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[Kairasa]

In the real non celebrity, non managers, non assistants introducing people to each other.
How many girls out there age 18-25 in college seriously gonna give a guy a chance whose face is covered in distracting scars and zits???

A LOT of people! Honestly, I agree with the person who said you are sabotaging your relationship by having this type of attitude.

The fact of the matter is your girlfriend loves you. She sees past your flaws, especially physical ones. My boyfriend is from this website, but he doesn't really have acne anymore. Does it matter if I do? Absolutely not. He certainly isn't grossed out by it and i'm 100% sure he doesn't really notice.

Love looks past that and honestly...the only reason any of that matters is because most people are vain in their youth. But you don't have to be.

[chensg]

If you acne is bad enough to cry yourself to sleep, and you somehow have managed to get a girl; your in pretty good shape haha. But I understand how annoying it is my gf was at one point a PHOTOGRAPHY MAJOR; you think you've had embracing pics of your acne until ALL your imperfections get owned by a $2000 Canon Digital SLR hahaha it makes life seem not worth living... just kidding its not THAT bad,

Seriously though...

true that! i remembered during a gathering at one time when i was having a very bad breakout week and one of my friend whipped out his DSLR and i thought to myself, OH NO, NOT A DSLR.

[egreen]

If you have a girlfriend who loves you and thinks you're adorable I seriously don't see what you have to keep worrying about. Most people who are upset about their acne feel that no one can like them because of it, but you have a clear-cut example right in front of that is saying you are liked and loved.
If you're really going to let your acne get in the way of you and this amazing girl then I'm sorry but I don't think you are ready for a relationship.

[Bina123]

You just wrote EXACTLY what I think all the time. I'll be sitting in class, look around the room, and see that NO ONE in the class is struggling with acne like I am. It's a terrible feeling.

But TWO things about this though, because I've sort of been on both sides...
1) What I learned recently, and what I'm trying to teach myself, is that everyone has something wrong with them. If it's not acne, it's something else. There are some flaws that you can see, and some that you can't. Acne is only one "error" in the list of a billion errors a person can have. (And sometimes, the worst errors are the ones you can't even see).
2) I was once "involved" (I can't even say dating :[ but that's a different story) with a guy who had severe acne. I'm going to be 100% honest with you... I definitely realized he had acne, but I liked him, and I pushed the acne off to the side. When people asked me to describe him, I would say all of his positive features. One of my friends actually pointed this out to me once when I was describing him to someone else; she was like "You're forgetting that he has reallllly bad acne!" And the truth was I didn't "forget" it, it just wasn't that big of a deal to me because there were a lot of other things, even physical things, that I liked about him. Like he had blue eyes and was tall and I thought more about that than the acne, honestly! And If the acne had bothered me THAT much, I wouldn't of wanted to date him; But I did want to, so this proves that I didn't care that much about the acne. I would tell him he's cute and compliment him all the time...

Edited by Gina1234, 21 April 2011 - 10:57 PM.

[Pattye]

I can totally relate, but the thing is I never have the willpower to open up to anybody. Im scared what will happen after what they will think. I wish i can talk to someone about my acne, but im just too afraid. Its really affecting my social life.

Have you done anything to fix your acne?
Try to find a good dermatologist that you feel comfortable with and talk to him/her about your acne. They see many patience a day and a lot of people with severe acne, they won’t judge you and they will lesson to you and try to help you.

[trance]

U'r lucky.. you have a girlfriend

[limpbizkitfan]

I also have cried myself to sleep bc of acne..it's really depressing to have this skin condition. I didn't ask for acne, but I got it anyways.