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[The Welshman]

I just can't get a girlfriend because of my skin thats what i believe, i don't have to many spots its the scars that are the problem. It gets me down cuz am 20 and have never had a girlfriend. It not that i can't talk to girls but i don't think that any girl will like me cuz of this shit. I got rejected by this girl who is in my college class a few weeks ago, i liked her a lot, well not just liked but loved and i think the only reason she rejected me was cuz of my skin. I can't c myself being with a girl cuz they don't wanna be with a butt ugly guy like me. Its sad i know but i just give up, theres no hope.

[Jolian]

Why don't you date some one with acne?

[BW~!]

Why don't you date some one with acne?

I wish it was that easy. I am of the opinion that women with acne do not want to be seen with a guy with acne. Usually friends and family will tell them that they can do better than that monster. They would rather hold out for their dream date or accept someone they do not like but their peers do.

[Jolian]

Well, my face is a pizza and I wouldn't mind dating a guy with acne. Of course, the guys with acne don't approach me. I have to do all the instigating .

[oOo]

I honestly think it has to do with a person's personality. Here are some questions for thought. Are you normally an outgoing person? Like do you hang out in large groups and are you the person who starts conversations. Do you approach people and start a conversation with them? Are you the party type? etc.

For most people, college is about partying and one nighters. Last semester, I was hanging out with some guys who had a face full of indented scars. Literally every inch of their skin was a scar and he was out partying and he had girls all over him. Ever since my acne got worse, I started to notice it more on others. Acne doesn't stop them from getting girls.

Don't get acne get you down. Ask yourself this, what type of relationship are you looking for? A one nighter? A serious relationship?

If your looking for a one nighter, then the girl will probably care about how you look. That's just how it is.

Now if your looking for a serious relationship, the girl won't care about how you look. Serious relationships don't just happen over night. It takes time to develop.

On a side note, I believe girls care more about their own looks then yours. If they love you then they'd probably love you for who you are and not how you look. Relationships are sustained through communication. I was hanging out a chick and she freaked out over one pimple that was starting to form on her forehead. It was just a red mark and a little BP spot treatment would of made it go away in no time.

Anyways, don't get your hopes down. There are probably plenty of girls that liked you, but they don't say a thing. Twenty is still a young age, you still have plenty of time to look for someone to fill that void in your heart.

[fightit]

Trust me. girls will talk to you as long as you make them laugh. its the key. they want entertainment. become friends with many girls. then chose one and focus on her to show her who u r

[Scar_Tissue]

i think scars are sexy on a guy.
gives them more something

[InRepair]

I strongly believe its not what you look like but how you carry yourself. If your self conscious, shy, not outgoing then people won't be attracted to you probably. But even with acne if your outgoing, and show people who you are then girls(or in my case guys) will give you a chance and want to be with you.

Seriously never for a moment did I ever think my lack of dates(never had a boyfriend and I'm 22 so I feel your pain) was because of my acne. My lack of dates comes from ME. I dunno what your situation is fully or how outgoing or what kind of person you are, but if your just honest with yourself, and not be afraid to show people who you are, that will out live and shine more then any stupid bump on your face. Trust me girls pick up on stuff, if they get a right feeling from you they will focus on that

[incognit0]

Nah I think shitty skin has hindered me manyfold with dating. I've seen girls all over hottie guys with crap personalities. I think personality is overrated--people just amplify it because it's seemingly more under one's own control than looks are. Also girls will keep around guys who make them laugh--as friends. As for who gets the action it still goes to the studs who treat them badly.

I'm also averse to the hypothetical situation of introducing someone with shitty skin to my family. It would just be embarassing. In spite of the fact that my own skin sucks too. Damn, I know my family holds that against me.

[oOo]

@hostiletakeover
Its true that many girls go for hot guys with crappy personalities but those are also the chicks that are looking for one nighters. Who sleep with a different guy every night, go out to clubs and bars and get their ass drunk that they end up in the hospital and they return the next night. Just as you stated.

Then again there are hot girls who actually seek out serious relationship, won't care if your face is full of scars or full of acne. Once they get to know you they look beyond that. The biggest part of maintaining a relationship is the conversation. That's where the laughter part comes in. A girl wants to be heard, when their going through problems and when drama occurs in their lives. As opposed to a guy, who just lets out their frustration at anybody around, even inanimate objects, poor walls.

[The Welshman]

Trust me. girls will talk to you as long as you make them laugh. its the key. they want entertainment. become friends with many girls. then chose one and focus on her to show her who u r

I did take this one girl a liked a lot, i loved her but she broke my heart.

[meka]

Nah I think shitty skin has hindered me manyfold with dating. I've seen girls all over hottie guys with crap personalities. I think personality is overrated--people just amplify it because it's seemingly more under one's own control than looks are. Also girls will keep around guys who make them laugh--as friends. As for who gets the action it still goes to the studs who treat them badly.

Co-sign the truth.

[Ugly Casanova]

I have a girlfriend and we both have pretty bad acne and it is the best relationship I have ever been with. If that girl does not want you because of your skin that would you really want to be with her, cause that is really fucked up. A girl like that isn't going to be with you when things get hard and as time goes on. Find someone who likes you for exactly what you are.

[The Effendi]

Trust me. girls will talk to you as long as you make them laugh. its the key. they want entertainment. become friends with many girls. then chose one and focus on her to show her who u r

Bingo I agree 100%

[JPizzle]

i think scars are sexy on a guy.
gives them more something

is that u in ur pictures avatar thing? ur so hot

im 16 and never had a GF. i get so shya round women

[~ Dee]

Why don't you date some one with acne?

I wish it was that easy. I am of the opinion that women with acne do not want to be seen with a guy with acne. Usually friends and family will tell them that they can do better than that monster. They would rather hold out for their dream date or accept someone they do not like but their peers do.

I'd date a guy with acne. I would have far less to explain about how neurotic I am then.

[kittykdo]

our society is so focused on how you look to be accepted as pretty, beautiful, handsome, gorgeous, attractive, and etc.

the media portrays that we are 'not ok' because we have acne and it will ruin our lives and we need to hurry and make sure it looks ok so we will be accepted.
love yourself for who you are..
stop looking in mirrors.. find out what you love about yourself and write to yourself about why you like this certain thing.
go out with friends.. laugh once in awhile.. go to a movie..
just do what you can to be positive.

our society tends to reject anyone who doesnt look the same way they do..
it's horrible.
dont listen to people who say you are ugly because of your acne..
be positive.. we never know when we are going to die.. so live it up while you have life and don't let it get you down.
if you focus your whole life on acne you're wasting your time.... i know we want to feel better about ourselves and how we look... but it's really hurting some people..

just smile.

[rian202003]

I agree with kitty,

Although Its sometimes hard to get over acne + scars psychologically,
But Its possible to train your mind to be more positive and that can breed confidence.

gradually it gets better

[needhelp23]

i feel that if it weren't for me getting a girlfriend, and caring about how she thought of my appearance, even though she gets acne too and she likes making out, i would still have acne to the extent that i had before. i would get a new one once every few days, and i could never stop myself from popping/picking at it. it was just so itchy, and the thought of getting that white stuff out made me feel good.

so yeah, basically, i took things seriously and put in more effort than i ever have before just for her. because her ex's had clear skin, and the celebs she crushes on also have clear skin (then again, they have the advantage of being much older, and over with puberty)

[Alec Eiffel]

I've had girlfriends when my skin was worse than it is right now. Good look will probably get you more dating chance however, but in the end just looking good won't be the reason for a couple success.