Hey there. Your post really made me sad and start to tear up. You sound like a really cool guy and the fact that a dumb bitch like that had to use some lame excuse like your scarring to break up with you simply sucks hairy balls. I turn 23 in little over a week now and I'm a virgin too. I'm afraid of being close to anyone. I stay out of the sun as much as possible because let's face it...acne does not look good when it's under blaring sunlight, right? My point is that I want to fuck this bullshit life too but we have to move on. That's real lame ass advice right there but you know what they say: "If we're all alone, then we're together in that, too."
It'll be okay.
Actually your advice is spot on.
The way i see it too much is placed on getting a gf or bf these days. We wasn't born in a relationship, we wasn't born in love so we can survive without it.
Yeah relationships can be the best feeling in the world but they can also be the worst.
I've had my fair share of girlfriends. I have been single for the last 2 years by choice and it's been the happiest i have ever been.
Many of us fall into a trap of getting with someone for the sake of getting with someone, or we get with the wrong people. I'd much rather hold out for that one girl who is right for me. Someone who will make me happier than i already am. Someone who will enhance my life not dominate it. One has to be happy before getting into a relationship. Your partner should enhance your life and you should enhance your partners life.
Everyone has to accept that we all have a life before a relationship. I've yet to come across a girl that allows me to maintain that. They want me to spend every waking second with them which is unhealthy. Like anything in life balance is needed. Too much of one thing and not enough of another is bad. I like going out with my friends, i like spending time with my family and at times i just get into my car and drive to random places by myself. However to some girls that's a sure sign that i am cheating because i like spending time by myself!!!! I really detest that view because i've never cheated and never will, i'm not a greedy person.
When i get with a girl. I fully accept that i'm not the most important person in her life or that she has more than one important person in her life. I accept that she has a job, friends, family, hobbies because i have the same in my life. We then have to make room for that relationship and balance everything.
If i can't find a girl who is comfortable with still doing her own thing, is comfortable with me doing my own thing then i'd rather be single. Life doesn't stop just because we get with someone.
When you get with someone you accept them for who they are. You have to take the good with the bad.
Edited by Nicky D, 19 August 2010 - 01:45 AM.
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