativista]

Chestercool, on 25 January 2012 - 09:22 PM, said:

Im totally disturbed by this, its hard to hang out with friends. My girlfriend for example, wants me to eat a cookie, i look her face and i feel bad if i say "i dont want it". what i do is eating before i go out and if they ask me to eat i tell them i've already eat and im full, so they dont look at me like a bored old man. Im going on a trip with them tomorrow, ahhh they love cheap fast food...what am i gonna do =/, hoping cinnamon and fish oil keep me clear

If the cinnamon is for high GL meals, then try taking a fiber supplement before the meals.

[uncle buck]

It's not hard. Put yourself in their shoes, they don't give a shit what you eat. Whatever you say, they'll forget 5 minutes later. Do you pressure THEM to eat anything?

Not eating McDonalds hardly needs to be justified. If anything, they're the ones with the questionable destructive behavior.

It's only a big deal if you make it. Just say "Nah i'm not hungry", "I don't like any of this stuff", and we all move on. You just need to wrap your head around the idea that you have complete control of your life.

[Endurability]

I always pull the " I'm not hungry" or " I already ate" excuse.

My friends always want to stop by Mcdonalds so I know how you feel. Some of my friends think I'm aneroxic because they don't see me eat with them. But I don't really care cause fast food just isn't good for you.

[dejaclairevoyant]

I haven't eaten out since 2009 sometime I think... I just do other things with my friends.

[thrillpink]

tim12, on 25 January 2012 - 07:32 PM, said:

alternativista, on 25 January 2012 - 03:57 PM, said:

Are you female? Tell them you are preventing wrinkles.

I'm a male, and I always tell the bros that it's my anti-aging/anti-wrinkle diet.

I would say splurge every now and then if it's with friends. I'm sure they'll understand if you want to go to a more decent place like Chipotle. If they're good friends, they'll respect your choices! Don't mistake questions/skepticism for anything negative, sometimes people are just curious since they haven't heard of diet/lifestyle changes

Haha, anti wrinkle diet, hmm calling it that maybe could get them on board too

uncle buck, on 26 January 2012 - 08:19 AM, said:

It's not hard. Put yourself in their shoes, they don't give a shit what you eat. Whatever you say, they'll forget 5 minutes later. Do you pressure THEM to eat anything?

Not eating McDonalds hardly needs to be justified. If anything, they're the ones with the questionable destructive behavior.

It's only a big deal if you make it. Just say "Nah i'm not hungry", "I don't like any of this stuff", and we all move on. You just need to wrap your head around the idea that you have complete control of your life.

I'm not saying they care about what I eat, they're totally fine with it, but when someone cooks for me I'm not going to say "Mweh, I don't want to eat it".
But yeah, when in mcdonalds i should just say I'm not hungry, that's true.

Endurability, on 27 January 2012 - 01:08 AM, said:

I always pull the " I'm not hungry" or " I already ate" excuse.

My friends always want to stop by Mcdonalds so I know how you feel. Some of my friends think I'm aneroxic because they don't see me eat with them. But I don't really care cause fast food just isn't good for you.

Too be honest, I'm kind of scared they are going to bring that up too and i already have a history with anorexia, so i really hope they're not going to take it the wrong way.

Chestercool, on 25 January 2012 - 09:22 PM, said:

Im totally disturbed by this, its hard to hang out with friends. My girlfriend for example, wants me to eat a cookie, i look her face and i feel bad if i say "i dont want it". what i do is eating before i go out and if they ask me to eat i tell them i've already eat and im full, so they dont look at me like a bored old man. Im going on a trip with them tomorrow, ahhh they love cheap fast food...what am i gonna do =/, hoping cinnamon and fish oil keep me clear

Ohh i know what you mean, when i go to my grandparents they always get this special chocolate for me that i really like (but don't want to eat anymore) and i would feel so bad saying no. Last time i put it in my pocket, it totally melted and was a complete mess ughh.
Anyway, have fun on your trip and hopefully you can buy some stuff in a supermarket or something and make your own meals. Have fun anyway!

[dejaclairevoyant]

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but when someone cooks for me I'm not going to say "Mweh, I don't want to eat it".

Why not? You should. You have every right to change your diet and advocate for yourself. You don't have to look at the food and say "gross! No way is that unhealthy shit going in MY body!" lol.... there are tactful ways to say something. But it would be wrong to not do right by yourself out of fear of hurting someone's feelings. Good morals and behavior need to be directed to yourself as well as others--and that includes taking care of yourself and eating the foods you feel right about. Assert yourself.

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when i go to my grandparents they always get this special chocolate for me that i really like (but don't want to eat anymore) and i would feel so bad saying no.

Simply tell them that you are changing your diet. It's really not that big a deal. People change their diets all the time and other people need to accept that. So just talk to them, and then come up with some other yummy snack you can share during your visits. How about bringing something healthy to them? It would show your appreciation and love for them while introducing them to healthier options at the same time.

[alternativista]

thrillpink, on 27 January 2012 - 12:00 PM, said:

tim12, on 25 January 2012 - 07:32 PM, said:

alternativista, on 25 January 2012 - 03:57 PM, said:

Are you female? Tell them you are preventing wrinkles.

I'm a male, and I always tell the bros that it's my anti-aging/anti-wrinkle diet.

Haha, anti wrinkle diet, hmm calling it that maybe could get them on board too

Yeah. It's probably one of the best motivators. I told it to some women at a place where I was consulting and a few weeks later, I went there and looked around for the chocolate or other sweets they usually had there, and when I asked, they said 'you said it was aging.' They were probably older than you and your friends, and I've no idea if they've kept up the better habits, but it's pretty much the only thing I've ever said to anyone about diet and health that had an affect.

[jennifer36]

I entirely feel where you're coming from. I'm constantly turning down food/drinks while hanging out with friends and getting weird looks and questions as a result. It's really hard to eat out anywhere, because it's hard to know exactly what's in your food. I like to know EXACTLY what I'm eating all the time.

I actually went out for breakfast with a friend the other day, and the only thing I could eat on the menu at the diner we were at was salad. Salad for breakfast yummy. I ate it and subsequently threw up, probably because raw veggies was too harsh as my first meal of the day. The day before that I went for lunch to this Thai place. Although they had great vegan choices, there was no way of knowing about sodium and gluten since the staff didn't speak much english. I ended up eating only about half of my food and had a tummy ache later on. Generally I avoid going out to eat unless I research the menu and find options that work for me. Just special circumstances this week with who I was going with. I didn't want to decline an invite to hang out, but from the damage I can feel I did to my stomach and my skin it almost wasn't worth it.

It sucks having to miss out on social situations and the weird looks you will probably get from people, but if it's helping clear your skin then to me it's worth it. If people don't get it then too bad for them. I've been eating this way for a few months (although some foods are fairly new avoidances) and my parents can still barely remember what I am and am not eating.

[EddieE]

To me healthy eating is a person who eats just plant-based food, high intake of fruits and veggies. If eat meats, but high intake of veggies and fruits.. still not very healthy.

[OlympusMons]

uncle buck, on 26 January 2012 - 08:19 AM, said:

It's not hard. Put yourself in their shoes, they don't give a shit what you eat. Whatever you say, they'll forget 5 minutes later. Do you pressure THEM to eat anything?

Not eating McDonalds hardly needs to be justified. If anything, they're the ones with the questionable destructive behavior.

It's only a big deal if you make it. Just say "Nah i'm not hungry", "I don't like any of this stuff", and we all move on. You just need to wrap your head around the idea that you have complete control of your life.

So true...!

That's exactly what I do. Having open-minded friends also helps
Or maybe they don't just mean it that much, just don't take it that seriously!

Edited by OlympusMons, 29 January 2012 - 04:33 PM.